Remembering Baby ~How Do/Did You~

Brooke - posted on 12/16/2010

I recently (3 1/2 weeks ago) gave birth a still born daughter. Daddy & I had Ella Mia cremated. We bought a little money box with her name on it & put a few of her ashes in that, we also have a guardian angel with her name that we are going to put on the christmas tree every year. & on the day i was going to have my baby shower I am having a party to celebrate her short life & releasing a balloon for every week she was with me.

Lacyn - posted on 12/13/2010

I have my daughter's name tattooed over my heart. Every year on her birthday I get 4 whites roses (she lived for 4 days) and however many pink roses as her age that year. I get the same for the balloons but I let all the pink ones go on her bday and one white one for each day she was here. I still make her a birthday cake and get her a card and a small gift and write her a letter.

Jeannette - posted on 11/26/2010

I'm sorry for you loss. I know how you feel. I lost my 1st born, a boy 2 weeks before my due date, due to strangulation of the umbilical cord. It was something I didn't wish for my worse enemy. we loat him in 1989I do still think of himofften, specially in Jabuary 4th, which is when he was born. Ofcourse he isburried in the cementary, but I can not go andput flowers in his grave due that he is in NY and I'm in SC. Now 2 years ago I had a tattoo on my upper back done in remembrence of him. I wish I knew how to post a picture on here. so I canpost the tattoo I have.

Angela - posted on 09/21/2010

My husband and I lost two pregnancies within a few months of each other in the first few months of our marriage. It was extremely hard during the first miscarriage. We decided to name our first child Seamus Doyl. Every year we would have a small birthday cake on the due date. After three years I was finally able to really come to terms with it. In 2008 I got pregnant for the third time. I knew, even early on during the first few weeks, that we were meant to have this child. I could have lost our little girl when I was in a car accident, but she is fine today. Throw a birthday party every year for your little one. Get the tattoo that you want. Just know that they will forever be a part of you and your loved one. I have an angel ring that I wear everyday to remind me that I have an angel looking out for me.

Lacie - posted on 09/14/2010

I just recently had a stillborn - I was 31 weeks along. I cannot stop thinking about my little Angel either. How beautiful he was, all of his black hair, his tiny little fingers and toes. I would give everything to hold him in my arms one last time. When my day comes, that's the first thing I'm going to do! Until then, remembering him just comes easily. I visit his grave, I hold on to the little lamb that my Mother had for him. My husband and I had 'Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep" take photographs of him and I often take out those pictures just to see his beautiful face again. The hospital also sent me home with a memory box with his hand and footprints, the outfit they first put him in, and his blanket.

I love the tattoo idea. I've been talking to my Husband and I have been thinking about getting one for our Angel. (I'm a big tattoo person anyway). It's marked on your body permanently, not to mention the fact that you can always have your tattoo touched up. I am definitely considering that as well.

By the way that's a beautiful name!

Heidi - posted on 08/03/2010

My daughter was stillborn and the hospital gave us a memory box. We have pictures of her and a few other meaningful things in it. With it, I keep the blanket she was wrapped in and occasionally sleep with it when I need more comfort. We also have a shadow box hanging up in the living room. In it we have a picture of her with me and her father, the hat she wore, a hospital bracelet, a memorial paper with her footprints on it, and a dried out flower. In our backyard we have a section with flowers to pay tribute to her. We also make sure to visit her grave site and talk to her. I eventually want to get a tattoo for her, I'm not sure what exactly but something with a butterfly.

Francesca - posted on 08/03/2010

I have a little china teapot that hangs on the Christmas tree for my first baby, lost at 9 weeks. I was visiting my brother and his wife at the time, and during the week that I was there she took me out to a tea place. It felt good to be with women who would let me talk and grieve but also give me other things to think about. I bought the little teapot ornament there to remember the baby and the kindness of my sister-in-law and her friends.

Beth - posted on 07/10/2010

We lost our angel baby, Alex Emerson, in September 2009 (9 months ago). One of the things we did this past Christmas to honor Alex is "adopt/sponsor" a child in need for the holidays (you can do this through the Salvation Army or United Way). We picked an infant boy to represent Alex's age had he been with us for Christmas and bought gifts for that child.

