natural or c-section??

Belinda - posted on 05/13/2009 ( 44 moms have responded )

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Im due to give birth in 7 weeks im having baby number two and ive been told im having another big baby..baby number 1 was 10pound and my midwife expects this one to be bigger..wonder if i should go natural or opt for a c-section???

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Brooke - posted on 05/17/2009

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Quoting Raydrealle:

I've had 2 c-sections because it's medically necessary for me, but as far as what you should do, you need to do what feels right for you and what is medically safe. In the state of California for the most part our Doctors advise anything over 10lbs her is automatic c-section for the safety of both baby and mommy...but I know there are women who still have natural birth. The recovery for c-section is much longer, but then again a lot of mom's milk it. I was out of the hospital in two days after both of my c-sections and back to normal in about two weeks but the recovery is usually 6-8weeks...I still have minor pulling at the scar site but it's nothing compared to what I normally feel with a period. So again it's your choice but you want to make sure your choice is medically in your best interest.



I wanted to agree with Raydrealle on that "some moms milk it ". I've had a vaginal birth with my daughter and a C-section with my son ( he was breech ) The recovery was a little longer with my son but nothing like alot of women make it. For me, it was the safest option to get my son here. At around 4 weeks it hurt because of the healing but I had no complications and my scar looks great. He's 2 now and my husband and I aren't sure if we'll do VBAC or another section when we have another baby. Do what you have peace about....I don't think either option is wrong or right for everyone. It's what's best for you and your family. Best of luck !

Catherine - posted on 05/17/2009

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Go natural. Your body will not grow a baby that is too big for you. A c-section is major abdominal surgery that carries elevated risks for both you and your baby. It is meant for emergencies only.



Anecdotally I have heard that bigger babies make for easier vaginal deliveries because they are too big to flip into funky positions and gravity really helps you get them out.



Why are you even considering a c-section? Did you have troubel birthing number one? Did someone suggest one? I'd suggest reading The thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Birth and Ina May's Guide to Childbirth and making your own educated decision from there.

Nikki - posted on 05/16/2009

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I had an emergency c-section with my son because he dropped his heart rate and although I've never had natural I didn't think it was that bad. If you listen to what they tell you...no climbing stairs, doing house work, and keep up on your meds you will get through it. I'm sure that a 10+ pound baby would do alot more damage down there...LOL

Barbara Jean - posted on 05/16/2009

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do what is best for you and your baby. don't let others make you feel "cheated" if you cant have a vaginal delivery. I had two c-sections: my first was because my son was over 10 pounds and my second was because my daughter decided to come 5 weeks early and I feel that I did what was best for my body and my health and the health of my children.
Good Luck and do what is best for you! Don't let anyone make you feel cheated or guilty about a c-section!

Natalie - posted on 05/16/2009

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I had a natural birth and would totally aim for that again, my baby was only 7lbs tho but i have been told (obviously don't know if it's true) at my NCT antenatal class that it doesn't matter how big a baby is as all babies head circumference's are all the same and also if the baby is heavier the more gravity pull it had, therefore sometimes can be easier ! only what I'm told tho !!!

Kris - posted on 05/16/2009

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i gave birth to a 9pound boy in april and i went natural but by the end of it i had to have a forceps delivery which ended with my lil boy having a deppressed skull fracture which need surgery, when i havea second child ill be having a c-section.

JOANNE - posted on 05/16/2009

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I LOVED MY C-SECTION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 I WOULD HAVE 100 KIDS THAT WAY! ALSO THE RECOVERY IS A BREEZE

Kristine - posted on 05/16/2009

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My oldest was 8lb12oz and he broke his clavical bone during delivery. If my doctor would have let me carry full term with my other two I would have asked for a C-section. However, my doctor induced two weeks early with all three of my children and they were still all over 8lbs.

Hannah - posted on 05/16/2009

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Have your baby naturally, you already had a big baby, I am sure your body can handle it! Its what we were made for! Go into your labor confident you can do it and Im sure it will all turn out well.

Hannah - posted on 05/16/2009

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just want to say don't be put off c-section by the recovery!!! i had a natural birth with forceps and my recovery was 3 months and couldn't walk for 2 weeks so it depends on the labour!!!!

Ez - posted on 05/15/2009

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Quoting Roxanne:



Quoting Erin:

I gave birth to my 9lb 6oz daughter 3 months ago and she was a vaginal birth. In the end I had a forceps delivery because my labour went on too long (was pushing for 2 1/2 hours).





I went through 19 hours of labour without an epidural before going to theatre for forceps (had to have a spinal block), and my daughter was out in 2 more pushes.





the words 'forcep delivery' just freak me out!  i've been told that they can be harmful to the baby and cause brain damage.  i'm very set on having a natural birth with my first child due in 9 weeks, but i've also been told that it is a bit big.  reading this blog has realy helped me to stand with my decision to have a completely natural birth.  still scared of 'forcep deliveries' though.





