Anna - posted on 02/26/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )
i would like to start off by saying that i dont really like to judge on how other people raise their kids. everyone has their own way of doing things, but somthing happened last week that just really got to me.
we were visiting friends, who we see on a very regular basis, and our 16 month old daughter was playing with their 3 year old when she snatched something out of his hands. i am trying to teach them to share with eachother. he doesnt know the meaning of the word and she needs to start learning at sometime. the younger the better i say. i dont expect her to be uderstand strait away, but hopefuly by the age of 2 she will atleast know what sharing is. anyway, i went over to them, took the car off her and said "he is not allowed to snatch things from you and its not ok for you to snatch things from him. here, play with this car" at that moment his father walked in and said "ah, its ok. she is still too young to learn how to share" WTF? no wonder he doesnt know how to share. i was doing it just as much for his benifit as for hers. its not really fair if i tell him he cant snatch, but then she can.
i love that family and i love those kids, but seriously, sometimes i feel like they are a example for "parenting ~ what not to do". saying no to their kids having some chips like 5 times and then while saying no, getting the chip bag out of the cupboard. if the kids are doing something dangerous or have something they are not allowed, saying "no", but not stopping them or taking the item off them. they dont talk with their 3 year old because "he doesnt understand and cant answer, so there is no point". they talk to him. to do something or not, but they dont just chat to him. and wonder why he is behind in his speech (their daughter was too aparently)...and they look at me weird because i dont want my daughter sitting in front of the TV the whole day or because i dont let her drink cola.
i know i said i dont like to judge peoples parenting, but im feeling judged by people who really cant judge! just needed to vent... :)