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Struggling with accepting not being able to afford doing IVF again!!

Shannon - posted on 10/15/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I found out 4 years ago that I am infertile and am not producing anymore eggs. My husband, of almost 7 years now, and I got an egg donor and against all odds got pregnant. I had a very rough pregnancy because of high blood pressure, but was able to deliver naturally only a month early to a healthy baby boy. Well, that was Jan of 2007 and since then we have thawed the remaining 3 embryos, but only one made the thaw and it did not take. I would LOVE to do the donor thing again, but the money is just not there. I would like to borrow, but my husband only likes to pay cash for things(which is usually a good thing) and since we don't have it, the IVF is out. It has been almost 8 months since our last try and I am still crying at almost every pregnant mom with other kids. I have been to my OBGYN to talk about if there is a possibility that I might have some eggs, but my hormone levels support the same as before....no eggs. My friends are all getting pregnant again and again naturally and here I sit with money being our only issue.....SUX!! I cry every time people ask me when we are having another one, or are we going to try again. Is there ANYONE out there struggling with this also? Why does money ALWAYS dictate our lives?

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Challa - posted on 04/02/2011

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I can understand where you are coming from I was born with a rare disease called Classic Galactosemia. And yes I just recently had a baby. With out using any infertility treatments. But at the time I got pregnant I was not trying to get pregnant. I could not believe that I was pregnant when the doctors told me I was pregnant. I wish that there was something I could do to help you. my heart dose go out to you. I have a strong belief in god and I hope that if you are not already well that you read the bible. I know that I will be praying for you.

Christie - posted on 04/29/2010

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I understand where you are coming from...My husband and I have been trying to conceive for 2 yr now. We have gone through 3 unsuccessful IUI's due to unexplained infertility. Our next step was Invitro which my insurance does not cover. Once we started to panic about the amount of money it would cost my Dr. mentioned a clinical study they where running. So we where so happy I figured great, even if I didn't get pregnant from the study it still would save us money since I figured that we would be able to freeze some embryo's. Well guess what? We didn't get pregnant and none of my embryos made it to the freezing stages. So here we are back to square one completely stressed out that we need to find a way to come up with the money to pay for Invitro out of pocket. It just doesnt seem fair that besides being stressed out that we can't get pregnant we have to be stressed about the money we need to some how magically find. I cry everyday! If anyone knows a way to get the Invitro covered please let us know. I started to look into purchasing outside insurance for it ( in Connecticut it is covered under the mandate but my employer is self insured so they don't have to follow the mandate) but I can't find insurance that will cover infertilty issues if they are pre existing. If anyone knows a loop hole please fill me in. Thanks for listening to me vent!

T - posted on 12/14/2009

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Have you thought about taking part in a clincal trial at a nearby teaching hosp/center for the IVF part of it? Usually everything is covered when doing it this way. Good luck.

Jill - posted on 11/17/2009

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I am sorry it is so hard for you. How much does a donor egg cost? I have found a few insurance compnaies to cover the cost of IVF. Maybe you could try them.

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