Childcare drama....

Tabitha - posted on 01/21/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )

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I usually pride myself on being an exceptional judge of charactor. So when a potential daycare client came to interview at my home i had her pegged from the start as untrustworthy and unreliable. My head told me no way i can't care for her child, but my heart was telling me to give her a chance. So i gave her a chance and started that next week watching her child. I was told this was a long-term job and that they were stable. A few months into this job i found out that they had recently moved here from another state and were staying in a hotel, and had been for months now. They said they couldn't rent an apartment because they owed money and it was still on their record(red flag). But being the caring and sensitive person i am i told them i understood and wished them luck on finding a place soon. The first few months went pretty good,he was here on time and picked up on time. I was thinking maybe this wouldn't be so awful afterall. Then they told me in december that they would be leaving to georgia in the summer. I was crushed, not only for me but for the little boy, who apparently cried out for me often when he was at home. I knew it would be very hard on him. But all i could say was that i was sorry things didn't work out here and that i really hoped that they found a place soon. Thats when it got bad......The boy started getting "sick" at least 3 days out of the week for the last 2 months....they paid me late twice saying that the bank wouldnt make their check available.To say the least i was getting very annoyed and discouraged. Then after him being gone for an entire his mom called me. She told me that they were leaving in 2 weeks, and that the child would be staying at his dads till then. She said she would pay me and come get his things that night. She never showed up. I called her several times that night, no answer. I called her severl times the next day, no answer. Finally i got ahold of her through her hotel phone.
She told me she didn't show up because her car broke down. I told her she needed to call me and let me know when things like this happen, and out came every excuse in the book. She was to busy, she had to work, she wasn't feeling good,and yada yada. I was getting irritated with her lies and asked her if she was going to pay me. She told me no and started with the excuses again. I hung up on her.I am so dissapointed, she knew i needed that money desperatley for diapers. To me it's like stealing from the poor to give to the poor, it just doesn't work. I understand people have money issues, but if i didn't pay my rent i would get kicked out right? Same with her...if she didn't pay her son wouldn't be able to come back till she did. Only she didn't need me anymore...she used me plain and simple and she doesn't even care. I never even got to say goodbye. She is a coward for not telling me the truth, at least then i would be more forgiving, but she straight out lied to me and thats what hurts the most.She has no idea how ashamed i was to have to go door to door to get the 7 bucks i needed for diapers. She didn't give a rats ass about my feelings or her son's. And it really hurts alot....my faith is shaken and i just dont understand....i don't know how to forgive and forget. I don't know what to do.

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Lacye - posted on 01/21/2011

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Sometimes, forgive and forget is not going to be the easiest thing to do. People like that don't think about other people's feelings or needs. They think of their own. You are a good person for giving her a chance even when all of your warning signals were going off about this woman. You wanted to help out. In a way, this can be a good thing. You don't have to forgive, but you can learn from this experience. I'm just sorry you had to go through this.

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