Am I being a dramatic B*&CH?? UPDATE!

Sarah - posted on 09/21/2011

Did you tell him in advance (several times 'cause men are hard headed) how important it was to you? Honestly, I do think that you are over-reacting just a tad. I never remember dates (holidays, birthdays, etc. and I forget everyone's, my parents, friends, etc.) though, ever. My husband and I haven't been on a date in over 2 years. I know it's a big deal to make it to 15 years but my husband and I never celebrate birthdays or anniversaries to us being in love and loving eachother is more important than gifts and going out, etc. We have been married for 7 years and have never bought a gift for eachother on a holiday, anniversary, or birthday. We are spontaneous, we do things here and there for eachother through-out the year. He will buy me flowers on his way home from work, just because and I will buy him a CD that he really wanted when I am at the store, just because. Not expecting anything means that when you do get something it is that much more special. I think that sometimes we women expect too much and put too much emphasis on gifts. I have a friend who told me the other day that she told her husband for 5 years that if he ever wanted to get her a porch swing that she had a certain one picked out and she showed him the picture, told him what store it was at, how much it was, and she did this continuously for five years (everytime a holiday, anniversary, or birthday came up). He bought her the wrong swing this year for their anniversary. She was so angry and hurt by it. I say if you want something and you don't think that your husband will get exactly what you want buy it yourself. I am not trying to be mean and I do think that you have a right to be upset, especailly since he scheduled a class on the night that you were supposed to go out but the reason I think you are over-reacting a tad is because of the fact that we expect men to be perfect sometimes and they are not. Although after 15 years of marriage he should know how you feel about these things. I just think maybe you should try something different so that you don't get hurt anymore. I have never been hurt by my husband in this way because of the way that we do things in our relationship. I think that if more couples did these kinds of things there would be a lot less divorces going on.

Angela - posted on 08/14/2011

Aww Christy sorry your date did not go well....What a bust not that it makes it any better but sounds like my date nights if I get one, which is hardly ever

Tah - posted on 08/13/2011

Are you being selfish..you are actually being good about it..I'd flush with him in the shower..just saying

Charlie - posted on 08/13/2011

I would be pissed off ....

Carolee - posted on 08/13/2011

And that's why we got married on New Year's Eve... there's no forgetting that. Everybody celebrates.

Maria - posted on 08/13/2011

U are not in the wrong at all come on you guys have been married for 15 fu**** years!!! He should know u by now mama!! Tell him u dont appreciate his shit and that he needs to get his act together u deserve to be treated like a queen and to be taken out for a good time. Im sorry that happened to you. ♥

Katherine - posted on 08/13/2011

LMFAO, mine was the same way. Thank God he's my ex XD

Stifler's - posted on 08/13/2011

Mine is like I FEEL SICK FROM EATING TOO MUCH and I'm like DON'T EAT SO FUCKING MUCH. We still go home and don't have sex.

Katherine - posted on 08/13/2011

LOL, my husband used to pull the SAME heartburn shit too.

Stifler's - posted on 08/13/2011

Men really do not realise how big of a deal it is sometimes.

Katherine - posted on 08/13/2011

Selfish no. Maybe he forgot? He's trying to cover his butt. Maybe he didn't realize what a big deal it was to you? He really should have gotten a card.
My husband used to insist our anniversary was the day before our real one. He ALWAYS forgot. I had to tell him a few days in advance and even then.......and even then.
Guys just don't think like we do. They don't realize how important things like this are to us. Then they get angry if we complain. Makes NO sense I know. But it is what it is.

Christy - posted on 08/13/2011

Oh gawd. Won't believe what happened on our date night. Sitter was LATE. Ok fine. Went out for a few drinks, then some dinner. Wanted to continue evening and husband said his heartburn was too bad and we came home. In bed by 10 30. I ended the evening thinking "Another bust, maybe next year."

Angela - posted on 08/12/2011

You sound justified to be upset! I sure as heck would be and I would not consider myself a whiner! In fact I would call his actions unthoughtful in the least.

That said yeah men!!!! Sounds like he probably thought we will celebrate Friday...

But he could have said something or at least thankful for the little note :) I hope your Friday plans go well , let us know! Happy Anniversary!

Stifler's - posted on 08/11/2011

i don't do anything for my husband's birthday especially if he forgets mine. he doesn't even care it's so annoying.

Nicola - posted on 08/11/2011

The part about this kind of thing that annoys me is the double standard if they forget something its like oh well there men. if we forget something or don't make a big effort wow huge drama how come we have to organise our own birthdays and also there's and anniversaries.

Stifler's - posted on 08/11/2011

NO! But men don't make as much of it as women do I've found. my husband thinks sending cards is a waste of time and I think that it doesn't matter what present I get as long as he writes something nice in the card so I can find it in 20 years and read it.

Jane - posted on 08/10/2011

And Happy Anniversary!

Jane - posted on 08/10/2011

My husband and I seemed to take turns forgetting about our anniversary every year, so we decided to celebrate our anniversary at random times whenever we remembered that we liked being married to each other. We were married 21 years and celebrated our anniversary maybe 100 times or so. The only reason why we aren't still doing this is that he passed away, fittingly enough, the week of our 21st anniversary. See, he missed another one. :-(

My parents celebrated their anniversary in a different way. My mom hated tuna casserole but my dad loved it. Each anniversary she would make tuna casserole, send us to bed early, and set the dining room with the good silver, and candles, and the whole nine yards. Funny thing is that they never ate the tuna casserole. They would blow out the candles, put dinner in the fridge, and go to bed early those nights, And they giggled a lot.

The big thing here is that you and your husband have different expectations. You need to find a way to communicate to him that you feel anniversaries are important. You need to actually plan it WITH him, not for him, or make it really simple: buy a card, ask him to sign it, and then put it at your place at breakfast and open it in front of him. Give him a heart-felt kiss and a big thank you. Or try buying yourself a sexy negligee and model it in front of him while telling him "Happy Anniversary." He will get the idea eventually.

Is there something your husband really, really loves to do? Even if it is something you don't care for you might try setting that up as your anniversary celebration next year, and tell him you did it because you love him. As a friend of mine once said about her playing golf with her husband every weekend, "I hate golf, but I love Charley."

Carolee - posted on 08/10/2011

Happy Annivesary!

Carolee - posted on 08/10/2011

I think he got mixed signals. He probably just thought that, since you have plans for Friday, you wouldn't expect anything today. Men need very specific instructions. For example: If my husband and I plan to celebrate our anniversary on a different day, I will tell him that, even though we are "officially" celebrating on such and such day, that I DO want/expect a card/flowers/etc. on our actual anniversary. I go so far as to talk to the florist where he buys flowers and tell them exactly what I want. They will give him a choice between arrangements that I like, and I am still surprised at which one he got. Men don't do subtle, and they need to be told how to be romantic. I learned this lesson the hard way.