Lazy partner = messy house! Argh!!

Pia - posted on 04/07/2011 ( 24 moms have responded )

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I know, I know, another thread about a lazy husband.
I've been at a sleep clinic with my daughter for the last four nights. I came home exhausted. And I walk in and I swear to god the house has never been so messy!
COME ON!! you didn't even have kids to look after!! How hard is it to put your dirty dishes in the dishwasher!? How hard is it to fold the clothes (or at least place them in a basket) after taking them out of the dryer. Seriously, they were on the fucking floor!!
I honestly want to pull his pubic leg hairs out one by one p cause him extreme pain right now. After crying from sheer exhaustion and frustration of course...

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Sneaky - posted on 04/10/2011

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I have officially become a nag - my husband has made me a NAG!!!! AND HE STILL DOESN'T DO THE FREAKING DISHES.

Sorry, just had to get that off my chest.

Pia - posted on 04/10/2011

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Exactly, why should we ask him to change a nappy, why should we ask him to put his dirty plate in the kitchen (maybe even the dishwasher...).
My partner is a baker, so he works nights and goes to bed around 5pm. He always thinks that he can use his tiredness as an excuse, but he gets at least 6 hours unbroken sleep every night and days off from his job!
I get up to my toddler 3 times a night, and my newborn 4 times a night. Then I clean, cook, shop, wash and play with my kids, daily. I don't are what time you start work, that is way more tiring!

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Shannon - posted on 04/27/2011

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The first couple years of my marriage my husband would do this... i went on strike (this was when i was still in the "workforce") I came home after pulling a double shift and the house looked as if a tornado went thru it, I left him and the kids at the house and went to my mom's for the night, when he called i said i wasn't coming back until he had cleaned up the mess and started helping out. Now that i am a SAHM he doesn't have to worry about anything but i know that if something happens and i need to leave for a couple days (kids in the hospital or emergency in the family) my house will be taken care of while i am gone :-)

Michelle - posted on 04/26/2011

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Have you tried talking to him?? it may not work but at least you tried something. I work 3 days a week he doesnt work, he looks after our daughter while im at work but thats the extent of his helping. sometimes hell change a nappy but other than that Im left to work, look after our daughter cook clean and do washing. Although after a conversation about it every now and then he will do something till he sees his mum the stupid wench Good luck

Amanda - posted on 04/26/2011

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My husband does the same thing with the dirty wash...He puts it on the floor right next to the hamper and the socks are always like crumpled and inside out. It drives me NUTS! lol

Nikki - posted on 04/11/2011

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We need to start a competition for the "worst hubby habits" lol I swear my hubby would win! I love him and I can't complain when it comes to him changing nappies, bathing, dressing our daughter but housework, no clue.

I was thinking about this last night, in 6 months he has done the dishes twice, never washed a load of clothes, he swept the floor once I think. He doesn't pick up anything, everything he touches gets left on the floor or the couch.

I let him get away with it because up until now I have been a sahm with one very easy to look after 17 month old, so I really do have the time to do it and generally unless I am unwell I don't mind. But I went back to work today 2 days a weeks, so I will be insisting that he pull his weight on the days that I work.

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Brad cleans up quite a bit, i give him a list of chores to do though, i have to ask usually, but its better than what he use to do...I went on a trip home for a week and came back...he was after having friends over drinking and playing games....what a mess..after traveling for 8 hours on a bus all i wanted to do was sleep but i couldn't even see the bed! Now he would never do that again because of my reaction...

Jodi - posted on 04/10/2011

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I was j/k Amber :D

But I reckon if my husband said to me "Oh, you didn't dust", he'd want to start running, LOL!!

Amber - posted on 04/10/2011

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Not all clean men are gay :) Chad is a nut-job about the house sometimes. I want to say, "Hello, a 4 year old and two dogs live here!"

I'll leave some paperwork on the counter (in a neat pile or in a folder), and he'll just have to clean it up. Then I'm screwed because only the walls in this house know where the shit actually ends up! I'll scrub the kitchen, bathrooms, and floors and he'll say "Oh, you didn't dust."

I always thought that I was a clean person until he and I started living together. Now, I feel like a slob even though I know I'm nowhere near it...he's just neurotic :) haha

Bonnie - posted on 04/10/2011

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Jodi, LOL no he isn't gay. He actually just got married a year ago and they are having their first baby in a couple of months. He was very picky with who he got into a relationship with though. Maybe he was having trouble finding a woman who could keep up with him LOL.

Stifler's - posted on 04/10/2011

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Noo my dad is straight and he does all the housework because my mum works Monday to Friday 9 til 3 and he does shift work and he hates mess. Maybe that's why my husband angers me when I go out and come home and he hasn't done the dishes or taken it upon himself to get the washing off or fold the basket of clean clothes that have been thrown everywhere and Logan has trashed the house, he can't shine a candle to my old man.

Jodi - posted on 04/10/2011

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Bonnie, was he gay? My brother and his partner are such perfectionists like that, and we've decided it is because they are gay :P They just don't think the same way as other blokes, LOL.

Jodi - posted on 04/09/2011

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OMG, I just read that as " How hard is it to put your dirty clothes in the dishwasher" and I'm thinking "why the fuck would anyone want dirty clothes in the dishwasher?" Yes, I need more sleep......

But I also totally hear you - my hubby will have a day off and sit on his behind all day, and it just craps me off. i work too. ok, so I work at home, but I still have a business to run and a household to run. Where is my day off????

I shouldn't complain, he really is very good at other times. And if I ASK he will be really good, but it just pisses me off that I should have to even ask.

Bonnie - posted on 04/09/2011

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I think most men are like this. I odd one isn't. I use to go college with a guy who hated being dirty and hated clutter. The slightest stain on his shirt would freak him out. You walk into his apartment and it was spotless, not one thing out of place. You could swear a woman lived there, but no it was just him. It's kind of funny now that I think back to it lol.

Allicia - posted on 04/07/2011

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Same with my husband. the dishwasher could be empty and he will have a sink full of dishes. Leaves food wrappers all over the kichen, soda cans all over, dirty cloth on the floor RIGHT NEXT to the basket they go into. MEN!!!

Mel - posted on 04/07/2011

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I find it amazing so many men think this is acceptable, you poor thing. My hubby knows how much I tear into him even for forgetting to do something small, so he does much more then his fair share. Its hard drumming things into them,. They just dont pay attention

Stifler's - posted on 04/07/2011

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I often go stay at my parents for a week (they live 600km away) and come back and Damian hasn't done the dishes since I left. WE HAVE A DISHWASHER! How hard is it to put them in there and press rinse until there's enough to wash? Or just run a sink of water and wash a plate and a glass and the frying pan?

Sneaky - posted on 04/07/2011

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Oh Pia :o( Wait till he is asleep before you pull out the tweezers . . . . maybe hot wax would work better (more damage in less time???)

Amber - posted on 04/07/2011

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Where is Barb? She will give you some amazing tips on how to whip him into shape! haha :)

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