We plan to do this every year except we will change the age of the boy we buy for. For example, next year we will sponsor a 1 year old boy b/c that is how old Alex would have been. . .the following year we will sponsor a 2 year old boy, etc. Although it was very hard buying gifts that I would have bought for Alex, it brought us peace knowing we were helping another child.

We also donate to the March of Dimes, and I plan to walk next year in Alex's memory.

We keep pictures of him up in the house, and our other two children know they have a brother in heaven.

Sincerely,
Beth Mause

Jennifer - posted on 07/08/2010

i have a memorial site at gonetoosoon it's a free site u can put eulogy pics etc

Carole - posted on 06/30/2010

When we lost our baby boy we had him cremated and we had a rock made with his name engraved on it with foot prints. My husband drilled a hole in the back of the rock where we are going to put his ashes. We also checked with our hospital about organizations that can give support to parents for a lost baby and we found the Walk to Remember Organization. Every year they have a memorial for lost angels, as they read out each babies name a balloon is released for that child by the family, and then we walk around the lake. We even purchased the t-shirts that they make with all the little ones names on it. When I lost my son last year it was tough. The memorial was on the day that I was due. After the walk we went to lunch and then had our own little birthday party for him. We are looking forward to doing the walk again this year.

Elizabeth - posted on 06/29/2010

I lost my son at 9 months old. To remember him i go and see him every year an the day he died and on his birthday. On his birhtday i even go out and buy a candle with the age he would be and add it to his flowers that I put out on that day. One other thing that i do is to talk about it, for the longest time i would not mention it at all but lately when people ask me about my kids i say that i have 4, 3 girls and a boy. Then i explain thier ages, Brittany 7 Miranda 5 kristina 2 and my son would have been 6. Doing this lets people know that I still think is is somewhere growing up. Then if people ask what happened i tell them that he died of congestive heart failure. I have also thought about getting a tattoo. The one I will get has a little baby wolf howling at the moon that will include his name date of birth and date of death.

Laressa - posted on 06/24/2010

I planted a shade flower bed. It reminds me of the shady time in my life losing my baby. And it reminds me that My life can be beautiful in spite of the shade. It has been very healing for me. I can see it from my window and I go look at it every day in summer.

ANGELICA - posted on 06/17/2010

My husband got a tatto right after we lost our daughter his tatto says her name and date and daddy's little princess for myself I got it as my mothers day gift 2 years ago and it is a tatto of her hand and foot print and says her name and date and mommy's lil princess with a crown we try and visit her every week where she is burried and celebrate her birthday every year !

Belinda - posted on 04/25/2010

I where a necklace with a little ring on it with the birthstone of the month he was born. Two years ago I got a tattoo on my foot with building blocks and his initials with wings on them. I now say every time I take a step he is there with me. Then I have pictures and a little baby for him. I lost him Nov.2000 Dominic James.

Amy - posted on 04/12/2010

When I had my son I was at 26weeks and he was alive for 1hr. We had a burial, buried next to his great grandfather, who is also his namesake. I also have a tattoo on my arm of three red roses and a banner with his full name and birthdate. My now ex has a tattoo across his back that is a banner of his name and his birthdate on one side and the words "to forever" on the otherside of the banner.

Janae - posted on 03/24/2010

I wrote a poem to my baby that we lost at 10 weeks (miscarriage), it's very special to me. A friend of mine also gave me a willow tree angel (Healing Grace) that is a reminder of our little baby in Heaven!

Tina - posted on 03/20/2010

Hi and I am sorry for your loos. My husband and i have a tattoo of the teddy bear this is our sons headstone. We used the day he was born on. Nov, 19 2009
we found out on Nov,17 2009 that his heart had stopped. He was due April 24 2010
If you would like to see it go on facebook and look up Shawn Rainwater his is the teddy bear

Gina - posted on 11/18/2009

Four years ago today I gave birth to my Angle baby and lost her shortly after. Because of her gestation we had the option of burial or creamation. I chose burial just so she could be whole. Every Christmas and New Year's I light her special candle for her. On her birthday's, like today, I write her a letter that tells her how much I love her and miss her and what has happened in the last year. I have plans to get a memorial patch (tattoo) done for her, just haven't had the money yet. I talk to her and about her all the time. To me it's easier if I help others (in the family and friends) to remember that she is my daughter and I love her and miss her just because it makes me feel closer to her. It's hard with my family because the only one that looks at her as a family member is my mom. No one else cared when I delivered early and lost her after. So to know that I have some one to talk to (like today) I'm not alone in remembering her and at least I know she is in a better place.

