Question for moms with breastfed babies.... help

Brittany - posted on 05/04/2009 ( 19 moms have responded )

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My 11 day old baby seems to comfort eat. I'm breastfeeding and she'll eat a meal but if she's tired or bored about 10 minutes later, she'll scream or root for my breast if i'm holding her. Even though I'm sure she's ate enough I'm afraid of underfeeding her so I always give in. I don't want to be a bad mom. But the last couple days she's been eating until she throws it all up and then we have to start over. The day before yesterday, she did it once and yesterday evening she did it twice within a couple hours. It's not just regular spit-up, it's projectile. I'm pretty sure this is what she's doing.



If I lay her on my chest, she will wiggle her way to nipple. She finds it on her own every time. She started this at about 7 days, is this normal? One day, she was laying next to me a little while after she at ate, I hadn't put my shirt back on, and she started staring at my nipple and grabbing it with her hand. Then, she started lifting her head up and pulling at my boob until she had my nipple in her mouth. She didn't suck then, she just had her mouth open rubbing my nipple around it moving her head back and forth. It seems to me like she's bored and playing, but I didn't think she should have that good of head control so young.



Is this what people mean when they say that their baby used them as a pacifier? I try to give her the pacifier instead of the boob, but if i'm around she usually will spit it right out. My fiance says she doesn't do that when I'm out of the room.

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Rebecca - posted on 05/07/2009

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my son also spit up a lot. he gained weight very fast so i didn't have any concerns about anything and the dr said everything was fine if his weight was good. after breastfeeding for 3 months(i had to go back to work when my son was 3 weeks old and couldn't leave work anymore for feedings:()we had to start to change to formula and that is when we had the most sever problem. he would throw up constantly! i couldn't go out in public becuase he would throw up everywhere! when he was 9 months old and fed up with not finding a solution we started to switch him to whole milk which the dr said may help,we started with an oz here and there and within a week he was on it fully and the throwing up stopped. i have come to the conclusion he was also comfort feeding and will learn for our next child,due in 2 months:) we did not use a pacifier at all,i'm aainst them and my fiance is for them so it was a struggle but the thought of having a 4 year old running around with that in their mouth was disturbing for me and i didn't want the struggle of trying to break the cycle of use,so we opted for none. it can be a hard choice but i think it made our bonding better. when he was around 6 months and on formula i learned not to give in to more food so he could fall asleep with it in his mouth and then the second it was taken out he would be awake. i would lay him on my arm belly down and i would rub his back and he would fall asleep like that. i also don't suggest with getting frustrated and leaving the bottle in the crib or proping it for him to sleep with so you can get some sleep...it promotes tooth decay when they get older if it's the only way they know how to sooth. i found that when i was back to work and still getting up in the night to feed it was a good opportunity for some one on one time as my fiance took the parental leave and was always home so i would lay on the couch with our son with my shirt off and nurse him and when he was done put the boob back and sleep with him there on my chest. they really do love the skin to skin and it does hellp the bonding. try to pump when you can but try not to pump when the baby wouldnt normally eat as this will promote over production and may cause a spraying effect in the baby's mouth.good luck and keep up the great work with breastfeeding:)

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I don't have time to check to see what everyone else said to offer you advice, but I'd like to share: when my little guy was that young and threw stuff up, my mom told me to wait for a little bit for his stomach to settle before offering him food again. Of course, if it's been hours, feed her! But I've found that feeding too much too often makes his stomach send it back up. Right now she's young enough that her frequent eating is good for building your milk supply, so let her eat at least every couple hours if that's what she wants. Good luck!

Rebecca - posted on 05/07/2009

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Quoting Shandy:



Quoting Brittany:

I've started pumping my milk so that I can monitor how much she's eating more. She was eating 2 oz at a time, today she drank a 3 oz bottle.






Just don't stop pumping, please!! I done the same thing you are doing, then stopped pumping. Now my milk is just about gone! :0(    I just can't seem to ge it back either.






there are pills out on the market that will increase yuor supply. go to the dr as soon as you notice a decline in supply and your baby is still hungry. they can perscribe it to you:)

Shandy - posted on 05/07/2009

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Quoting Brittany:

I've started pumping my milk so that I can monitor how much she's eating more. She was eating 2 oz at a time, today she drank a 3 oz bottle.



Just don't stop pumping, please!! I done the same thing you are doing, then stopped pumping. Now my milk is just about gone! :0(    I just can't seem to ge it back either.

Amanda - posted on 05/07/2009

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my son did the same thing, he had reflux.... u may want to get her checked for that

Becky - posted on 05/07/2009

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My son did this and there is a name for it. It is called "snack and nap", They want to suck to get comfort. I was anti pacifier because I heard it could cause nipple confusion but after feeding my son every hour on the hour for several weeks straight (even through the night) and then getting sick but still acting starving. I called the lactation specialist (at 3am) and they told me to give him a pacifier. Sure enough, I got sleep, he got sleep, and he still breastfed until he was 7 mths.

