Amanda - posted on 09/29/2011 ( 19 moms have responded )
I am at the end of my rope with my son and I don't knoww how to deal with him any more.
He is 3 and a 1/2 and awfully behaved. He hits, bites, kicks, scratches, punches, spits, he's rude, he backchats, throws things, constantly teases other kids, never listens even though he knows right from wrong and he's deliberatly disruptive.
I have used time outs, quiet time in his room to calm down, I have shouted at him, got down to his level and explained to him what he has done and why we don't do it. I have given him choices as to how to behave (you can throw the toy and I will take it away or you can play nicely and keep playing) I have ignored it, taken away toys and priveliges. I have tried everything I can think if with him and he still behaves appallingly, he doesn't care.
I don't know what I have done wrong with him to behave like this. My 2 yr old daughter thankfully hasn't copied any of his behaviours.
We were at the supermarket a few weeks back and he was being rude, shouting and calling me names which I was ignoring. Because he didn't get a reaction he picked up a rock and threw it at my head.
Wednesday I was doing my weekly shop, he called an old lady stupid. I told him that we don't speak to people like that and apologised to the lady, his response "well she's a silly lady"
Yesterday I had to go to shopping centre. I was in the shop and I had told him before that if he ran off and didn't stay close to me that I would strap him in the stroller. While I was paying, he ran out of the shop and ran off through the shopping centre because "it was funny"
At playgroup he threw a chair at another child, because he wanted to.
I tell him not to jump on the lounge so he climbs on the back and jumps as far as he can off, he plays in tha garden and I find him on the roof of his cubby house. I tell him if he wants something that he can't reach to ask and I find him on the top shelf of his sisters book shelf.
I feel like I am fighting a loosing battle with him and everyone thinks I'm over reacting and should suck it up and get on with it.
He can be such a sweet little thing when he wants be and I love him to death but I don't know how much longer I can deal with this on my own.