Moms: We love them but..........

Joanna - posted on 12/15/2010

My mom is wonderful. Sometimes she gently suggests parenting tips I don't agree with (like using spankings, or letting my 8 week old cry a little to see if she'll sleep), but it's gently and she never pushes it. my MIL is pretty good too, in fact she never tells me what to do... however, sometimes she does do things with my kids without asking that I'm not fond of, but that's a whole other story!

Barb - posted on 12/15/2010

i probably should have avoided this thread at this point in my life. Let's just say there is a reason i moved 3000 miles away from my mother.
my MIL on the other hand. I am the daughter she never had and she is the mother i never had. I love that woman. She always backs up my parenting, even with Bob and Debbie who aren't my bio kids, but her bio grandkids. The only trouble i had was with my MIL's mom, Great Gma Miller lol i love her. Jr was about 3 or 4, it was the holidays and he hadn't eaten much, Gma M was giving him pumpkin pie with whipped cream. I said "Gma, Jr didn't eat much of his food and i told him he can't have desert" Gma said "well i'm a GREAT Gma and i'm allowed to give him what i want, it's the LAW!" hahahaha my MIL leaned over and said "just go with it, it's only pie"

my mother has been married 3 times. All 3 of those marriages, the years combined, don't add up to the number of years i've been married to my husband. Yet she still insists she knows how to maintain a healthy marriage better than i do.

She has been to my house 6 times in the last 18 years, and i've been to hers about the same. So she has seen my son probably a total of 12 times in his entire life, yet she wants to tell me what i'm doing wrong, even though he's never been in trouble, he's smart, goal oriented.. i'm stopping, because i'm about to go onto a big tear here.. i'm stopping now. going to have more coffee and calm down.
i like my mom the most when i don't have to see, hear or talk to her.

Bonnie - posted on 12/14/2010

Katherine, my mother is like yours...always on my case and telling me what to do.
My mother inlaw is like yours as well, very relaxed. She will give her opinion, but that's it, the rest is up to you. If you need help, ask her for it.

Nikkole - posted on 12/14/2010

Yea my mother and mil are VERY opinionated and try to push there ways on us and my mom will not discipline my son when she watches him and if i do she will baby him and gets him out of time out drives me insane!!

Katherine - posted on 12/14/2010

Please God tell me I will NEVER be that way with my kids when they have kids.

Stifler's - posted on 12/14/2010

My mum AND MIL are the same. Has ZERO respect for my parenting ability because I didn't breastfeed and don't do everything they say.

Nikki - posted on 12/14/2010

Glad that my pain can cheer someone up ;P :)

Katherine - posted on 12/13/2010

Oh that makes me feel so much better. I've been living with mine until I find a place to live also. I am going to lose it. She is a nutter!
I was going to join a commune or something.....just saying.
She tries to parent my 5yo which drives FUCKING batty.
Sydney comes home from school and she's in her school bag taking out her stuff!!!

Nikki - posted on 12/13/2010

My mum is the same Katherine, it does my head in. Even worse because we have been living with her for 6 months while we try and find a house. I am at my wits end, I swear to god sometimes it takes all of my energy to refrain from slapping her, and you know I am not a violent person! If we don't find a house in the next month I am contemplating life in a tent.

Amber - posted on 12/13/2010

Shall we just share the good ones and ship the other two off together? :) haha

Katherine - posted on 12/13/2010

See my MIL is great about not doing it. She is relaxed, my mom is really uppity.

Amber - posted on 12/13/2010

My mom is wonderful about NOT doing this. My MIL, not so much. At least she lives 5 hours away....for now.
I feel for you! Sometimes, you've just got to pretend like you're listening and ignore them.