Single Mom looking for single mom friends.

Ashley - posted on 11/01/2013 ( 82 moms have responded )

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Hi, I'm Ashley and I'm new to this site, I am a completely single mom with a 2 year daughter Kaylee.I really don't have any friends because they all just want to party, I'm a young single mother I am 22 years old.And going threw a rough spot with my daughters father that hasn't see her In over a year and I take him for support and now wants to see her. Im just so confused and stuck and don't know what to do I am have so many emotions that I have never dealt with before and it over welming and I have no friends literally.:(

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Briezhette - posted on 11/03/2013

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In my opinion, you should always allow the other parent visitation rights unless the other parent could be potentially harmful in anyway to your child. Put it to you this way, it would be disrespecting your child if you took away your child's right to see her father. If your child found out that they had the chance to have a relationship with her father, she may resent you. I am only speaking from my own experience with the same situation. You will still get child support if he has visitation rights. I say, come to a scheduled agreement and sign it in front of a lawyer and if he breaks the agreement then you can reevaluate the situation. I really hope this helps, and please remember I mean this to sound as kind as possible and I am not putting down on you or the situation in anyway. I just think parents need to think about these type of situations from every possible way that their child will take their decision.

Cutemommy - posted on 11/01/2013

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You can still get child support and limit the time he sees her as long as you feel comfortable. I think it is important for a girl to have her father but either way I'm not single but I did go through hell with my husband even separated for a long while so I know the feeling of being alone young with a baby. I was 21 when I got pregnant and 22 @ her birth I don't say I lost friends I just consider it losing people that never gave AF About me it gets better it really does. The day she was born you were born into a mother andalways keep your head up. I pop on here once in a while if you ever need advice I don't mind I'm 25 now and maybe could tell you about what I went through you would pry not feel so bad lol

Tricia - posted on 12/02/2014

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hi. im tricia and im 18 years old & a single mom to a 7 1/2 month old. his sperm donor left me at 8 weeks pregnant. im also looking for friends since my friends are all in college.

Christina - posted on 12/30/2014

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Hey girls! My name is Christina😄 I'm 18 years old and have a 1 year old name Mason. When Mason was 3 months old his father snapped his arm in half, broke one of his ribs and threw him in the crib and caused brain bleeding. I now have mason all to my self for now but in next week I have court! I'm just so stressed out! And reading all our comments, just makes me wanna say that we all got to stick together! Seriously! We are stronger then we think! U are all wonderful people for standing by ur babies sides:) I'm 100% here for ALL of you! Stay strong😊

Henry - posted on 12/29/2014

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I'll be your friend. You'll be OK. Try prayer it really helps remember all answers to life are in the Bible don't mean to sound so holy Roly but I've been thier and it's hard not having any friends or not really knowing what to do in life ,just try praying about it and maybe letting him see his daughter we all make mistakes in life. Wish you and your family the best and god bless y'all :-)

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Henry - posted on 01/01/2015

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Pray if you think it isn't going to work then do wat you have to do wish you the best

Henry - posted on 12/29/2014

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I wish the best for all you mothers. God bless all of your families and friends .don't give up. :-)

Heather - posted on 12/29/2014

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hi i am not a single mom yet but I am thinking about leaving my boyfriend of 7 yrs. I just feel like we are not the same people we have changed so much and other stuff has made me to this point I have a 5yrold and a 3 yr old. my question i show did ya'll do it? get the courage to leave and be on your own. I would be completely starting over with no family to move in with.

Jaja - posted on 12/11/2014

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Hi all,

i am a single mom too since 6 months. i left my sons father when my son was 2 months. he would verbally abuse me almost all of our 2 yrs and he also choked me when i was pregnant and banged my head on cement wall 3 wks after i gave birth,

my email add is skittlz1300@yahoo.com

its nice to have this group where we could share and get encouragement.
my son is 8 months now and though its sad and lonely, he is in a better position.