I know... forceps sure weren't in my birth plan.  Mind you I had the prerequisite spinal block and felt nothing, not even the urge to push. Since my daughter was born I too have heard some nasty stories of forceps deliveries gone wrong, but in my case (where she was NEARLY crowning) it was by far the safest option. She came out VERY quickly once the forceps were used, and had no problems from the assisted delivery at all. Barely even a mark on her head :) Good luck

Roxanne - posted on 05/15/2009

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Quoting Erin:

I gave birth to my 9lb 6oz daughter 3 months ago and she was a vaginal birth. In the end I had a forceps delivery because my labour went on too long (was pushing for 2 1/2 hours).


I went through 19 hours of labour without an epidural before going to theatre for forceps (had to have a spinal block), and my daughter was out in 2 more pushes.


the words 'forcep delivery' just freak me out!  i've been told that they can be harmful to the baby and cause brain damage.  i'm very set on having a natural birth with my first child due in 9 weeks, but i've also been told that it is a bit big.  reading this blog has realy helped me to stand with my decision to have a completely natural birth.  still scared of 'forcep deliveries' though.

Arwen - posted on 05/15/2009

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I had mine naturally. I don't want a c-section mainly for the fact that they tie your arms down here. My sister-in-law has to have them because her pelvis doesn't open like most people. She talked about after birth pains, and I figured I'd get them, too, but I never did. Recovery is so quick when you go natural. I was up and walking around within a couple of hours. I never really understood what she was talking about till I saw a friend have them. A couple times a minute, over a month after she had the baby, she'd stop breathing from the pain. I think her reaction was a little severe, but it could be me if I had one.

Kristie - posted on 05/15/2009

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I've had a VBAC my first was breech and then my 2 girls natural. I've had 3 children and I liked the natural better. I always thought since I had a c- section with my first I could try natural and if complications then I could have a c-section. my naturals went fine I was talking on the phone with my 2nd preg and the third wasn't bad at all. with the 3rd I did have to stay 72 hours do to the policy of the hospital changing with VBAC's.

Cathleen - posted on 05/15/2009

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Well, I had my daughter naturally (no meds :) ) and I loved it. I was up and about in a day and I was completely healed within a week (my stitches took three weeks to fall out).
My doctor swore that my daughter was going to be 8-9 lbs and she was barely even 6lbs, so you never know. I had a great delivery, six hours, 8 minutes pushing in total, including the 3 minutes with a catheter to empty my bladder.

Cathleen - posted on 05/15/2009

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Quoting Nadia:

I am 27yrs old and Mother to 2 beautiful toddlers, i have always had this debate with close friends and relatives that are having babies, i personally feel go "Natural" it's painfull and you feel as if your body cant take much more, but then out they come so easy and all that pain you felt is all gone, i have not spoken to one woman that can honstly say they remember what that pain felt like. Im no Doctor but from expreience point of view, to really appreciate giving light to the life inside you i still say go Natural, my mom did and so did her's and her's before her......


 



Oh man. I remember exactly what the pain felt like.  I'm not afraid of it though, not anymore.  I thought it would be worse I guess.  The 6 hours I put into it is nothing compared to the ten months before and 8 after

Amany - posted on 05/15/2009

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I have had two c-sections and to tell you the truth if i could go natural i would. my first was really bad i was trying to go natural but my body wasn't opening big enough for my sons head to go through and by the third day of labor the doc said that was it because my blood preshure droped so low and so did my hart rate so they had to nock me out completly. and for the longist time after that the insetion were they cut felt dumn still untell i had my second son three years later. if i was you talk to your doctors and midwife and see what is best for you because if you can go natural, it is the best thing.

Raydrealle - posted on 05/15/2009

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I've had 2 c-sections because it's medically necessary for me, but as far as what you should do, you need to do what feels right for you and what is medically safe. In the state of California for the most part our Doctors advise anything over 10lbs her is automatic c-section for the safety of both baby and mommy...but I know there are women who still have natural birth. The recovery for c-section is much longer, but then again a lot of mom's milk it. I was out of the hospital in two days after both of my c-sections and back to normal in about two weeks but the recovery is usually 6-8weeks...I still have minor pulling at the scar site but it's nothing compared to what I normally feel with a period. So again it's your choice but you want to make sure your choice is medically in your best interest.

Cyndee - posted on 05/15/2009

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I had both, all natural with my son whom is 12 and a c-section with my daughter whom is 2 months,I wanted to go all natural with my daughter again, I was in labor for 22hrs and ended up having an emergency c-section.. her heart rate dropped when the doctor checked me to see how dilated I was he felt the cord around her neck.. so they rushed me into emergency surgery.. I say that everyone is different and our bodies are not alike what may work for one of us might not work for the other.. I think that me personally would go all natural unless somethings happens other wise.. but it is all up to you and what your body wants to do..Just go with the flow..