I am sorry for you loss momma. I am sending you hugs as this is a very difficult time to lose your child. Especially being so close to the holiday's.

Kristen - posted on 11/16/2009

I have lost 2 babies to miscarriage this year. The first one in January and the second one in October. I had a necklace made with a forget-me-not and their birth stones. It has helped me a little. I feel like I have them nearby.

Susan - posted on 11/12/2009

I lost my little girl on Feb 24th 2009. She fell asleep two days before my birthday. She actually passed away on my fathers birthday. She had Cystic Hygroma(Turners Syndrome) I still to this day dont completely understand what it is. Me and my Husband had her buried, we go and see her every week. We use the day she passed away as her birthday since thats when we actually had her. So for the one year anniversary, we are having a candlelight vigil just for her. We are also setting of one balloon, showing its been one year. We also have a little Heart shaped box we got from the Hospital that we put her little outfit in and her pictures and her wrist band and things. I also got a pillow from the hospital that I sleep with every single night. I cannot go a night without sleeping with it. It makes me feel she is there with me and im holding her. We are actually planning on having another baby, which i am terrified!! I dont think i would be able to handle losing another baby. Everyone will do different things to remember their baby. Do what feels right.

Kristi - posted on 11/07/2009

Limoges jewelry company has several beautiful pieces of family jewelry. We purchased a necklace with a round charm on it. It has all of our beautiful children's name and birthstone on it. We included our precious baby we lost.We added the birthstone of her due date and the birthstone of when we lost her.



We also planted forget me nots and a wonderful friend bought us an angel sculpture for our flower bed.

Christina - posted on 11/03/2009

My son (Damien Lee) was stillborn... 6 1/2 yrs ago.... that first year was extremely hard for me. Every year around his birthday I would get depressed for a month before his bday, untill the month after his bday.. 2 yrs ago, I got a tattoo for him on my calf. (my sweet angel)... I also have a 5 yr old son, so this year it was really hard for me to mourn his loss w/ my 5 yr old knowing that something was wrong. Since my 5 yr old has always known he has a "baby" brother that watches us in heaven... I picked something to do w/ him to do for Damien's birth/death date. This year, I wanted to do something that included my 5 yr old son. So we went to a nice river by my house and brought a couple bags of hotdog buns, and fed the fish and ducks. While we were there feeding the fish and ducks.. we had talked about good memories that we wished my Angel Baby would have been there for. Then that night, before I put my 5 yr old down for bed, I got Damien's urn out and we held it for a little while... saying prayers for our "baby" Damien. My 5 yr old took it sooo much better than i could ever had thought. And now since that date, we openly talk about his "baby" brother who is in heaven. So next year, I think i am going to do the same...

*Every experience is different. You are different in your own views as to what you should during this time than others do. My advise is to do something that makes you feel happy, and blessed that you have a little angel watching over you. One thing I would advise not to do is sit in the house looking at pictures, and thinking about what if's, and why's.... Do something w/ your husband on that day, it might help each other. You both need to mourn and there's no way better than to do it together.

*I hope this helped you out in any sort of way. --- christina

Analise - posted on 10/26/2009

When my son died, I also had gotten a tattoo for him. It was his footprints from the day he was born. We put up his Christmas ornament as well as the one that the nurses in the NICU made for all the kids (their handprints on one side and their name and 1st Christmas on the other). That is one of my most prized possessions. Whenever we're in the Phoenix area my husband and I, and whatever family members that want to, go to the cemetary to visit with Lil Will. I talk to him, I recently started making a small cake on his birthday and we have some. And we always have a picture or 2 of him up in the house because he still is a part of our family, even if he's not here right now. My husband got me a mommy ring for mother's day last year ('08) that had our oldest's first name, birthday and his birthstone. It was quite beautiful and touching for my roughened army man to do. You can do whatever you think and feel is right for you to do. She was your baby, don't let anyone tell you how to remember her.

