Let your babys be babys!!!!!

Janielle - posted on 12/16/2010

i think i love you!! lol! im also tired of people saying babies are "delayed" because they havent done something by a specific age! worried that your 8 month old doesnt crawl? he may never, and walk at 9 months!! every baby is different and learns at a different rate! dominic will be 11 mos in 2 days! hes pretty normal with most milestones, doesnt stand or walk alone, but that doesnt worry me, he will when hes ready! i love my baby being a "baby" but i also love it that he understands and listens to me! society is way too concerned with having mini adults!!!

Aleks - posted on 12/13/2010

Shall do Tracey :-)

And yeah, that is one of the reasons these mums rub me up the wrong way. One woman wrote how her 18mth old could count to 20, receite all her abc's, put her own shoes on (the right feet, which she specifically pointed out), and went on and on about what her bloody kid could do. She started the new conversation about it! It was blatant showing off!!!

Makes even the strongest, experienced and relaxed mum feel bad and insecure about her own parenting skills/abilities and that of her child. And that is what sparks these other women trying to go and chase up and force their kids to do things they are not ready, most of the time putting undue pressure on these poor little souls. God, I had one mother asking what she could do to make her child learn to crawl!!! And there was these hoards of women telling her all sorts of rubbish (but some were telling her what is correct)! When I mentioned that you can't make/teach a child to crawl and at the same time showed my displeasure at women who were encouraging it (the daft ideas that is) I was scoffed at and said I was rude (may be I was.... lol, thru sheer frustration at the stupidity of some people!). That mother (who started the conversation/question on getting her infant to crawl) later came back to confirm that she did eventually managed to "teach" her LO to crawl. Ef-wit!



Oh and btw I don't feel my child is challenged and she only sometimes puts 2 words together and she is almost 22mths! My boy was even slower I think. But yeah, it gets me, I guess cos one of the reasons is that my kids don't/didn't communicate so well this early, but that doesn't mean anything. I heard somewhere that Einstein didn't start talking till he was 3!!! I believe I have pointed this out somewhere (more than once I think). Kinda nice way of saying its ok, it doesn't matter if your child talks well at this age or not, as your child can and probably is just as smart if not smarter than some of the others.

I have seen posts/threads where childhood educators have themselves commentated and mentioned how a childs intelligence cannot truely be measured till they are like 9 or so, and how quickly and well they speak early is not a true measure of their IQ. Put some of these bragging women in their place...LOL

It was beautiful to watch/read :-)

Stifler's - posted on 12/13/2010

They annoy me because all kids are different and often their kid is PERFECTLY NORMAL like not sitting up at 5 months etc. Hardly anyone's kid I know sat up by themselves by then!!

Sneaky - posted on 12/13/2010

I didn't start my oldest on solids until she was over 7 months old . . . and then I didn't toilet train her until she was three and a half. Both times she had herself sorted in about five days, because she was READY for it and I wasn't trying to push her too young! (BTW, my second daughter started solids at five months and she couldn't get enough - she was ready :o) ).

Aleksandra you know what breaks my heart about those discussions? Why I sit there and hate them and sometimes cry? Because I know so many mums who have (or have had) 'challenged' children (I'm one of them) and would go to a stupid thread were mums are complaining that 'my 21 month old can't count to ten without missing 7' and I'd just be fucking grateful that my 21 month old was finally putting two words together in a sentence. Those discussions only make everyone feel bad, because it is a sad fact of life that there is ALWAYS going to be someone BETTER! If you do ever go off in a snarky mood and let rip, let me know and I'll back you up!

Laura - posted on 12/13/2010

I've said it before, we spend the first few years of their lives teaching them to walk and talk and spend the next 18 telling them to sit down and shut up :)

Susanne - posted on 12/13/2010

I can understand it if its their first kid everyone i know was like that with the first. By the time you get to the second all you care about is how much sleep you get. Third its damn i hope this one doesnt learn to talk too early because the other two are driving me nuts. Fourth its dont grow up too quick because i'll want another baby and i cant have one. Maybe that last ones just me lol.

