Just Got Engaged!! Now i got daddy issues

Kelsey - posted on 02/05/2012

thanks kelly and yeah my parents were young when they had me *mom almost 20 and dad 19*



and i told him that i didnt want or need him to pay for anythignbut wasnt going to say no if he offered..which he did but only for him side. as much as i want him to walk me down that aisle i have spoken to him since and he has said that if he absoulutly has to he will....so now im not sure if i even wnat him there :( to much dram already and im not even getting married till oct 2013

Kelly - posted on 02/05/2012

Wow...your dad is younger than my husband! Your step dad is younger than ME! I feel old.



Anyway, to get to the point, just don't let him pay for anything and tell him that you want ONE reception for everyone. You do not want to spend your wedding day rushing around to different parties--weddings are hurried and rushed enough as it is. If he's not paying, he has no right to dictate who is coming and who is not.



As for the "Grandpa" title, I wouldn't worry about that. He is very young to be called Grandpa and it's probably just making him feel old--mid life crisis type thing. My son calls my father by his first name too, and we are actually on wonderful terms now. It's just what the two of them prefer, so I don't bother trying to change it.



Dads are funny like that--we always want them here no matter what they've done to us. Mine got addicted to meth, nearly killed all 3 of us on several occasions, and forced us to live on the streets for 9 years. Do you think he walked me down the isle? Of course he did, because I wanted him there. It's not silly, it's completely illogical, but unfortunately, it's just the way we are.

Kelsey - posted on 02/04/2012

hmmm sounds sooooo tempting.... i should put my dad next to my step dad my dad is 38 and my stepdad is 27 so it would be one interesting night. the worst thing is i havnt told my fiance about all this drama he doesnt like my father and im the silly one who wants to try and patch things up with him. my fiance just thinks its a waste of my time

Stifler's - posted on 02/03/2012

when we were planning our wedding my mother in law wanted to dictate the seating and not be next to my husband's step mum. I put them next to each other at the same table HAHA. people end up embarrassing themsselves in those types of situations.

Kelsey - posted on 02/03/2012

thanks and i wnt oi dont take crap from people

Stifler's - posted on 02/03/2012

That sucks mate, don't let anyone dictate your special day. Been there. Tell him he is being immature and to get over it.