Maybe next time :(

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So i got my period today, and cried...I was pretty sure i was pregnant this time. Wishful thinking. I had a miscarriage at the beginning of December, I think the c-section broke my box. Its such a piss off because with gabby, first time and bamn heres a baby, now sex is feeling more like work, and i really really want another baby before she gets too old and she ends up resenting the baby instead of having a little side kick.

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Jaime - posted on 02/09/2011

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Sorry to hear that Julianne. A friend of mine is trying to conceive as well and she told me that her doc said to wait 2 to 3 days in between sex sessions so that your husband can regenerate his sperm. Keeping my fingers crossed for you! ♥

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Vashti - posted on 02/10/2011

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the last thing you want to do is stress out about getting pregnant....try to relax...i took me 2 years the first time to concieve( thats with fertility help) and nearly 2 years the second time with help again, so hang in there, the more stress you put on yourself about getting pregnant, the longer it will take. How old is your first child now? If and when you do conceive this time, I encourage you to make your older child a very big part of of the whole process. I constantly talked to my son about the new baby coming. One thing that helped was that we had already decided on the name of the baby so that seemed to help him, he really took to big brother idea. When we said prayers at night we would include the baby, so it wasn't so much of a blow to him when baby did come along, and we made it a big deal about him. Here is something that I learned...when the new baby comes, still make your older child your focus, as the baby will sleep most of the time, so your older child still gets the same amount of attention. I wish you all the very best in conceiving. Good luck and be patient. it will happen!

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Sorry to hear about the miscarriage, Julianne! We're also trying and it's been 4 months now without any luck, and Roxanne was a birth control baby so I just naturally assumed it would happen quickly.

Have you tried tracking when you're ovulating?

Melissa - posted on 02/09/2011

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how old is your first? SO sorry about the miscarriage. I wanted a close gap too so sex felt like something we had to do both werent into it and it just upset us trying to work out the right times the maybe baby thing didnt work at all , but when we went we booked into the fertility centre we fell pregnant cause Id stopped stressing about it, even paid for the first appointment not knowing I was already pregnant. They just do simple blood tests to tell you when you can conceive have you thought about that? But Im not sure how long it has been that you have been trying. I think things will happen at the right time. Sounds a little like us thought I didnt think I could have a baby and after 2 yrs the week we got back together after 7 months apart I was pregnant and second tme 13 months later after I WASNT stressed anymore we conceived

Christy - posted on 02/07/2011

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It's really soon after your M/C to worry about it right now. Give it a couple of more months. Happened to me, too! Sorry about your M/C, BTW.

Stifler's - posted on 02/06/2011

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Boo! :( Don't have sex to conceive, do it for fun. I know lots of people on IVF who desperately want kids and no luck and they are just like "we only seem to have sex to try and conceive" and it has made them really miserable :(

Amber - posted on 02/04/2011

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Awww. I'm sorry. That's got to be miserable for you. Enjoy making the baby and try not to focus on whether or not it will happen.

Hoping for better luck next month.

Iridescent - posted on 02/04/2011

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Let a little stress go! Yes, it's sad and frustrating. But even with an 8 year gap between some of my kids, they get along great! And our oldest helps with the youngest ones, and they absolutely adore him! A larger gap may be easier on you, and it will absolutely give you the knowledge and experience from your first that you can't get any other way, and make the second even more joy and less worry.

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