Heidi - posted on 09/27/2010
Well I wasn't married to the man that cheated on me, but we were in what I thought was a commited relationship. Boy was I wrong...
We were dating for about 9 months when I realized I was pregnant 8 weeks along when I found out.
He lived in one city and lived 2 hours away so we had a long distant relationship. I was totally commited to him and wanted us to be a family. When the baby was born I still lived 2 hours away but when the baby was 4 months old I quite my full time job gave up my apartment and moved in with him. I thought I was doing the right thing for our family. Boy was I ever wrong. Shortly after I moved in I discovered he was cheating on me. I was cleaning up one day when I came across some love letters. Of coure I read them and I was completely hurt. When he came home from work I started to question him about them and he flew off the handle. He started excusing me of cheating and saying that the baby wasn't his. I told him way back then to get a paternity test ut he never did. I was willing to let things go until the phone calls started and letters were being left on the car...so again I started to question him and he broke the phone we had and went on a rampage. Early September 1999 my baby was 5 months old when I received yet another phone call. This time the girl actually talked to me and told me everything. I even went and met her at Tim Hortons. She show me love letters he had written showed me things he had bought her and so on. So when I got back from that meeting all hell broke loose. He apparently was going to break it off with her and stupid me believed him that is until he didn't want me to go to his work Christmas Party. His excuse was none of the guys are bringing there wives! So of course we faught yet again...he pinned me down on the bedroom floor of my sons room while my son was in his crib crying he had a knife by my head and his hands around my throat saying "look how easy it would be for me to kill you" That was it for me. He left for his Christmas Party came in late that night and the next morning my twin brother came and picked me up. I packed up what I could and left him behind. Best decision I ever made. He didn't only cheat on me with 1 one girl it was at least 3 different ones in less then a year. I was devasted at the time and wasn't sure if I could do it on my own, but I did and now I am married to the most amazing man in the world. My ex rarely sees his son who is now 11 which is unfortunate, but nothing I can do. I can't force the man to come and see his son.
That is only the short version of my story, but I am sure you can get the idea of what i went through.
It is devasting and heart breaking and I do give credit to those who can survive a cheating spouse, but for me I just couldn't do it any longer. Stay strong and I wish you all the best.
Ntombi - posted on 09/21/2010
Has your husband cheated on you. I discovered in Nov 2009 that of all the 22 , now 23 years of marriage he has cheated on me at least 4 times. I cannot explain the devastation I felt .Its been 10 months and I have just started feeling norma. What is your story.
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