Mahlodi Millicent - posted on 11/27/2014

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hi single mom s am so new to this side ,am realy hoping to find new friends whom I will be able to interact with am Millicent ,I am a mom of a four year old boy

User - posted on 11/22/2014

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yea my ex never wanted to do a thing through court and would ask me personally which he was not allowed to. They intimidate you in person even though it may seem friendly. And not being afraid is easier said then done. If he wants time with the child he needs to prove it and paying less is a no no. I let simon get to me and he has no right.He abused me and cheated on me turned me into nervous wreck. No no no!!!!Keep your Power.Power Power!!!! Must listen to these words myself.

Christie - posted on 10/23/2014

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Hey! I feel your frustration. My daughter's father hasn't seen her in over 2 years and he took me to court to have visitation because he wanted to pay less child support. It's bs! Make sure you do everything through the courts and don't give in. They will hold her best interest in whatever decision they make. You got this! If you need anything don't hesitate to email me. Crales11@gmail.com

Akeia - posted on 10/22/2014

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Hi,I'm new to this site also.I am Akeila,my email address is akeelieleslie @gmail.com

Iyah - posted on 10/20/2014

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Hi im new to this site as well and new to being a single mom.. Im happy that atleast theres a community like this where we can all connect. Ashley, I am in the same boat as you and Im 26. If you want to talk you can message me at iiyahkinz@hotmail.com.. stay strong

Laura - posted on 10/17/2014

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Been there done that!
I am now 30 and my son is 8 years old.
I am a single mom to an 8 year old and its going to get better.
I don't have many friends as well, I have my boyfriend now but when you go through hard times you really know who is really your friend and who is not. Sadly if it wasn't for him I would still be alone now. If you are close to your family, in all honesty that is who you really have and sometimes even for a distance is better than not having them at all.

As for the father not being there, my son doesn't know his and well I let the courts take care of that. Stop hoping he will snap out of it, if it happens great if he doesn't don't worry. You girls have each other and trust me there is probably someone out there that can give you and your daughter much more happiness. I know that first hand.

First things first, make sure you and your daughter are good. A roof over your head, work, health, food. religion (if you need it).


In the end everything will fall into place and it will all be worth the sweat and tears.

Crystal - posted on 09/21/2014

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ik how you feel im 23 and have a son who is going to be 3 i dont have any friends b.c all they want to do is party too so i just stay to myself and i hate not haveing people i can talk to.

Kimberly De Leon - posted on 08/19/2014

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Hello Ashley

My name is Kimberly. I'm from Tx & have a common law marriage, but I have plenty of friends that were pregnant when I wasn't. To me it didn't bother me, they would bring there kids anywhere & everywhere we hung out. When their other friends would always tell them to "find a babysitter so we can go out!" But we can talk anytime (:

Dauda - posted on 07/22/2014

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am ready to be your ever best friend trust me and email me on greatness866@yahoo.com

Dauda - posted on 07/22/2014

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am ready to be you best ever friend and if you willing to accept .. and can email me on greatness866@yahoo.com

Reginald - posted on 06/19/2014

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Go into prayers,for as far as he comes back looking for his daughter,he still have his love for the family.But want thing i must advice you,if you do not love him,free him and let him stay alone,be more concentrated to train up your child in a Godly way..

Ryanne - posted on 05/08/2014

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I know how it feels to be alone raising child. It can be rough having no friend support. That's why I became a distributor for IT-WORKS. I started in an effort to get extra income but little did I know it gave me a support system I never thought possible. We're like a family and if I need to talk to someone I have so many people to go to. I would recommend it to anyone who's feeling alone and just needs a change. If you're interested in becoming a part of the team we're happy to have you and anyone for that matter :) Keep your head up!

Azalea - posted on 05/06/2014

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I'm in the same boat, I don't have any friends. I guess my situations different.

I'm 21 and a half and my son is 2 and a half. Except I fully support my son, and child support hasn't been settled in 2 years. His father wants no part in our life, he actually started his own after we ended things. Which hurt really bad. I might go back to therapy.