Megan - posted on 05/15/2009

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did you have a C section with your first. If so, i think i would go natural (i say natural but maybe a bit of what they're offering to make it easier) because i think although its AGONY....i cant remember it now, i do think you miss out on all the skin/skin contact and everything. I dont fully trust the midwives when they estimate the size of babies. They told me i was having a little one and she was 7lbs and my friend that she was having a big one and she was 6.7!



Hope it goes well!

Brianna - posted on 05/15/2009

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Also, the docs swore my son would be at least 9 lbs and he was 7 lbs 4 oz...and this was being 1 week overdue!! The weight they give is just an estimate!! Good luck with whatever you decide :)

Brianna - posted on 05/15/2009

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I had a c-section on April 22 because my cervix would not dilate after nearly 9 hours of labor!!! The pain was so bad after surgery I could not hold or nurse my son for 4 hours- the nurses laid him next to me in my bed, but it wasn't the same. I am still recovering! I can barely take a 10 minute walk before the pain gets unbearable & I have to take some pain meds. It's not fun being unable to cook or even do the lightest of chores. And, I hate relying on my husband or my mother for a ride, since the doctor says I am not cleared to drive yet. I would not recommend one if it can be avoided.

Amie - posted on 05/15/2009

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Oh and just from the perspective of recovery time. I've never had one with any of my 4 kids but all my friends that have had them hated their recovery time since it was so much longer and they were a lot more limited in what they could do.

Amie - posted on 05/15/2009

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I didn't read all the responses, usually do but I've gotten lazy today lol.
I don't understand why people are opting for C-secs so much now or why doctors are letting them either. I know a woman who has given birth to nothing but huge babies. Her smallest being 11lbs, her biggest an oz. shy of 14 lbs. The body can do amazing things. A big baby is no reason to have a c-sec... if he/she gets stuck that's another story but at least try natural and prepare for a section if needed.

Sarah - posted on 05/14/2009

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I have had a vaginal birth with the first (9lbs. 7oz.) and an emergency c-section with my second (10lbs. 3oz). The c-section was only because when my water broke it was not clear, she pooped. I hated my c-section!! Vaginal is so much better, with an epidural of course! The recovery time was horrible, especially when I already had a very busy 2 1/2 year old. Also, the constipation was horrible...for 2 months!! All around vaginal is just better. Good luck

Kimberly - posted on 05/14/2009

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i had a c-section with my son and if we have any other children i will opt for a repeat. my answer for you depends on if your first was natural or not. i would discuss the options with your doctor and midwife and make your decision from there.



GL

Chelsea - posted on 05/14/2009

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my brother was 12lb 1oz, after 18 hours in labour my mum was rushed off for an emergency c-section, she woke up 2 hours after my brother was born and missed giving him his first feed,cuddle etc. when my second brother was due my mum opted for a planned c-section, that way she was awake for the op and was the first to hold him. if it were me i would opt for a planned c section than run the risk of having to have an emergency one and having to be knocked out and missing everything. what ever you decide good luck! :)

User - posted on 05/14/2009

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I had to have a C-Section after 12 hours of labor. I wouldn't reccomend it to anyone. It took soo long to heal, I would have rather spent that time bonding with my new daughter. Also, I was in sooo much pain after, and I tried avoiding taking my pain meds so I could spend more time with her. Also, If you live anywhere that you have to climb stairs... trust me, stairs and c-sections don't mix. And I had an upstairs apt, didn't leave it for over a week.

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I had to have a C section with my frist, and I kinda feel cheated of getting to deliever him and see him being born and all that. When we have another Im going to try to do a vbac. They also told me that mine was going to be 10+ lbs and he was 7 lb 15 oz Good Luck!!!

Mel - posted on 05/14/2009

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if its that big def go c section! but in general i believe in natural births. i had a 6 pound baby and my healing was 3 months and everything never went back to normal on one side, plus i had to take pain killers for months and anti inflammatorys for weeks. definately get a c section you dont want to risk the damage of a natural birth or you may regret it after wards

Emily - posted on 05/14/2009

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I had tiny babies and it was very painful. My friends with bigger babies actually seemed to do a lot better including the one with the 11 lb 2 oz baby. I would try natural and if positioning or emergency requires a Csection you can always get one.

Melissa - posted on 05/14/2009

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I have only had c-section so I don't know what natural birth is like with a big baby I wish you the best of luck

Nadia - posted on 05/14/2009

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I am 27yrs old and Mother to 2 beautiful toddlers, i have always had this debate with close friends and relatives that are having babies, i personally feel go "Natural" it's painfull and you feel as if your body cant take much more, but then out they come so easy and all that pain you felt is all gone, i have not spoken to one woman that can honstly say they remember what that pain felt like. Im no Doctor but from expreience point of view, to really appreciate giving light to the life inside you i still say go Natural, my mom did and so did her's and her's before her......

