Amanda - posted on 08/10/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )
I dont know what to do my husbnad constantly complains about how Im not productive and I dont always have the house cleaned. Yet I know no mom truly spends all day cleaning the whole house over n over but how the heck am I to clean a house when A I dont have the right cleaning supplies that wonrt damage my wood floors or my counter tops. We havent had money to go buy the right house cleaning supplies in over 2 months yet Im not the one who works because we cant afford the daycare. We live in a small 3 bedroom 2 bath little house with 3 kids and 2 rambunchis dogs. Everytime I try to mop with vinager and water he compalins because it smells. Everytime I put tons of febreeze on our kids beds from them wetting the bed the pee smell wont go away and for the past 2 weeks its been raining off and on so I cant really take the mattresses outside and clean them if I do i risk them being ruined and we cant afford new beds. I just dont get it does it make me lazy and a bad mom because I refuse to pick up toys and clothes that my kids and husband leaves around the house. I get told to be productive clean the house all because when he comes home during lunch and nap time i'm resting watching tv isnt that what most moms do. I do the dishes clean off dining room table everyday clean the toilets every other day constantly picking up clothes he comes home the first thing he does is take off his shirt and socks and just leaves them where ever he takes them off. Then as I said I got 3 kids that have tons of toys we don't have a play room and I understand as a kid not wanting to play in there small rooms all day and lately on days it don't rain its been about 90ish outside so I wont let them be outside to long. So yes they bring toys out and play in living room or hallway and b4 daddy gets home i make them put them in bedroom and b4 nap i do the same. So basically I feel like I'm just supposed to be a maid who cleans and cooks for my family but I know that's not who I will be or am. Hell even when I cook a good dinner not my husband nor my kids end up eating it all so Im sick off always doing so much around the house and never being truly recongized instead he just bitches aboutt hings I truly cant do anythign about due to money or mother nature and Im sick of it I dont know how to explain to him I do bust my ass trying to keep this house smelling good and being decent for people to be here but with 2 dogs and 3 kids in a small as cabin like home its hard to keep it clean longer than 3 freaking hours. I dont know what to do anymore so basically i will clean the home with what i have and if he dont like how it smells or looks then so be it but atleast I did as he asked.