Aleks - posted on 12/13/2010

i hate going into the birth month and year community for my LO's birth month (but do it just to roll my eyes... ). At around the 18mth mark they all were concerned about their child's height and especially the weight (and how their kids didn't eat enough)... seriously kids that were on the 10-20th percentile and ate 3 meals a day with 1 or 2 snacks!!! (May be it irritated me cos I have a toddler that eats if I'm lucky 1 proper meal a day with may be 1 or 2 snacks and that is it, who is below charts for weight and I don't find it necessary to post this kind of dribble). Now its "my kid can only count to 10 but misses 7 and 8, recite some abc's, knows the colours blue red and yellow but not pink and green, and knows some shapes.... Should I be concerned? Do I need to teach him/her more?" This for 21-22mths old. I kid you not... its all the rage now in that community to see what kid can do what! I feel like writing something really rude and nasty every time I see such threads: "This is not a competition! Stop showing off your kid! As there are mums out there who have children who do not do any of these and are feeling very insecure and worried! I am over hearing about what your or any body else's kid can or can't do!!! IT's not a race!"
May be one day if I am in a really bad mood I will... he hehe

Katherine - posted on 12/12/2010

Exactly.

Laura - posted on 12/12/2010

I know my son turned 2 in October and all my in-laws were pushing to get him potty trained in August because I have a new baby coming in Feb. He asks to go sometimes but I'm not going to push him cuz then he'll rebel. I know my son. It would be nice to have him out before the baby comes but I'm not going to push him if he's not ready.

Katherine - posted on 12/12/2010

I was JUST going to start a thread on potty training.

I went to the community Terrible Two's and there must have been 4 threads on "How do I train my 2yo?"
Geez let them be ready! My daughter is 20mo and I'm not pushing anything with her. I did with my first and she ended up having accidents all the time.

Bonnie - posted on 12/12/2010

My sister in-law and her husband use to stand their son on his feet at 2 months old to try to get him to stand and they put him on the potty at 9 months old. Yes, he did pee if they held him on it long enough, but geez. Every 10 minutes they were asking him if he had to go potty. It's at the point that now he is almost 2.5 years and they still ask him every 30 minutes if he has to go potty. They pushed it on him so much, you would think by now, he would definately be on his own, but he is not. Whenever I see them do these things, I just want to kick them both in the ass! It's so annoying.

Stifler's - posted on 12/12/2010

Baha I agree. You can't actually make them roll or crawl or walk anyway!

Amber - posted on 12/10/2010

I also don't get it! Sometimes your child will be advanced in one thing, but slow on another. My son started walking at 11 months and had a good vocabulary and diction by 2yrs old. But he didn't want to potty train until 3.
It all evens out in the end. Just because you're baby walked first, doesn't mean they are going to be a sports super star. It just means they walked first and you had to chase them around longer than somebody else did.

Renae - posted on 12/10/2010

I would like a dollar for every time I have typed one of the following:

"the normal range for crawling is 6 to 10 months"
"the normal range for walking is 10 to 18 months"
"75% of babies will sleep through the night regardless of what you do when they are biologically, physiologically and developmentally ready and not before!"

I get sick of repeating myself but I have to due to the dozens of stupid responses from people who dont have a clue.

I also like to remind people that many highly intelligent people develop SLOWER than normal because their brains develop to a "deeper" level (for want of a better way to explain it)... so there! LOL :)

Renae - posted on 12/10/2010

Here, here!

Katherine - posted on 12/10/2010

Potty training is another big one. There will be piggy back posts of that.
My son is 6mo, why can't I get him to pee in the potty?
I know there's EC, so I'm not talking about that.

Laura - posted on 12/09/2010

That's my point, you blink and suddenly their 2 or 4 or 18 :) and not babies anymore. Why do they try to make them grow up so fast? The only reason my 2 year old walked so early is because he had a big bro to keep up with

Lacye - posted on 12/09/2010

My daughter didn't hold her own cup until she was 13 months old, you want to know why she didn't, because she damn well didn't want to! LOL Kids will be kids, why do people want them to grow up so fast?

Katherine - posted on 12/09/2010

Oh I know. "How do I make my son crawl?"

You don't!!!!

It's ridiculous IMO....these people. I'm sick of the posts period(most)

Sharon - posted on 12/09/2010

The most annoying one is "my 9 month old son is such a cry baby, how can I make him less of a mummy's boy?" WTF??

~Jennifer - posted on 12/09/2010

Don't worry.....In a couple of years when they say "where did the time go? / OMG I can't believe he/she is so grown up', we can kick back and laugh about all the things they missed while pushing them so hard to be 'the best'.

Tabby - posted on 12/09/2010

I AGREE!! Some kids are advanced and others do things on their own time... my daughter took her first steps at 9 months too but she was always in a hurry to get places lol as soon as I told a friend she was walking they started pushing their daughter to walk... the poor girl hadn't even learned to crawl yet!