Ez - posted on 05/14/2009

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I gave birth to my 9lb 6oz daughter 3 months ago and she was a vaginal birth. In the end I had a forceps delivery because my labour went on too long (was pushing for 2 1/2 hours). I'd been monitored closely during the last trimester as the baby was measuring very big (35cm at 28 weeks) and I have a strong family history of large babies (I was 10lb 4oz, brother was 9lb 10oz), and had been told to expect my daughter would be 10 - 11lbs. Scary as she's my first. I had my heart set on a natural birth, despite her size, and people warned me off it. I even had a midwife tell me I wouldn't be able to do it without an epidural, which really got up my nose. In the end I went into it with my options open, and would strongly suggest you do the same :) I always knew a c-section was a possibility, but wanted to try and do it myself first. I went through 19 hours of labour without an epidural before going to theatre for forceps (had to have a spinal block), and my daughter was out in 2 more pushes.If you've already delivered a 10 lb baby successfully there's no reason you can't do it again. As for telling you this one will be bigger - take that with a grain of salt. They were wrong with my daughter, and even with growth scans (of which I had several) done this late in a pregnancy there can be a discrepancy of up to 20%. I say go for it. The c-section is always there as a back up.. Good luck.

Lisa - posted on 05/14/2009

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I found out i had a heart shaped womb before i got pregnant so there was always talk of a c-section. I was devastated when they told me i may not be able to give natural birth but sure enough on my due date i went into labour and 3 hours later he arrived. It was the best thing for me, i really didnt want a c-section, i was a birthing partner for my friend a few years ago and she had a section and i just knew it wasnt for me. I had to give birth in a special room though incase of any problems and i had to have an emergency section.

Brenda - posted on 05/13/2009

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If you can go natural I would go natural i love my baby girl and thats what i had with her. I just loved the pushing and just knowing that i was going to be able to hold her soon. As one other person has told you just ask your midwife or dr what they think is best. They usually know whats best.

Megan - posted on 05/13/2009

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I had a c-section with my first and will have another with my second. My mom gave birth to me with no epidural and I was 10 lbs 11 oz!!!! So it's possible for sure, but it hurts A LOT!!! My mom never had any other kids because of it LOL!!!

Melissa - posted on 05/13/2009

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I have had 2 natural (fully-natural) births. They werent 10 lbs but they were close and I left the hospital 24 hours after baby one and 16 hours after baby 2. I bounced back really quickly, but everybody is different. I agree with the people that say listen to you midwife or Doctor, if they feel that it would be better for you to have a c-section than listen to them,. They know your body and your situation better than any of us, and listen to your body because you know your body better than anyone else! Good luck and I hope that you have a very healthy baby!

Kristin - posted on 05/13/2009

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My friend is a Labor and Delivery nurse and shes always told me that C-Sections are there for emergencies. Id plan on vaginal and let your doctor call the shots as the labor progresses and decide on what is safest for you and your baby :)

Jamie - posted on 05/13/2009

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Melissa, that happened to my son, all the fluid didnt get squeezed out and the first 4 hours they had to keep sucking fluid from his lungs. It was scary for me because no one told me that could happen. I was knocked out with my first so dont know if she had the same problem. Honestly, because of the risk of a c-section and recovery, I dont want anymore kids. I think if I was able to do vaginal I would have a couple more.

Melissa - posted on 05/13/2009

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I would say natural just because it is healthier for the baby. Sometimes when a baby is born C-section the fluid isn't squeezed out of their lungs and they could get ill from that. My mid-wife would never suggest a c-section unless a child is not in the right position. Usually the body can widen for the baby no matter what the size. I have had two natural births and to me c-section births come with lots of complications. My cousin got an infection where they had taken the baby and had to drain it. But of course every birth and every child is different, I say do what you feel comfortable with!

Jamie - posted on 05/13/2009

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I had to have 2 c-sections, honestly, I wish I could go vaginal. I think my body would have bounced back faster. Recovery would have been easier. I would have been able to bond more with my baby if I didnt have to be careful of bumping my incision. I would have been able to get around more. But due to a narrow pelvis I will always have to have c-sections, ugh.

Hannah - posted on 05/13/2009

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Girl if it is bigger than 10 pounds...you have more nerve than me!! The thought of natural would have not even crossed my mind...ha~ha I am a big chicken when it comes to giving birth. The first one scared me and I never did it again = )

Sarah - posted on 05/13/2009

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i wanted natural with my eldest and ended up with a c-section after 18 hours of labour, had another c-section with my youngest as drs thought it was safer for both of us. My advice is to ask your midwife/dr their opinion and follow your heart. good luck

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