How much stress are you under?

Katherine - posted on 12/13/2011 ( 26 moms have responded )

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I'm under quite a bit. An ex that doesn't pay child support, looking for a job, Christmas coming up etc......how about you?

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Belinda - posted on 05/17/2013

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Since my husband is home injured (hence why I am working so much) he is the playing "mum"...taking kids to school, meals, keeping house as best he can.

Things have settled a little with work. I came to realise that I was only killing myself with those hours, so I have had to turn work away...the stuff I am contracted to still takes a lot of time, but at least i can come home during the day and catch a few hours sleep!

It sucks not being able to see the kids as often as I should...but it is only temporary until hubby is healed.

Copius amount of coffee and wine help ;) lol

Jakki - posted on 05/08/2013

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Waaa! Belinda - is that list of stress factors for real?? That sounds like a complete nightmare!

I thought I was a bit stressed but when I read your post I decided my life is a bowl of cherries. Good luck with it all.


How do you feed your kids if you are working 12-16 hours per day?

Belinda - posted on 04/27/2013

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I have 4 special needs kids...an 8y/o that has significant development delay whom I have been fighting to get diagnosed with autism for 4yrs.

A 6.5y/o with development delay, ADHD and possible Prader Willi Syndrome- we are getting her tested for it as she has extreme food compulsion to the point we have at least 2 locks on our fridge/cupboards....she will even eat rotting food out the bin, and she hoards food.

a 5.5y/o who has gone completely backwards with toilet training due to extreme constipation, and I am constantly being called to the school to clean him up because of fecal overflow or the sheer amount of laxatives/medication he is on.

a 4y/o who has cystic fibrosis, who is thankfully in good health, but still requires daily treatments and physiotherapy to keep him that way.

My husband and I own a cleaning business, and he is in the army reserves and quite often goes away on courses. He has been off work and army for the last 2.5mths due to 2 injured shoulders that are looking at requiring surgery....

In the meantime, I am completing both our work, working 12-16hrs days, 7 days a week...and also taking kids to school and appointments.

I have been dealing with a problem client, where I have been busting my ass for the last month, doing much unpaid overtime to "keep the peace" with our contract, only to have it thrown in my face and all for nought due to one friggin woman with some sort of vendetta (though my husband is going to sort that one out for me...thank god!)

Needless to say, I have had to go back on my anxiety medication to help me cope with it all!! I am enjoying myself tonight though witha few wines, as i finally get a day off tomorrow....first one in 3.5weeks!!

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have 3 kids.. older one (7) with disabilities, second one (6)shes a trouble maker and the 3rd one (2) so hyper... father of the 2 first pays me child support whenever he wants.. i live with the 2 years old daddy he doesnt drive so i have to wake up every single morning to take him to work and pick him up.. have to deal with 3 kids at home .. i feel i dont have no life i feel stressed out im not happy with my life! i dont have no1 to watch the kids and cant afford a babysitter.. i feel like im going crazy. am i a bad mom for sayin all this stuffs?

Jodi - posted on 12/14/2011

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But Shannen, our income is higher to cover it - we know we'll get there by Christmas because of our advance bookings. You are trying to cope on your own with 3 kids and an ex who isn't paying.

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My bills are nothing in comparison to yours and I'm not coping so well with them. I have no idea how you do it. I have a full phone bill, vet bill, water bill, holiday to pay off and I just paid my mobile bill because that's all I could afford. I really really hope my ex comes through with CS this month otherwise I'm screwed.

Jodi - posted on 12/14/2011

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LOL, Shannen, I have them piled up for the business, and I just had our electrician call and ask where the rest of his money is (I paid him 90% of it), and he started swearing at me, and I WANTED to tell him to fuck off. But I told him instead that I didn't have to accept him abusing me on the phone and hung up on him.

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I'm a little stressed, I have bills that need to be paid and I've already had to put off and will be putting off until after christmas.

Adrienne - posted on 12/14/2011

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Stress?? What's that?? I work full time, go to school full time, take care of my 4 y/o and every other week my 9 y/o stepson, have my 22 y/o step son living with us and not doing much other than playing on the computer and going to school, 2 friends that have recently moved in due to them losing their homes and not having funds to get a place/pay rent, my husband's business is failing miserably, Christmas is around the corner, my mother just had surgery, and to top it off - I can expect to be layed off in March. GAH!! What stress? I'm fine...really....fine..... Wow. That feels a bit better actually....Thanks for the vent!