Mary - posted on 10/20/2009

Our daughter passed away a week before her scheduled delivery. So we had a funeral and a burial. We were decorating her nursery in Noah's Ark theme. So every year at christmas I buy a new Noah's Ark ornament to place on our family tree. I also have a Thomas Kincade collection of Noah's Ark. I planted a flowering pink bush at her graveside that I visit on holidays and her birthday etc. So many ways to do it. Do it in away that brings you comfort. I also try and bless a little girl who is not my own at holidays with an anonymous gift. My way of giving also to my daughter.

Jennifer - posted on 09/14/2009

I lost my baby three years ago. I had a key chain made, plus my mother made me an angel doll that I have on a shelf in the bedroom along with a framed poem I received after I lost the baby and a baby blanket that was made for her. Now I have 4 month old twin girls, with such little time on my hands I often forget about my first baby so I am glad I have the little shrine to look at every night so I don't forget. People keep saying God gave me two to make up for the other one, I hate it when people say that!! I love my twins, but neither one of them will ever replace my angel!

Mandee - posted on 09/09/2009

Quoting Loureen:

but the first time its like i knew it was going to happen , it didnt feel right , but the second time around i didnt feel like that , someone actually asked me if i was scared and i said " no this just feels right " i just knew it was going to work out , well call it mothers intuition i guess

Thank you so much for what you wrote. My eldest daughter's b-day is Sept 3, my stepdaughter's is Sept 7th.  I found out I was pregnant this past January and the baby was due Sept 3rd (what are the chances of that happening?). From day one whenever i told someone i was pregnant it felt like a lie, and i would think why am i telling them? the baby's not coming. With my first child i started buying things for her right away. With this one, i would be in a store see something I wanted to get, but the voice in my head kept saying, don't!! wait until the ultrasound. Then i started having dreams about my water breaking. It sounds crazy I know. Went to my utlrasound in March (14 weeks along), everything was fine, absolutly great except it didnt' seem real. I thought i must be going nuts, where were all these crazy thoughts coming from, the baby's fine.

After that ultrasound the dreams got worse. More waterbreaking, waking up in a bed full of blood, having a premie that didnt' make it. My next ultrasound was scheduled for April 6th. A few days before i started feeling really anxious but didn't know why. The morning of the ultrasound, my husband was so excited (we were going to find out if it was a boy or girl), he kept saying i think it's a boy, what do you think. Everytime he would say something all I could think is I just want him/her to be alive. I had no reason to think the baby wouldn't be, no cramps, no bleeding, nothing. On the way to the doctors, i got an overwhelming sense of fear. I told my husband somethings not right and i didn't want the ultrasound. He thought i was just being nervous. The doc said i lost the baby about 2 weeks prior.

We're now trying to get pregnant again. I've been so worried about whether or not it would be possible to know if it "feels right". I'm glad to know from your experience that it is.

Alexis - posted on 08/30/2009

I lost my angel in feb. and had to have a D & C...this left me with very little closure. I haven't fully recovered from the loss, but did get a tattoo on my foot in remembrance. It's a Koi fish that symbolizes overcoming struggle and I had the due date of the baby tatooed as well as my son (who is 2) initials...The due date is 9/24/09 and we plan on going to the beach and releasing white balloons as a memorial. I am going to plant a tree in my backyard on that date as well. I hope this helps

Desiree - posted on 08/26/2009

Honestly, I never did anything. I've lost 6 babies. I cried hysterically with the first one and after that I went numb. Like it was something that was supposed to happen. I'm reminded enough by the pain, the ultrasound pictures and most of my pregnancies, my sister or a friend were preggers at the same times..So I'm reminded by the baby they had.

