Aleks - posted on 12/18/2011 ( 40 moms have responded )
I am soooooo sick of reading on these forums a mother claiming that her kids are well adjusted.
It mostly occurs when a specific parenting style/parenting 'actions' are being discussed and someone, in defending their use of the "parenting actions/style" being discussed (eg. cio, spanking, time-outs, etc etc) says:
"well, I did blah blah blah (insert discussed topic here), and my kids are fine and are quite well adjusted". Or "I was blah blah blah (insert discussed topic here) and I turned out fine and am well adjusted". (finally enough posters that are not being defensive about their parenting style do not seem to brag about how well adjusted their kids are)
But lets first start with: What the fuck does "well adjusted" mean in the first place????
What, lack of psychopathic tendencies???? Not ADD or ADHD, or autistic, or the like? Last time I heard/read these are not conditions one has an influence over due to parenting styles.
Or am I missing something?
If there are supposedly that many well adjusted kids out there then why was it that the last time I looked around the people I know or have heard of, most of them are not that well adjusted? So, if adults are not that well adjusted, then how can kids be?
Or am I totally just misunderstanding what "well adjusted" means????
And the last thing is, I REALLY would like to say to these ppl braging how well adjusted their kids are: how would you know??? I would have thought that YOU ( as a mother/father) may be a bit biased to make that call. I would have thought that a third party, someone less biased would be much better at making a judgement call if someone is well or badly adjusted???
Or is it just me????