ETA: And my step daughter is having to close her store. Which means that SHE may be moving back home as well. Too many people and just one (steady) income. But according to the state I make too much for assistance. Really? $15/hour to support a family of 4 plus 2 housemates? We're spending about $300 a week on groceries! And that's eating cheap!



Okay - rant done...I think... ;-)

Stifler's - posted on 12/13/2011

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that sucks julianne that's pretty stressful i hope your pregnancy goes well xxx

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 12/13/2011

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Maybe. Don't feel too bad. I got married 3 weeks after my baby was born and wore maternity clothes to the ceremony!

Stifler's - posted on 12/13/2011

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I jsut don't feel comfortable in clothes at the moment I can get into size 14 (a large 14) but i didn't feel comfy maybe i need to go with a maxi dress LOL

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 12/13/2011

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That does make sense. I don't like having to buy fancy dresses either. I'm only one size down from you BTW and I hate that all the plus size dresses look so mumsy! Bleck I'm big boned not elderly and not fashion conciousl

Stifler's - posted on 12/13/2011

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thye're nice i just didn't think they would be like that? maybe they thought it was on damo's days off so they booked it and then found out he goes back to work before that. whoknows i am just not looking forward to buying yet another size 16 dress.

Stifler's - posted on 12/13/2011

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yah i just don't know why you'd decide to organise your wedding when your sisters husband just walked out. it's not like they planned it ages ago they only planned it after he walked out.

Stifler's - posted on 12/13/2011

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I want to stay home for christmas. but i am going away for liek 3 weeks. damo's brother decided to get married the 14th. damian has mandatory 10 days off from the 23rd to the 1st. his other sister, is breaking up with her husband (perfect timing people, so much consideration). and we have no money really due to a new washing machine and my phone got thrown in the pool so i really need a new one before i go away. and damo hasn't got really enough holidays up to take all that time off so he might have to just come back up here work and then come down.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 12/13/2011

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i'd rather be allowed to go back to NY for Christmas. It's ridculous! I'm married to a Canadian we have a baby and I can't go to the US because I might not be let back in

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 12/13/2011

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My baby won't sleep at all! Unless you count the 1/2 hour cat naps. Student loans refused my husband after he went to part time status even though they were dragging their asses about paper work all damn summer! I haven't heard if my visa extension has gone through even though I have about a week and a half left of my temporary visa. Oh and I am not allowed to leave Canada to go visit my family while my visa gets evaulated which I knew about but is still bull. Do not get me started on my ex, bills, or the cost of living in British Columbia because I am fed up with paying 5$ a gallon for milk Bloody Hell!

Jodi - posted on 12/13/2011

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Too much. I have no child support coming in either - my ex quit his freaking job to move to a job interstate and then quit THAT job and is now unemployed in a different state. So not only am I not getting any child support, but I also now have my son full time, which obviously ALSO costs more. So double barrel there. Moron. AND even though he said he was moving back (because there is plenty of work back here), I found out 2 days ago that's not happening.

But we have also just had to relocate our business and it has cost us about $100K that we simply do not have all of, so we are up to our ears in bills. I'm just stressed trying to figure out how to clear it all before Christmas.

And then, to make things worse, our Public Liability insurance company decided they wanted to get out of the type of business we are in, and gave us 4 days notice. FOUR FUCKING DAYS!!! We can't operate without it, and we have just been freaking out. A new one finally came through yesterday.

Oh, and my son currently has his end of year exams. That's just the icing on the cake......

My son finishes today, my daughter finishes school on Friday. Next week I am lying in EVERY morning. Screw it.

Let's just say, I'm over it all.

Carolee - posted on 12/13/2011

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I'm getting to the point of being stressed enough to not care anymore. I'm missing at least 2 Christmas celebrations and I am in no mood to care about the others right now. I'll make it to my immediate family's and Jason's immediate family's celebrations.

Amy - posted on 12/13/2011

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This year isn't as bad as past years but it's still stressful, I'm just telling myself if I make it to feb, it'll be tax return season so we'll get everything sorted out. It's been a rough couple of weeks with major appliances going, brakes and rotors that had to be replaced. Thankfully work isn't adding to the stress right now which is unusual.

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