Bad things happening to good people

Nikki - posted on 07/01/2011

I didn't get to finish my post before because somebody didn't want to go to bed!

I am fine, it's not me that I am worried about. I just hate seeing people I know hurting and it makes it worse when it's two wonderful mothers. I am a little emotional at the moment and my empathy and compassion are over taking all of my other emotions.

It just makes me question everything about life. It does make me want to make the most of life, appreciate the small things, hold onto those I love and not take things for granted because at the end of the day it doesn't matter if your the most giving, caring and beautiful person cancer doesn't discriminate. :(

Nikki - posted on 07/01/2011

I have been trying to find this post!!! Darn glitches. You WILL be here a long time Step, your amazing and strong. I suppose the one thing we have to be thankful for is our technology. Being able to diagnose earlier, treat more effectively etc.

Katherine - posted on 06/29/2011

My mom and aunt had breast cancer almost at the same time. So did my grandmas. So my risk is huge. I smoke too which is really bad.
However they did do a genetic test and it's not that so that's a relief. My mom just got it again last year she had been in remission for 15 years.
I don't know what God's plan is, but my philosophy is that he doesn't control these things and it is free will, and nature taking it's course.
I know he COULD intervene, but sometimes I wonder why he doesn't.
Maybe there IS nothing he can do about things like that. I know there are miracles out there, it's just so confusing....

Brie - posted on 06/29/2011

I agree 100% with you about the god thing... I have several people in my family I have lost to cancer or they have beat it.. Right now my grandma I am very very close to is a 2 year survivor of Breast cancer.. I had a first cousin who was only just under 2 years older than me pass away at age 4 on easter from cancer.. you tell me what child deserved that?? and still say you believe?? My grandfather at the young age of 55 died of cancer.. (my grandma who is a survivor, her husband) we were very very close also.. he always had a good word or ear for everyone.. did his best for everyone.. had no known enemies and everyone loved him.. his funeral service was so big there wasn't even standing room in the church and the funeral home visitation people were packed out in the halls... he was the kind of man who would do for you before he would do for himself... he was a very selfless man!!! and yet we got to sit and watch him suffer through cancer for three years.. granted he was diagnosed in july one year and told he wouldn't live past thanksgiving that year and went on to live 2.5 years longer.. he suffered very bad at the end and the last time i saw him (two weeks before he died, they lived out of state) i got to see him look at me and not even know who i was... I find it hard to believe in an all knowing and loving god when rapists and murderers go on living just fine and amazing people have to deal with the worst fates... sorry but thats just how i feel... my heart goes out to you nikki as well as hugs.. if you need to talk feel free to message me even if you just need to vent!

Stephanie - posted on 06/29/2011

I ♥ you and you are an AMAZING friend. You brought tears to my eyes. Who knows why things happen the way they do or why some of us get dealt a shitty hand and some people get by so easily when it seems like they're unworthy. I have really tried to be a good person all of my life but so much has happened. I still believe in God but I do stop and say 'WTF??? What gives?!?!'. I try not to think too much about having cancer bc it pisses me off and I don't want to feel that way. I don't know what God's plan is or where the rhythms of the universe will send me but I just hope and pray that I can live to raise my children and share their lives. I think I'll be around for a while. This world can't get rid of me that easily. ; )

Kelly - posted on 06/29/2011

{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}
I fought lymph node cancer in my early 20's, it is a life long battle because you never know when it is going to rear it's ugly face again, in the same place or some new location.

....I was actually thinking about coming here to complain about that because the first half of my life took all my efforts, I'm lazy as f*** now, and I can NOT get insurance, but when I think back to the actual fighting, all that seems so insignificant now...

It's odd how this place coincides with what I'm thinking about sometimes.

Nikki - posted on 06/28/2011

Jane, I am so sorry for your loss :(

Stifler's - posted on 06/28/2011

That sucks! Cancer is really horrible :(

Jane - posted on 06/28/2011

I just found out that a co-worker and friend who successfully battled stage 4 lymphoma some 15 years ago has it back again, I have lost several other friends to cancer, mostly to breast cancer or lung cancer, but one had malignant melanoma and another prostate cancer. Cancer sucks.

But then other diseases do too. I lost my husband six months ago because of a combination of diabetes and hospital "misjudgment," and I really HATE diabetes. My mother has Lewy Body Dementia so she is alive but most days is no longer home mentally so I hate that, too. I lost one uncle this summer to fast-moving leukemia and the other to a massive heart attack brought on by the first uncle's funeral.

Life is always unfair. The first half is usually gathering, earning, befriending, and learning. The second half is all about loss.

I can't tell you where God is in all of this because I am an atheist. But it does tell me one thing - enjoy every single day as much as you can.

Sneaky - posted on 06/28/2011

I'm so sorry Nikki :o(