Getting my little one to go to sleep by herself!

Michelle - posted on 05/01/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Our little girl in 10 months and I think that from the beginning I have rocked her to sleep (for naps and at night). I have really enjoyed it but, she has become increasing dependent on my husband or I to put her to sleep. In fact she almost always ends up in bed with us around 4 am. We are thinking about having another baby soon and I don't want to be stuck trying to put two babies to sleep at the same time. Any suggestions on how to get her to go to bed by herself.

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Michelle - posted on 05/07/2009

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Quoting Jennifer:

Hey Michelle,

I did that with Garrett and he would not sleep unless he was rocking. Consequently he did not sleep through the night until he was 2. Before I had Reagan, I read a book that suggested from the beginning, laying them in their crib to go to sleep even if they cry for 15 minutes or so. It said that things like rocking or a bottle are crutches for babies. If you always give them something like that to get them to sleep, they don't learn how to put themselves to sleep. This book was awesome and 95% of babies are sleeping through the night and going to sleep themselves for naps in a few months.


Hey Jennifer,



Do you remember what the name of the book is? I started trying last night to put her down before she is completely asleep but I can already tell it's going to be a long road to get where I want to be. I tried to not pick her up when I would go back in there and she did pretty good ( that is until daddy came in). I told Brandon to not pick her up but she needed her diaper changed and he ended up rocking her until she was pretty much asleep. I think he is going to have a harder time with making her do it on her own than I am.  He has always gotten up in the middle of the night to get her (such a blessing) but now instead of putting her back to sleep and in her own bed he just brings her to bed with us and at 2 am I'm not in the mood to tell him to take her back (mainly cause she goes right back to sleep and so does he!). Hopefully you'll know the name of that book and it will help! Thanks!

Jennifer - posted on 05/06/2009

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Hey Michelle,



I did that with Garrett and he would not sleep unless he was rocking. Consequently he did not sleep through the night until he was 2. Before I had Reagan, I read a book that suggested from the beginning, laying them in their crib to go to sleep even if they cry for 15 minutes or so. It said that things like rocking or a bottle are crutches for babies. If you always give them something like that to get them to sleep, they don't learn how to put themselves to sleep. This book was awesome and 95% of babies are sleeping through the night and going to sleep themselves for naps in a few months.

Lee-Anne - posted on 05/01/2009

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5 out of 7 of mine were prest feed and it is hard to get them to sleep on there own i think it just takes time and patience she will end up sleeping on her own.my 9 mth old is excatally the some and i found that getting him to sleep in the bouncer then when hes asleep putting him in his cot and that helps alot but hes still up at 5am i hope ive helped and good luck

Michelle - posted on 05/01/2009

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Thanks for responding. I've tried all of those things already. She has a night light in her room and she is on a bed time schedule (with a bath, book, and bottle). She was a breast feed baby until about 2 weeks ago and I think that may be the problem. I understand that she wants to cuddle but even during the day I can't get her to go to sleep by herself and some days I can't even put her down for a nap. She just sleeps in my arms. I've tried to not pick her up out of her bed but once she knows I'm in there she stands up and screams until I pick her up. I just don't know what to do that I haven't already tried.

Jacky - posted on 05/01/2009

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My daughter went through the same thing for awhile. Have you tried playing some soft music in her room? Let her cry for 5 minuites, after that go in and rub her back. Make sure when you do go in, don't pick her up. You'll want her to understand, that she is to sleep in her bed. Try some warm milk as well. Just be careful, that the milk is warm not hot. Try leaving a hall light on. Try giving her a bath before bed, with bedtime bath. It has lavender and chamomile. The lavender and chamomile help babies relax, and help them fall asleep. I didn't discover until recently, that my daughter was afarid of the dark. I hope I have been helpful.

Lee-Anne - posted on 05/01/2009

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have u tryed putting her in a bouncer just to get her to sleep they work wonders and dont stress about her coming in to your bed i think thats just natural for children all mine have done it and still do i have 6 at home with me and on a good night i only end up with 1-2 kids in my bed so dont stress about it good luck hope gose well

Kara - posted on 05/01/2009

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start off doing short rockings for about a week and then start a routine and stick it out because the first few nights will be hard. just let her cry. i did it and dont regret it!

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