Honestly once you have a child everything changes, there's always room for new friends. People have encouraged me to go to mommy and me classes. I'll be starting college in the summer and my son starts daycare in summer as well and throughout the year.

Do whatever you can to focus on yourself and what's best for your child. Best of luck. Remember there are others in your situation, you are not alone.

I have also had overwhelming emotions and it's hard to talk to others about it but even talking to parents or counselors could help.

Stay strong, and happy early Mother's Day (:

Danyelle - posted on 05/01/2014

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Hey Tyesha, when a child enters that terrible twos stage its not fun at all. their going to do whatever comes to their mind to do but as you being a parent you have to be consistent. Say what you mean and mean exactly what you say. I have two children and sometimes while im disciplining them, im serious but the looks they give me makes me want to laugh., therefore I turn my head or take a deep breathe so they wont see how im feeling inside. Never let you child see you laugh while disciplining because then hell think its ok to do. be strong and consistent and things will work out.
yes even with a terrible two.

Danyelle - posted on 05/01/2014

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Hey my advice for you is don't fall for him. leave him alone. If he wants to see his daughter allow it. truth, its his daughter I know over a year but still she's his as well and that's the right thing to do. as far as friends their nothing but a distraction. I don't have many friend number one because I changed my life style I got saved meaning I surrendered my will to the Lords and told him here's my life do as you please. I'm a single mom of two with a baby daddy(that's what I call him) because that's what he is, who doesn't do anything for them. I've been doing well needless to say without him. if God trust you to have a baby he trusts you to take care of it. As far as conversation with my children's dad we only talk about the children when he calls but most of the time he just speaks directly with him. sad situation but that's how it is. I'm making it without him taking care of myself and children as well and if you ever see me you would believe I have a struggle. Because I don't allow what he doesn't do to bring me down and so can you!!! Be encouraged.

Helon - posted on 04/24/2014

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Hi, I'm helon and I'm new to this site, I am a completely single mom with a 6 year daughter betsy and a 5 year old daughter olivia .I really don't have any friends now i am a single stay at home mum, 33years old.And going thru a rough spot with my daughters as there being naughty and getting stressed as hardly get time out on my own and the father of the children left me not sure where he is not that i care just love to get to know other mums for a laugh chat chill out support and advice and maybe help any 1 interested let me know thanks

Tyesha - posted on 04/15/2014

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My name is Tye and my son Tristan is entering terrible twos as of May 16 I'm in south jersey I'm 23 years old btw. My best friend has no kids therefore doesn't understand what I go through

Burlesquefrenchfurniture - posted on 04/07/2014

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Hey, Im new on this site also! Im 32 years old with an 11 year old daughter from another marriage... So have been single mum for 10 years, but have had a partner for 6 years not my daughter's daddy... Im def up for making new mommy friends.... I have my own business... i know a lot of people but they arent true friends just acquaintances... im also TTC -(Trying to conceive) i had a miscarriage 2 months ago, plus my partner had a heart attack... Ive had a really nasty 2 years or so & need girl time with woman on the same page as me... PS: Im starting to have nausea as i write this... WOW maybe its a sign of pregnancy... so how does this all work meeting new mom friends? who wants to join me on this journey... Im from Perth WA... who else is???

Burlesquefrenchfurniture - posted on 04/07/2014

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Hey, Im new on this site also! Im 32 years old with an 11 year old daughter from another marriage... So have been single mum for 10 years, but have had a partner for 6 years not my daughter's daddy... Im def up for making new mommy friends.... I have my own business... i know a lot of people but they arent true friends just acquaintances... im also TTC -(Trying to conceive) i had a miscarriage 2 months ago, plus my partner had a heart attack... Ive had a really nasty 2 years or so & need girl time with woman on the same page as me... PS: Im starting to have nausea as i write this... WOW maybe its a sign of pregnancy... so how does this all work meeting new mom friends? who wants to join me on this journey... Im from Perth WA... who else is???

