Megan - posted on 09/08/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )
I dont know what to do at this point but i feel i have lost my husband.
In the morning he wakes up and plays world of war craft he comes home and plays it on his lunch and after work hes on it all night. Chores are not getting done he expects me to do all of them. Im literally exhausted. I have gotten to the point where i feel like his carelessness is effecting me, He doesnt care to do chores and i refuse to do what he has agreed to do. For instance its his turn for dishes, i refuse to do them because he literally waits for me to break down and do them , he will complain that theres nothing clean so i tell him to wash something because i just dont want to do it anymopre im to the point where i only wash what i need. he doesnt pick up after himself he leaves plates and garbage next to his computer and i am coming quite sick of it. I have tried telling him that i feel like he doesnt want to spend time with me or the family and his way to fix it was getting an account for me on World of warcraft so we can "spend time together, Though this was a thoughtful gesture it doesn not help with any of my other issues. He was been playing intill 4 am and when it comes to helping with the baby he absolutely refuses to get up in the morning because hes tired, I cant stay up because i know he wont help... i have tried to force him to watch our son by leaving for the gym to try and get relieved of some stress but now i just worry about my son because i come home to a baby who hasnt been fed has a dirty diaper and has been left gated off in the living room or in his crib while my husband plays his game...i simply dont know what to do anymore i have tried packing up and leaving but i love him too much ... they dont cover this in rehab and i feel that its tearing my family apart i simply dont want to just leave him especially because my family is in another state and he states that if i leave with our child he will claim kidnapping i love him but he isnt who he used all he is is a zombie at a computer, i feel no communication. we fight more often and i feel he thinks that if he sits down with me and makes one good day out of a few weeks i should stay. i dont know i feel like everythings going to get better but then he goes right back to his game i wish i knew what to do