Donna - posted on 08/02/2009

Keta, it may be something that never leaves your mind completely. Talk to the hubby when you feel overwhelmed. I think giving her a name and acknowledging that she was a baby (not a fetus or something that sounds scientific) shows how you feel. It will get easier with time, but like I said, you may never forget. I got pregnant with my baby (9 months old now) 4 months after my miscarriage, but he does not take the place of the one I lost. I feel conflicted sometimes. I love him so much. Had I not had the miscarriage, he wouldn't be here, but at the same time, I mourn the other one. I'm always here to chat if you need. If you feel the need for some closure, have a small memorial in her honor.

Sarabeth - posted on 07/31/2009

There are so many ways you can choose to remember your angel. I have appreciated reading the previous posts, there are many great ideas.

I had a miscarriage in May 2008 and my husband and I put together a box for our little one. I placed the cards we received, the gifts we had been given when people found out we were expecting, and the ultrasound pictures. It was very therapeutic for me to put together this box and be able to keep it as a memory of our first baby. The box sits in our bedroom and I remember my first little one so so often. I now have a baby girl- 5 months old. Having her has helped- had I not had a miscarriage, I would not have the daughter I now treasure so dearly.

My husband and I also donate to a pregnancy center in memory of our first baby. We were able to give our donation on our baby's due date last year. It was a neat experience.

Donna - posted on 07/27/2009

We planted a tree in our garden. Its ok to be reminded. you'll never forget...

Tiffany - posted on 07/22/2009

I say do what you feel is best for remembering your baby. My husband and I got our little girl's footprint as a tattoo with her initials KEL above it. We were lucky enough that the nurse thought of us and printed her footprint on a small piece of paper. It's not very big since she was a preemie but it's something we cherish and that's why we chose it for a tattoo. It was our way of remembering her. We also have a small wooden toybox made for her to put her things from the hospital in. Like the hospital bracelet, the few pictures we have, and little things that I had bought just for her while I was pregnant. You do what you feel is best for you. I know a friend who got another piercing and wears nothing but her baby's birthstone in it. So whatever you decide on, I'm sure it will be the perfect way to cherish your baby.

Jenn - posted on 07/20/2009

I'm the proud mom of 2 boys who wait for me in Heaven. On thier due date I released balloons and wrote to them on thier website and every month on the day they were born I write on thier webpage saying it's been 2 months since you've been gone or how ever long it's been. I lost Lukas May 10th,2007 @ 15 weeks and 4 days gestation due to un-known causes and Noah September 29th,2008 @ 15 weeks and 5 days gestation due to an un-known cervical infection. I also made Lukas a cake on his 1st birthday,got him a card and sent him balloons and I will do the same with Noah and on Lukas' 2nd birthday I sent him balloons as well as I got him a card and will do the same for every year on both the boys birthdays. I also light candles every October 15th in thier memory and will be getting a tattoo for them next month.

Melissa - posted on 07/20/2009

I made a page for my angel baby on memory-of.com. It helps me so much when i am having a hard day. If I may ask....When did you lose your baby

Melissa

Charlie - posted on 07/09/2009

wow it has been a hard year for you , i hope you have a speedy recovery , sorry what i meant was i conceived cooper a year later pretty much the exact date i conceived my first , it sounds strange but the first time its like i knew it was going to happen , it didnt feel right , but the second time around i didnt feel like that , someone actually asked me if i was scared and i said " no this just feels right " i just knew it was going to work out , well call it mothers intuition i guess , mind you it was always in the back of my mind what COULD happen but i tried not to let that get in the way , or take over me .
i wish you all the best of luck with conceiving a new child , you have a wonderful attitude after all you have been through , that is just more power to you .

Keta - posted on 07/09/2009

We are definitely going to try for another...the question is when. Right now I am recuperating from 2nd and 3rd degree burns (grease fire). Yes, 2009 has been a trying year for me, but I am making it through with a whole new outlook on life. Lost my baby on March 30th and got burned on May 2nd. Burns as follow: right leg = 3rd degree burns from my toes to my knee and this does include the bottoms of my feet...left leg = 3rd degree burns from my toes to mid-thigh...left arm = 2nd degree burn on thumb and inner fore-arm. My right thigh and right/bottom side of my stomach were used as donor graft sites for my legs. I've been healing really well. I should be back on my feet completely sometime in August and back to work in September. I was in ICU for 2 days and in the Burn Unit for 14 days. Through it all, God is still very good to me...I could have had a heart attack or stroke in the hospital during the beginning of the first week that I was in the hospital, due to my vitals being out of whack (they say that bad burns cause this to happen). I was burned on 22% of my body.



