Is cheating a deal-breaker for you and why?

Darla - posted on 01/13/2013

It's a definite dealbreaker for me. If you can't look at your partner the same way anymore, if your trust is broken, what's the point of being with him??

Cecilia Marie - posted on 07/25/2012

O YES

Keely - posted on 07/24/2012

yes because i dont want to go the rest of my relationship being worried and not trusting him. Its not worth it. I love my boyfriend very much and we also have a 7 month old son and we also have been in eachothers lives for along time but if he ever cheated on me i could maybe forgive him but i would never forget and it would kill me everyday worrying what hes doing. Again to me its not worth it.

Determined - posted on 01/11/2012

I have been cheated on before with exes and it was a deal breaker. With my husband...I don't know honestly part of me say yes because I have trust issues to begin with, BUT I vowed for better or for worse so I would at least try my hardest to fix things.

Heidi - posted on 01/11/2012

Most definitely! Ive been in that situation before and never again will I put up with a cheater! I deserve better then that. I now have the most amazing husband ever and I couldn't be happier.
My opinion once a cheater always a cheater! Let someone else have the cheater if thats what they want. Certainly not the life for me ;-)

Dianne - posted on 01/04/2012

many years ago i would have said yes, but like someone said earlier, it really depends on the whys and hows in that particular relationship
saying that i never condone it and it always remains in the back of your mind

Holly Janelle - posted on 01/02/2012

I don't think I would be able to live with the fact that another women was with him. It would crush me. i would never be able to look at him again. It would be over I wouldn't have anything to say to him. Agreed once a cheater always a cheater.

Sarah - posted on 01/02/2012

yes deal breaker i would never cheat the pain would cut so deeply so if my parnter cheated on me we would be over there and then and we have been together 11 years

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/27/2011

I don't believe "once a cheater always a cheater"

I was in a pretty fucking weird ass unhealthy relationship. I was trying to claw my way out any way that I could. I cheated in attempt to get caught. Chances are, he would not have cared. But trust me I tried. Anyway, after him, I have never cheated again.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/27/2011

Kristine, I am so sorry you are going through this. I hope you have a wonderful support system.

Keli, what situation? Sorry for asking, but if you do not want to share that is fine.

Definate deal breaker. There are 2 things that will break up my marriage...1. physical/emotional abuse 2. cheating. My husband knows this, and has known since day one. he feels the same way I do.

Tara - posted on 12/24/2011

yes

Keli - posted on 12/18/2011

It depends on the situation, like mine for example.

Jurnee - posted on 12/18/2011

YES

Aleks - posted on 12/18/2011

I used to think that yes, it would be a deal breaker - Naturally!
That was until I met my SO. Some of the shit he put up with me... and just generally the shit we have put up together.... Not so easy.
Although I reckon it would still be a difficult aspect for our relationship. And it could still be a deal breaker depending on who the cheating was with (ie, circumstances around the cheating), etc. And I guess what else was going on around our lives at the time.

Erin - posted on 12/18/2011

Once upon a time I was willing to give a second chance. But now that I'm a mother, there is no way. Absolute deal-breaker. There is more than just me to consider now. Of course I've been single for over 3 years because I refuse to put myself or my daughter in a position where we will be hurt again. So I'm probably not best person to ask lol.

Teresa - posted on 12/17/2011

I would have stayed forever no matter what (definitely NOT a healthy way to live though).

NOW? No way would I even contemplate 'working through it' for a second. Of course, I don't plan on ever getting the chance to wonder either....

NutMeg - posted on 12/16/2011

I like Kelly's answer alot, and it is in my opinion what I would do if it happened to me.

Lady Heather - posted on 12/16/2011

Yes. I have yet to personally witness a relationship successfully surviving infidelity. I've seen many get killed by it even with counseling and promises of change. My dad must have scarred me good because I would never believe a man who promised not to cheat again.

Kristine - posted on 12/15/2011

Yes it is. I found out my husband had cheated on me (3 yeasr ago) and I was the forgiving wife and wanted to save my marriage. Well there was that nagging feeling again this past summer and sure enough he was on "dating" sites. And not your typical sites. Then after I kicked him out I recently found out while we were dating right before we got married he was having an affair with a co-worker and it continued on after we were married. Needless to say I am so very heart broken and will never trust again. All of my serious boyfriends cheated on me and I thought this one was different. My whole marriage was a sham.I asked him why did you even marry me and he said it's because you wanted to. I didn't ask him. I also asked him how long the first affair went on and he said it was none of my business. So in opinion yes it is a deal breaker. Once a cheater always a cheater

Shannen - posted on 12/14/2011

Deal breaker for me. If I'd had solid proof that my ex did cheat he'd have been out on his arse but as it is the one time at the end that i suspected it, he left the next day.

Corinne - posted on 12/14/2011

I love my husband sooo much, but if he cheated, he'd be gone. End of.

Casey - posted on 12/14/2011

I would be devastated. He would be gone. And it would take a hell of a lot for him to convince me otherwise.

Liz - posted on 12/14/2011

It really depends. I've been married for 13 years, and now we have a small child. My husband is an excellent father and a wonderful friend. I couldn't walk away from that easily.

Bonnie - posted on 12/14/2011

I like Kelly's answer a lot. In majority of cases I would have to say yes, it is a deal breaker, but sometimes it depends on the situation.

Kelly - posted on 12/14/2011

I'd like to say Yes, and for a long time, it was, but now, I don't know. I've never been cheated on, so I cannot honestly say how I would react, but I can say that I love John so much right now that if I caught him cheating on me tomorrow, I would try to put our relationship back together.

Also, I've known good people who have fallen into a serious rut--barely speaking to each other, basically just living together--that has lead to affairs and they were able to re build their marriage into something better than it ever was.
So, I don't know. I hope I never have to deal with that.

Tina - posted on 12/13/2011

Once a person cheats you can never trust them again. You might decide to try and make things work but the fact is you will always be suspicious

Jayce - posted on 12/13/2011

Absolutely a deal breaker.

Stifler's - posted on 12/13/2011

Yeah. Because you could have told me what was wrong. We could have talked about it or had counselling. Having an affair to escape is wrong and just cheating because you want to and think you have the right to fuck anyone... well goodbye. I would never stay because i'd be so angry and bring it up probably every day until it eventually ended anyway.

Julianne - posted on 12/13/2011

yes...why? because its the worst betrayal EVER. I also like to keep a healthy vagina.

Carolee - posted on 12/13/2011

I have been in enough either open relationships or relationships where I've been cheated on to know that I'm too jealous of a person to deal with that crap. Jason knows that if he cheats, either the kids and I are moving or he is moving that same night. I would file for separation/divorce asap, too.

Shannintipton - posted on 12/13/2011

I think it depends. Long story. :p





** edit to add. Meaning I think it depends on WHY it happened in the first place.

Jane - posted on 12/13/2011

Yes.