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Megan - posted on 07/28/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Thought this would be the perfect place to talk about this since i don't really feel comfortable putting it somewhere where my baby daddy could read it...childish i think but it makes it more comfortable for me being in a place where i think some of you can relate.

I had my daughter in april and since bringing her home it feels like im the only one doing anything for her not that im complaining about that i would do anything under the sun for my daughter.

My bf works and since being on maternity leave i just got a job about a week ago. Granted my bf goes to work everyday and provides for us bc before this i didn't have any money coming in but he comes home after work sits at the computer playing games until its time for him to go to bed it just feels like im ALWAYS the one getting up in the middle of the night to soothe our crying daughter changing all her diapers doing the laundry cleaning the house it just makes me feel like im the only one doing any of the work with her and it drives me FREAKIN CRAZY! i just wish he would step in more im starting schoool soon and a part time job idk how im going to be able to keep up with our daughter the housework homework and work anyone else feel this way?

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Katherine - posted on 07/30/2010

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He he, Shelly. I thought you were going to say he CHANGED after he read that.
Yes it's a neverending rant. The husband never helps. There are a select few, but very few. It's agonizing, frustrating, infuriating and hopeless. I don't know why they don't get it.

Big deal: they work. At least they can come home and RELAX. Our job is 24/7 no breaks, not even pee breaks! I always have the circus in the bathroom with me, can't even pee by myself.

I have tried to explain it to no avail, so I left him with the kids for like 8 hours and he didn't fair very well BAHAHA. *evil laugh*

Shelly - posted on 07/28/2010

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It is the rant of of women with children. Just tell him point blank that you need help (with out yelling), or just stop doing his laundry & cooking for him. Men often don't realize we need help & when they do help us they expect a reward.

Any time I am upset about being the only one who does night shift for our kids, even though I work too all I get is that he unloads the dishwasher & will fold clothes.

It is really rough, I find I want to kill my husband less when my babies get around a year old. My husband was gulity of coming home and zoning out on his iphone or the computer & we recentlty has a blow out about he is not getting enough attention, but why would I sit next to someone for 45 minutes & try to talk to them knowing they really aren't paying attention to me.

So this is total retarded, but now on my daily list of to-do's I had to add make sure I pay attention to my husband, hug or kiss him at least once a day, and find a way to compliment him so he feels important too. Honestly he is more likely to give me naps & help now that I make him feel special too, but lordy it is hard work. I am finding a little sex and attention will make my husband much more likely to help me on a daily basis. I resented him because I never slept & he resented me because his needs weren't met & all he felt like I ever did was complain.

I had actually been venting my frustrations on my private FB page & my dumb ass left my page up on our home computer. Phew talk about a blow out!! You have to make sure you clear your history daily or your BF can go back and click on links that will take him to your posts. But in my case I just left my FB page up.

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