My Loss

Sandra - posted on 01/28/2009 ( 18 moms have responded )

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My name is Sandra Fisher and I lost my beautiful boy Scott fisher Jr. to suicide on September 10, 2005.

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Dianne - posted on 04/27/2009

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I am new to this site, but my heart goes out to all of you. I'm here for anyone who needs to talk. I am also a mother of a daughter, who commited suicide almost 11 years ago. She was 23 years old. This is still very hard for me. The first year is absolutly the worst. It will get a little easier in some ways, but in others, not so easy.

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Naomi - posted on 10/04/2012

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Hi my name is Naomi Bekker and my husbands sisters daugter stayed with us because see and her mom didn't had a good relationship so se became my daughter. See commited suicide on the 27 June 2012 just five days after my birthday. It doesn't seems to get any better. How do you deal with such loss.

Denise - posted on 05/08/2012

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My name is Denise Andersen from New Zealand I lost my son Josef to suicide on 23 July 2003

Suzie - posted on 01/29/2011

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It never gets easier does it? I am so sorry. My so Jared committed suicide November 16, 08. I have had 2 new grand babies since he passed ad it is so bitter sweet. I miss Jared so very much.

User - posted on 01/29/2011

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Sandra .... I lost my son, Jesse also to suicide March 9th a month before his 21st birthday. Write me at lexxg@telus.net.

Suzie - posted on 06/19/2010

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Hi, I'm Suzie and I lost my precious son Jared to suicide on November 16, 2008. Jared was 16. His class Graduated this year. I miss him so very much. I am still struggling to find my new "Normal".

Sandra - posted on 10/15/2009

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Mady, I am so sorry it has taken me so long to write to you. I have been having a very hard time and have not been on here. My son Scott has been gone for 4 years now and I miss him so much. i founded The Vera Foundation in his memry to promote suicide awareness, prevention and education. Each year in July the foundation host an annual Alumni Soccer Game at his high school. We release balloons during halftime that everyone writes messages on to a loved one who has past. It doesn't get any easier you just learn how to survive.

Mandi - posted on 09/08/2009

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Hi everyone my names Mandi , my oldest son took his own life on 02/03/2009 then spent 24 hrs on life support and passed away 03/03/2009. I was 35 weeks pregnant at the time . Not a day goes by our family doesn't think of Corey and wished things could have been different . Corey was 18 and the oldest of my children. I have another son Aaron who is 16yrs old and 3 Daughters , Brittany 12yrs , Imogen 3yrs & little baby Pyper (5 Months)who never got to meet her big brother but she will told about him as soon and she is old enough to understand. Tis only my 1st year ....i have been through a mothers day & Coreys birthday (30/08) Which all family and friends attended the local skatepark where we all released balloons with messages on them for Corey. Some of us then attended the local pizza hut for tea (as Pizza was coreys favorite birthday meal) 32 of us went to celebrate Coreys life & remember him. Hope to chat with yous all ...Hugs Mandi xox

Sandra - posted on 04/30/2009

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Julie,

BIG HUGS for you.

I am sorry to have to tell you that the first mother's day I spent the laying in Scott's bed crying. I still hate the thought of Mother's Day and I try to ignore it as much as possible. My daughter is understands that I have a hard time with it and just does something simple to acknowledge it. As I am still her mother and grandmother to her daughter I realize it would not be fair to not let them show their love for me on that day, as I do love tham very much.

Julia - posted on 04/29/2009

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(((((Sandra))))) BIG HUGS!!! We do understand where each other is coming from. If you don't mind me asking, what did you do on your first Mother's Day without Scott? I'm not looking forward to that day. Kevin was my first child and he always wrote me a poem or a letter. I have two girls that will have something up their sleeve, but I kinda don't want to be bothered, you know? I don't really want to shut them out, but it was Kevin that started that phase of my life.

Sandra - posted on 04/29/2009

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Julie,

Alot of people say alot of things that they think will help us, but what they don't understand is that unless you have lost a child you have know idea. I don't agree that it gets easier after the first year. I have told my psychiatrist that I think it gets harder because I miss my son so much more. What I can say is that I am able to function better than I could the first year. But I do have to agree that things don't get easier they are different and life for me will never be the same. I also have to say that I will never be the same person I was before losing Scott. He took a part of me with him.

Julia - posted on 04/27/2009

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I have a lot of people telling me that after the first year, things will be easier. I don't buy it, I did at first, but then the more I thought about it the more it doesn't make sense. How can life get easier after lossing a child? The two hard pills that I am trying to sollow is that 1) "Things" won't be easier, they will be different and 2) I will never be the same person that I was before Kevin's death.

Sandra - posted on 04/18/2009

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Julia,

I am so sorry for your loss. I understand about dreading mother's day, my first was awful, but I made it through it. I am here for you if you need some one to talk to who knows what you are going through,

Julia - posted on 04/17/2009

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I'm Julie. My son Kevin took his life on Aug. 26, 2008. He was 20. I'm dreading Mother's Day.

Sandra - posted on 02/11/2009

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Tami, I am so sorry for your loss. This is the hardest thing a mother has to live with and I find that being able to share my pain with other mothers is the best therapy. I will be thinking of you and your son next week, I still remember the 1 year and how difficult it was. Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help you.

Sandy

Tami - posted on 02/10/2009

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Thank you Sandra, I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm getting ready to have my son's 1 year next week. I'll try to figure out how to post his info here, just joined the site. please let me know if you ever need to talk.

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