How do I tell people at work my baby was stillborn?

Angel - posted on 11/05/2012

You cant darling I lost my boy at 37 weeks stillborn I gave birth to him naturally without a caesarean.When my boy was born he weighed 9 pound 4 ounces he was healthy he passed away dued to an eruption of my placenta. I went back to work 3 months later i will never get over the loss of my son and i miss him dearly, i wish he was here with me but hes not i miss my son so much and will continue to love him, think about him birthdays christmas etc wen these holidays come and my son will be apart of it, Im just saying people can say be strong but i will never forget i will always remember the pain and agony and whatever people say hes with christ bla bla bla the truth is he died inside me i will never forget i buried him and know his resting place, and I love him forever and ever .

Kashanna - posted on 08/09/2011

So Sorry for your loss. I lost my Son Joshua 10th January, I have returned to work and also struggling with Anxiety. I was a receptionist at a medical centre and have not been able to return to the front counter. I now do "back office" work as I cant face the public and the "hows your baby going question" I find this a gentle step to returning to the world. Before returning the boss sat down all staff and gave them the details. Iam really lucky I had great employers. The only other option is a new start at a new work place, I also worried what do you say when they say why did you leave your previous work place? and when they want to get to know you "how many kids do you have?' Cant handle these questions yet??? Good Luck and just be gentle and kind 2 yourself!

Angela - posted on 07/31/2011

I have had two stillbirths, my daughter Heaven at 35 weeks gestation in 2006, and my son Marcos at 28 weeks gestation in 2007. It was hard answering all of the questions and at times I just had to say I really didn't feel like discussing it at that moment. Although I was surprised to hear from so many women that they had experienced the same thing. You will have people say some crazy things and you will have some that really connect and understand what you are experiencing. You have to take it one day at a time, and don't be afraid to express your feelings from day to day. Most people will be very supportive. I am happy to say that although we were not trying to have another baby, we were blessed with our son Aaron on 12/3/2008, he is healthy and happy. So don't give up hope, and although you will never forget your son, the pain of your loss will lessen over time. May God bless your family.

Jeanice - posted on 07/26/2011

2 yrs ago i had a stillborn @ 39 week 3day before the original due date and aslo had to face the work issue and just ppl period asking me about my baby i never denied him and told them he passed away some ppl wanted to knw more some pple left it right at that but i would tell them that i love the time that i was able to bond with him loved and cared for him how he kicked and beat me up from his constint moving i cherished every moment and try to stay positive

Adriana - posted on 07/22/2011

so sory for your loss:( i think thats one of the hardest part of all this,talking to people about it but you know what it does hurt but helps at the same time. i went tru that about 6month ago and it still hurts like if it was yesterday but trying to take it ay by day. everything you feel and think let it out dont keep it to your self cause that makes it more difficult to handle....many blessing for you and you fam!

Susan - posted on 07/11/2011

Whenever someone asks me about my daughter, I lost her two years ago, 5 1/2 months along, I usually say I lost her to Turner Syndrome, and some people will say sorry and drop the subject, which is fine, but others will ask what happened, how it happened, and will seem interested to know more about my Little Angel, and it makes me happy when I get asked about her. Makes me feel that people still care in this world. I replay everything that happened with my Daughter from two years ago, every single day, before I sleep and when I wake up, but I know she's in a better place now. I'm sorry for your loss!

Awhina - posted on 07/10/2011

i remember when the shopkeeper who knew me well said oh you had your baby what did you have. i said i had a girl and she died well he quickly changed the subject and didnt want to know and that was cool i never deny my baby at with anyone and its good for me to see who is good for my grief and who isnt you may be suprised some of your work mate may pull you aside and ask what they can do for you or you may get some that wont ever acknowledge your baby but at least you know those who understand and give you positive support :)