But on another note...I want to ask the Dr about the graft site on my stomach...I don't want to stretch skin that is not ready. I keep forgetting to ask the Dr during my check ups b/c the appt. is so focused on how I am healing.



Baby is definitely coming...so, you got pregnant about 4 months after the loss of Jackson, were you scared when you got pregnant again?

Charlie - posted on 07/09/2009

i had cooper almost exactly a year later , he was an incredibly easy pregnancy i wouldnt have even know had i not been growing to the size of a house lol ! something that really helped me with the grieving process was the hospital let me hold him (jackson) after the misscariage it gave me real closure to be able to actually see him made it so much more real , it was incredible to see him so tiny but something im glad they offered i had no idea that hospitals did that . i think about him everyday but in a way i feel like cooper is his little spirit come back for another try and this time he was strong enough . that makes me feel better . are you trying for another ?

Keta - posted on 07/06/2009

Loureen,



That's really neat..the rose bush and the tattoo representing your family. Was Cooper an easy pregnancy and how long after Jackson, had you conceived Cooper?

Charlie - posted on 07/05/2009

we had a burial for our baby jackson who passed at 15 weeks misscariage , we buried him out at the farm and planted a rose bush for him , he was my first pregnancy , i can take cuttings of the roses and plant them wherever i go so jackson will be with me , i have since had another boy cooper i plan on a tattoo three quater sleeve of four roses to reprsent my family one for me , his daddy , his brother cooper all in full bloom the last little rose will be for jackson it will be a rose bud because he never got to bloom but will always be apart of our family.

Keta - posted on 06/29/2009

That's beautiful!!! I lost mine on March 30, 2009 and her name was Mia Leigh (Mia, I just thought that it was a beautiful simple name and Leigh is my father and my hubby's mother's middle name...only theirs are spelled "Lee")..Mia and Jamey will be watching over their wonderful parents for the rest of our lives!!

Chanda - posted on 06/28/2009

as to what else we have done- when we lost our child(our first baby) due to a miscarriage 1 day short of 12 wks.(i too had contractions and delievered my dead baby)We saved our baby and cremated it ourselves.(very hard) We bought a wood box that use to be a music box (took out that part) and used it as a urn with the glass to secure it.I made a photo for the top of the box with our babys name,date of birth/death and the sonogram picture.A week or so after i lost the baby when i was physically able to we got 3 balloons and wrote a message from us on each of them.(1 from me,1 from hubby,and one from both of us.on what was such a beautiful blue sky day we read some scripture,prayed,talked to our baby and let up our balloons.We cried and watched the balloons go straight up into the heavens til we could see them anymore.I also made a powerpoint slide show in memory of our baby.I made a iron on cration for my hubby and myself as well as for the grandparents that says in memory of ,has our childs sonogram pic and the babys name and date.I didnt know what to put it on till my mom had hers put on a baby tshirt and she put it on a teddy bear she got at a yard sale the day we lost the baby.So thats what we put it on.(the iron on papers can be gotten at walmart and done pretty easily) I am currantly working on making a baby memory book for our baby as well as a photo creation set to music for a dvd.And then as i said above we are doing the tattoo thing.We plan on remembering the due date and doing something on that date-note sure what yet.But for the date of birth /death every year we plan to get a balloon for every year old our chidl would be.put a message on them.Talk to our baby and send them up along with having a special dinner .Hope this helps you.We lost our baby may 23,2009 and our babys name is Jamey Lyn.(genderal nuetral name that is part hubbys name and part mine.

Keta - posted on 06/28/2009

Thanks Chanda!!! I was wondering which date the date was for!!! My hubby and I are still getting the tattoos, but maybe a little later...I'm healing from 2nd and 3rd degree burns to my legs and feet...



Thanks for your information and your tattoo sounds interesting and pretty!!