Priscilla - posted on 04/03/2014

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Hey Ashley
I am Priscilla I am also 22 single mom of a 9 month old son. I also have no friends and no family that live in the same state as me. I am very alone and it is so hard. Who can blame us for being emotional we are in a tough situation and yet we can't just roll over and play dead. I really need friends or a friend.

Dea - posted on 03/24/2014

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Hey. Im also new to this site. I am 31 and I have a 2,5 year old son. Me and his father are having an on and off something (can't call it a relationship cause he is seeing bunch of other women). And i also have so many emotions that i have problem handeling.
Hope i can help.

Treasure S - posted on 03/09/2014

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Hi im about to be a new mom in about 22 more days and would love to have more mom friends hmu....

Rhea - posted on 03/09/2014

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I'm a single mom of 3 ages 14, 10 & 5 ( my 5 year old is also named Kaylee:) I would love to have some friends to talk with, encourage one another, etc. I was married 12 years and I had to leave for survival basically. I'm here and new to the site too. Would love to chat anytime :)

Caroline - posted on 02/26/2014

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I guess we aren't the only ones, huh? :)
Hi, I'm Carol and I'm 20 years old. I'm a bit behind in terms of this parenting thing because I'm still pregnant with my first but so far I feel like we're on the same boat.
Ever since I told my friends about my baby (I already loveeeee this little one to death), they've been avoiding me as if pregnancy is contagious. It breaks my heart, and it gets me lonely. I miss talking to people my age and relating with other people -- especially during the times I'm overwhelmed or overjoyed (spasms of happiness hit me whenever I think of my little one) or confused.

Ashley, all what I can say is that, if the father is willing to show his support once in a while and isn't a bad role model for your daughter, then why not? I'm sure your daughter wouldn't mind -- ask her if she wants to see her daddy. Because I mean, his visits are for her, isn't it?
But again, you're the mother and you know your daughter and what is best for her. Do what you feel is right, we're just here to support and give advice but not tell you what to do.
If you ever need someone to talk to, just message me and I'll be more than happy to chat! :)

Pamela - posted on 02/20/2014

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Hi Ashley u should not be afraid of this situation because everything plans with a plan so Just know God has a plan for u and ur lovly Kaylee just committee her to God and He will do everything for u Just like the Bible Says in Je

Jennifer - posted on 01/20/2014

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Im looking for any cougars to chat with just message me info if you are interested??

Samantha Lane - posted on 01/18/2014

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I have two sons also I was in hospital one month dka they had to put iv line in leg I got a clot from it plus leg swelled up now foot still bothers me I limp

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Hi I'm Sofia from Sweden. I'm a single mom with two sons, one will be 5 next week and the other 20 months old. I'm 19 living at home with my parents and I'm finishing High School in the summer. I'm also disabled, I've been a T1 paraplegic since I was 5 which means I'm paralyzed from the chest down and I use a wheelchair full time. I'd like to hear how other single moms manage their situation.

Lizl - posted on 12/23/2013

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Hi, Im newly single and must admit, although I know there will be hard, at the moment I'm thoroughly relieved to be alone with me kids. Our divorce went through end Nov, and although its bad for the kids to not be with both parents during Christmas, its so nice to have peace in the house. I must admit in my current state of mind, I do think its better to raise kids alone then to raise them in a bad marriage or relationship. Do you work during the day, or have at least some help with your daughter? 22months is such a cute age, but also really a hand full if you're on your own.

