11 year old gives birth

Katherine - posted on 04/06/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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If there was ever a sentence that made me want to throw up my hands and scream "what is the world coming to!?" this is it. An 11-year-old girl has reportedly given birth in a hospital in Colombia. Eleven!



I was still playing with LEGOs at 11, and here this kid is a mother. Get that? Not just an 11-year-old having sex, but an 11-year-old who had a living, breathing human being cut out of her uterus by doctors performing a C-section.



O. M. G. This is me, hyperventilating. So I'm going to go ahead and talk myself -- and you -- off the ledge.



Because I really can't deal with the thought of my beautiful, smart, funny 6-year-old being a mother anytime in the next decade (or two), I'm going to put this story in context for everyone who will be freaking out about this on the interwebs for the next week or so.



This is not normal. At least not here in the United States. Yes, the age that girls are hitting puberty, and thus able to become pregnant, is dropping. But the average age for first intercourse for American girls is 17.4. For boys, it's still a fairly respectable 16.9. Only a quarter of teenagers report having had sex by age 15.



In Colombia, where this girl gave birth, the numbers are different. It's sad and heartbreaking. But it's also a different culture. This girl in particular is a member of the Wayuu tribe, an indigenous group that lives apart from much of Colombian society. Their way of life is not something you expect to see mirrored in an average American household, so grouping your kids in with her is unrealistic and unfair.



Our daughters -- and our sons, ahem -- have us. I don't mean to sound culturally insensitive, but I dare say we are better role models, or at least place more value on the sanctity of childhood here in America.



Also good to note? The average age of a first-time mother in the United States is now around 25 years old. There are some extremely young kids who get pregnant, tragically, but it's a blip on the radar screen.



And now for the really super, duper good news. A gazillion researchers have found there's a direct correlation between kids having a good, honest, open relationship with their parents and the age of first intercourse. If kids feel they can trust you, they're likely to put it off.



In other words: by being freaked out by this 11-year-old new mother and wanting to do something about it? You're already on the right track to making sure it's not your kid freaking us out next.



When do you plan to start having these talks with your kids?



From: The Stir





Wow, so she's only be 11 years older than her child whoa! Craziness. I plan to have the talk as soon as my daughters ask me!!! And in full detail.

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Danielle - posted on 04/08/2012

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That is so sad I can't even comprehend something like that. I have always just been open with my kids especially my girls you know us mother we can't go potty without someone busting in so when my oldest (then7) asked what my lampoon was and what it was for I just shrugged and told her girls bleed when they get older and this is what u use so it docent get everywhere she asked if it hurt and if it stopped and I said nope no pain and yes it stops in about one school week she said why do we bleed I said its a special kind of bleeding it let's u have a baby when god thinks its the right time and she was like cool and didn't ask anything else ... when she started hers there was no drama she walked into my bedroom and said mom do you have a lampoon I think I need one lol and yes she started out with tampons .... so I think open and not making a huge deal of any personal talk is best if you don't act all strange about it they wont and they wont think its strange to talk about and ask question of you instead of friends with bad advice

Sally - posted on 04/07/2012

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I can'r say i remember sitting down with my 3 (30,24,15 (but we have always spoken openly about sex. I tended to use things that we heard on the news even t.v programs to bring subjects up . My youngest who is now dating a girl is pretty open with me as were my other 2. I would have used something like this by saying what a silly girl , she will never get that special time back plus she now has a baby that she has to look after. Id also add somethig along the line, shes lucky not to get aids cos that could kill her. Not in a heavy way more in a chatty way. Also i have always answwe their questions honestly sometimrs with a very red face,lol. I can remember my now 24 year old asking at 14 what a clit was and what it was for. Now that was hard.lol

Louise - posted on 04/07/2012

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Horrific!



I had the talk with my sons about the age of 14 and I demonstrated with a banana how a condom worked properly. It was a very informal way of "the chat" we had a lot of laughs. But with a serious message.



My daughter will get the same chat probably earlier than 14 about 12. Open and honest to all questions is the way to go!

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