Chanda - posted on 06/28/2009

Quoting User:

Thanks for the input. I really like the letter idea. I had written a little shpiel (did I spell that right) to my angel baby on my myspace page, but I think that a formal letter would be really cool..

I have noticed that alot of the angel baby tattoos that are on the internet have a date...I was wondering what that date was...the conception date, the date they found out, the date the baby died or the due date...I guess I'll find out soon enough..

I believe and chose the date i lost our child as the date of birth and death -Its the birthdate of the day they went to be with God.(aka earned angel wings) I just got a tattoo in memory of our child.Its a red balloon style heart with baby foot prints in it  then my babys name at the top and the date at the bottom.I got it on my chest -left side (close to my heart ) as a symbol of my child will always be in my heart.Hubby is gonna get a tattoo too but his will be a a indian feather with a baby foot print on it and the babys name surrounding it .

Keta - posted on 05/30/2009

Thanks for the suggestions!!! Ms. Larissa, on your tattoo, are you using the dates they passed or the dates they were due/born?

Larissa - posted on 05/24/2009

We have 4 Angel babies and have done a few things to remember them by. I ordered a christmas ornament from personalcreations.com for each of them that is there birthstone and their name on it. Plus my mom gave me a bracelet for each one from lenox.com that is a silver bangle bracelet w/ their name adn birthstone in it, for mothers day this year. Plus I made each of them a baby book and made them a birth certificate on print shop. But the main thing we do that means the most is every year on each of their birth days (we use the day we lost them), we buy 2 mylar helium ballons. One that says Happy Birthday and one that says I Love You. We go outside in our back yard and we each tell them that we love them and miss them very much and then we release the balloons into the sky. Hoping that they will get these messsages in Heaven. My husband has had a Vasectomy now so we know we won't be having anymore Angels, so i am going to get a tattoo with a baby angel and all four of their names and DOB on them. I have a 2 yr old daughter now and she has made the losses easier, but they NEVER tryely go away. Good luck.

Jennifer - posted on 05/03/2009

I believe that my angel baby, was here for a purpose. She lived almost exactly 7 weeks. She was born 4 days after my own daughter (she's my niece), and I was the one to give her CPR. That was probably one of the most horrible nights of my life. I try to celebrate her life. We had her cremated and a memorial service for her. I now have her urn and pic and obit placard in a special spot in my home, reserved just for her. I planted a tree in her name at the local conservation area. Every time we worship, we invite her to join us, look after us. We (my daughters and I), think of her as our guardian angel. Her parents couldn't recover from the loss, which is why we have her things. My kids had a real hard time of it, but i think with help and your form of spiritual guidance, it is possible to remember, but move on.

Jessica - posted on 05/03/2009

We signed up to donate a small amount each month to the children's miracle network in memory of the angel we lost, in hoping that that we could help others.

Keta - posted on 04/28/2009

Ms. Mandi



That is a precious story...great idea with the cupcakes on his birthday...I really wonder how I am going to handle the day my angel was going to be born...I was due to give birth on October 17, 2009...



Thanks for the ideas :-)

Mandi - posted on 04/28/2009

I lost my baby to a miscarriage. We named him Aaron. I actually delivered Aaron even though I was not very far along. What we did was buy a little box, placed Aaron in it (he was tiny tiny-smaller than your finger) and my husband and I each wrote a letter to him and placed them in the box as well. We then selected a place on our property (under a beautiful, tall tree) and buried him. In addition to that, I bought a ring that had the birthstone of January on it since that is the month he would have been born if I had carried him to full term. I wear it on my pinky. It has helped a lot. On January 18th (his due date), I baked cupcakes and my husband and I had birthday cupcakes under Aaron's tree. Since I lost Aaron, I now have a baby girl. The pain has eased but I will never forget my little Angel.

Keta - posted on 04/27/2009

It really does take time...My mom showed me a video clip of her sister's grand-daughter dancing to the ABC's (she's too young to even stand) :-)...I thought it was so cute, but at the same time thinking about my own child possibly doing that and how I won't be able to see it anytime soon...I think that I really like the Christmas ornament idea...I would be worried that I would lose the necklace (not good with those things)...Great ideas...thanks!!!