Juliecobb34 - posted on 12/16/2013

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Hey Ashley , I am Julie . I raised 4 kids alone . Now entering empty nest syndrome . It was so hard for me back then having a social life .. I had 4 kids by your age . I used to cry a lot . Daddy was never there or help with money . I feel like babysitters raised my kids so i could work 2 jobs . Now that i look back the heart ache was worth it . My kids r all amazing now . We had some really rough times but it made us stronger as a family . I used to and still do call them my TEAM . You do need to find other single moms to do hings with . Even if u just get the kids together and have coffee . You now have a friend here . :) There r groups out there just 4 single moms i just didnt have time cause of work . You will make it threw this i promise , Have a great night and i will check ur posts , Your new friend , Julie Email juliecobb34@Gmail.com

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HEY , I'M A SINGLE MOM TOO BUT I DON'T HAVE ANY CONTACT WITH THE SPERM DONOR , SO YEAH I HOPE THINGS GET BETTER FOR YOU HAVE YOU TIRED GOING TO CHURCH OR DOING MOMMY & ME CLASSES WITH YOUR DAUGHTER ?

Tiffany Lynn - posted on 12/06/2013

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Hey Ashley, I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I have been a single mom since I was 17. My oldest is now 18 and my youngest is 11.(I have two children) Both of their father's chose to leave the situation before my babies were born. To date my children still haven't met their fathers. I got no financial support from one and very little from the other(only because the state garnished his wages) It is a very long and lonely road full of many confusing emotions, However I am very thankful for my two beautiful babies. I love those kids more than my own life. Even though the road has been tough as a single mom it has also been very rewarding. Hang in there sweetie, even though there are bad moments, the wonderful moments with your sweet baby girl will make it all worth it. And remember you aren't alone out here, when you start to feel that way just know that all of us single moms are here for ya! : )

Christa - posted on 11/24/2013

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I am a single mom with a son that is 10 years old. His father has been in and out of his life and recently out. which is what he should be if he can't be there fully. I have been threw the emotion and heart ache for my son since he was 1 year old. I havnt got support since last december! (court ordered) It really sucks! But please know you can come to me for anything,. God only gives you what you can handle is how i see it. Our kids are our top priority! We can do it and are already!

Shanny Mc - posted on 11/17/2013

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It ok my dare always remeber u have one friend that will never leave ur side for nothing and thats god u just pray to him and he will show u ur way u can have me as ur friend we can chat and share each other promble ok i am a single mom to to my un born child different problem my is my boyfrien is in jail but i does go and look for him i no god is good cause he helping me amd he will help u to

Sana - posted on 11/15/2013

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so wt u want , ashley , u want , boyfriend , or good friend , if u want friend , send me ur own mobile no , at info4arifhussain65@gmail.com. plz dnt taje tension , i m saba ur friend

Sana - posted on 11/15/2013

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so wt u want , ashley , u want , boyfriend , or good friend , if u want friend , send me ur own mobile no , at info4arifhussain65@gmail.com. plz dnt taje tension , i m saba ur friend

Christy - posted on 11/06/2013

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I can offer past experience on my situation.. I was a single mom at 17. The father didn't want much to do with our daughter unless we were going to be together. (he was unfaithful many times, so we were broke up-many times) Getting child support from him wasn't an easy task and trying to get him involved in her life in a consistant mannor was worse!! He would come around every now and then, at his convience... It really messed her up because she now struggles with trusting men- looking for a father figure in all the wrong men- and the list goes on...
My advise to you- tell him that if he is really serious about being involved in her life, then he needs to abide by the parenting guidelines in your state... you can look them up online... If he doesn't comply, then simply tell him that he can't come in and out of her life when it is convient for him. It will have lasting effects on her whole life.
My daughter is now 23 years old and does NOT have a relationship with her father, because of him waiting until she was 18, to try and establish a real relationship... but its too late- the damage is done.... He wasn't there when she needed a daddy, so she refuses to be there for him when he is aging and feels like being a dad...
I wish you the best of luck.. It is the worst situation to be in.. I rememeber.. It's easy to find yourslef desperate for a break and wanting him to take her for the weekend-- but please try not to, unless he is going to do this every other weekend until she is of age... I can give you my daughters email, if you want to see your daughter's future if he isn't consistant....

Megan - posted on 11/05/2013

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All my freinds are the same going out all the time a don't ever get a break from my wee girl atall now so it can be hard am always exhausted going out the last thing on my mind

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