Anastasia - posted on 05/07/2009

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since shes still a little bub let her drink whenever she wants. shes drinking so much because shes setting up your breastmilk supply for later, shes throwing back up what her stomach cant hold. its totally normal and will settle down at 1-2 months usually.

being almost 2 weeks, shes probably having a growth spurt.
and she can smell you're milk and its making her want it because its their (it will b a couple of weeks b4 she gets used to it). if this gives you any trouble at night, then your giving her to your partner to settle, it helped us heaps.

Sarah - posted on 05/04/2009

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Congratulations on your little girl! Very exciting. I agree, definitely sounds like comfort feeding. As for the throwing up, my son used to throw up after almost every feeding, and not just a little spit up. He seemed to throw up everything he had eaten, and would soak not just burp cloths, but receiving blankets. His Dr. said it wasn't reflux, and I messed with my diet for two months, and nothing seemed to make a difference. But, he somehow put on weight, and grew out of the problem. So ultimately, def. talk to your Dr., and don't worry as long as the baby is gaining weight and growing :)

Dayna - posted on 05/04/2009

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I definitely agree with the other posts. Comfort feeding is completely normal and there is no need to limit her. My son was breast feeding constantly for the first two or three weeks and then it let up significantly. At around three weeks he was eating about every 2hrs (sometimes more frequently) and then around 8 weeks he was spread out to every 3hrs. In the first couple weeks your milk is much lower in fat as it turns into more mature milk so infants have to feed more frequently to feel satisfied. Don't worry she will definitely be on a better routine soon.

As for the throwing up definitely check with your doctor!

Michelle - posted on 05/04/2009

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she's either nursing for comfort.. the vomiting could be from reflux or she may be allergic to something you are eating.

Jessica - posted on 05/04/2009

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first of all congradulations on making the best choice for you and ur baby by choosing to breastfeed

speaking as a mother who breastfeed her child

at that age... let her eat

u can not and will not spoil a baby at that age... right now she needs all the good antibodys that that breastmilk is giving her

my son wouldnt take a paci either when i was in the room

a baby knows when mom is near by ur smell

we know were our food comes from why sould she be any differnet

Patty - posted on 05/04/2009

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My mid wives told me a baby will eat what they need to no more and no less so for my first i breast fed what felt like all the time. your daughter is still learning what is going on, i wouldn't worry i were you but if you think there is somthing wrong i would talk the dr about.
gl

Cassie - posted on 05/04/2009

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Because she is so young, I would allow her to nurse as much as she needs!! It will be wonderful bonding time for you and her. Also, while nursing, give her as much skin to skin contact with you!! It will help her to thrive and grow!!! Nurse as often as you can because it all goes by too quickly!! :)

Brittany - posted on 05/04/2009

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I've started pumping my milk so that I can monitor how much she's eating more. She was eating 2 oz at a time, today she drank a 3 oz bottle.

Brittany - posted on 05/04/2009

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Quoting Amie:

Ya it's comfort eating, my one month old did the same thing and only in the last week is accepting a soother. If yours is like mine too she'll only take it when she's tired and once she's asleep spit it out. I'm glad for this, I'm hoping she's like my other 3 and will get rid of it on her own too in a few months.



Yes, i bought a couple different kinds of pacifiers just in case even though i really didn't want to use them. I ended up having to buy the soothie ones too because those are the ones she likes (from the hospital). She only takes it if she's going to sleep but fighting it and then she spits it out really quick. I've noticed she does suck her thumb though which is so cute cause it's so little and her mouth is so big.

Amie - posted on 05/04/2009

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Ya it's comfort eating, my one month old did the same thing and only in the last week is accepting a soother. If yours is like mine too she'll only take it when she's tired and once she's asleep spit it out. I'm glad for this, I'm hoping she's like my other 3 and will get rid of it on her own too in a few months.

Alison - posted on 05/04/2009

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hey it sounds like comfort eating i'm breast feeding my daughter 14wks, and she goes through stages where she feeds on demand and then wants fed even more every 30 mins or so it is hard work but it maybe the case of a growth spirt.... the throwing up maybe due to wind on belly try a bit of gripe water which may help soothe if not check with the doctor for reflux but if she gains weight it shudn't be anything to worry about just feed at short intervals and keep trying a dummie hope this helps

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Nursing for comfort is totally normal. My son is almost 8 months, and still does it sometimes, but it is especially common in the first few weeks when they really don't know any other way to soothe themselves and they want lots of attention from mom. My son still does not take a pacifier if I'm in the room.

However, I would be concerned about the throwing up. Some throwing up is normal, but if it is happening a lot, you should have your baby checked for reflux. The thing about comfort nursing is that they can control how much milk they get, so she really shouldn't be overeating to the point of throwing up.

Nancy Louise - posted on 05/04/2009

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It does sound like a comfort thing for her, i breastfed my daughter on demand but she was hardly ever sick. If she puts weight on steadly then she should be healthy but cheack in with your doc if your worried. hope you get into a routine soon. :-)

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