As a parent how would you react to this situation?!!!

Determined - posted on 05/31/2012

@ Tina Thanks we would never lable someone a child molestor off one innappropriate comment, but we also don't want to see if he'll ever act upon these comments. We're just not comfortable taking that chance...to see if it's more than just a comment. I'm glad to know that other people are backing us and would do the same in our situation. Thanks for your support!

Tina - posted on 05/31/2012

No one would talk like that unless they were perverted or have bad intensions. I don't think you're over reacting at all. A comment like that is a good enough reason not to trust him.



they can have their heads in the sand all they like. I'd hope most men would react like your husband. I'd be worried if he didn't react. The fact he doesn't show remorse or even see that he was wrong is also enough reason not to trust him.



I had a relative who was perverted like this quite often i brushed the comments off I was a kid. They made me uncomfortable but thought no more of it until later when we found out he had sexually assaulted his own daughter. Slept with an 11 year old and also ended up being charged with possessing child porn. That's only the things we know of he's not around any more. He seemed like a top bloke most of the time. Seemed generous and what not.



Don't brush comments like that off. If other relatives cannot understand what the problem is than there's not much you can do. You have every right not to want him around you don't need to explain yourself if they don't like it. It's there problem. The only thing you should be worried about is your own family. Your protecting them. Even if he never acts out what he's says. Like you said you've got little ones. They don't need to pick that stuff up.

Determined - posted on 05/30/2012

@ Dove exactly not the best influence. We tried explaining to the family that we're not accusing him of being a child molestor, but it was an extremely inappropriate comment and not the kind of role model we want around our two little "sponges" Their biggest thing is the don't understand why the comment is "wrong" it is just a compliment they keep saying

Dove - posted on 05/30/2012

Sounds even more like my ex's family. He's a jerk, for sure, and for that I wouldn't want him around my kids/family. I wouldn't think he's an actual DANGER to a child just off of that comment though. Not if he's anything like what I'm getting a picture of in my head. Still definitely not someone I would want around.

Determined - posted on 05/30/2012

@ Stifler he had made stupid comments before such as calling his wife fat and talking about how attractive other women are right in front of his wife but nothing before regarding children at least that we know of. He hasn't tried to explain why he said it just cussed my husband out and said he's not a child molestor, but offered not apology or explanation. He just said he doesn't know why it's such a big deal.

Happy - posted on 05/30/2012

I wouldn't want him anywhere near my girls!

Stifler's - posted on 05/29/2012

Depends. Has he said things like this before? Does he own up to saying this?

Dove - posted on 05/29/2012

No one I associate with would talk like that, so yes, it would bother me.

It kind of depends on the crowd though. I can imagine a relative of my ex possibly saying something like that. They are... interesting to say the least, but they would never cross that line with a child.

Amy - posted on 05/29/2012

I agree 100% agree with Jennifer,! What grown man says that about a 14 year old girl let alone his daughter. Most men, or maybe it's just my husband is already freaking out about when my daughter is older and wants to start dating.

Jennifer - posted on 05/29/2012

I probably would react the same way you did. He may not have thought it would sound that bad, but in no way should a grown man think anything like that about any 14 year old girl, let alone his own daughter. As a parent, you have to protect your children at whatever cost. If it means pissing off some relatives, then so be it.