Pictures and people...

Bethany - posted on 11/16/2012

i understand the fat thing but it ruined so much of my young memories that i dont care anymore (also i have learnt to accept the fact that im not a skinny girl n never will be!) i have 3 known photos of me pregnant and it kills me but its my fault cos i conditioned every1 not to take my pics when i wasnt so my fault!

Sharon - posted on 11/07/2012

The funny thing is, she wants them taken down because she is fat. Well HELLO.... everyone who sees her every day sees exactly what is in the photos. So I think they all know she is fat! It is more to do with her own self image and she can pretend she isn't fat if she doesn't have to look at it.

Hope - posted on 11/06/2012

Yea she's definitely over-reacting. You don't need to ask her permission to put your pictures up on facebook just because she happens to be in some of them. She's not a celebrity or something where her image could be tarnished. There's definitely no legal recourse for her anyhow.

Katherine - posted on 06/02/2010

Goodness gracious me oh my!!!! That's a bit much to ask, I mean really she should have stepped away from the path of the camera at ALL times if that was the case. Can't you just crop her out?

Chatty - posted on 06/02/2010

I think removing the ' tag ' of her is a reasonable compromise! My sister-in-law posted pics of me that I would rather not have anybody see but I didn't make her take them down.....I did ask her to not ' tag ' them though.

I can understand both sides and I think you gave up with a way for everyone to be happy. If anyone sees the pic of her she can just claim it wasn't her! LOL! ;)

Geralyn - posted on 06/01/2010

What sucks about Facebook is that even though its posted on your page, it becomes part of other people's pages who are tagged even after the tag is removed, and you can't delete them. It drives me nuts! Especially when they are photos that I would NEVER have posted. And there is so much stuff in the press that the photos become the property of Facebook. People are concerned about their privacy.



I like Loureen's idea about cropping the photo. But frankly, since you have posted it, even though you subsequently delete it, does not mean that it removes it from Facebook's database....

Georgia - posted on 06/01/2010

If she's only posed for two, you could take those 2 down and untag the others. She may not have been online in that time, or didn't see your status update... there's a number of reasons she didn't say anything. At least if you took the 2 she's in off fb and tell her those are gone, then she may be appeased and problem solved.

Joanna - posted on 06/01/2010

I have a family member that was the same way, except she was my daughter's stand in godmother at the baptism, so she KNEW we were taking pictures and going to post them on facebook, said nothing about not wanting to be in the pics or have them online. And then I found out later from someone else she was complaining about how rude it was of me to post them without asking.

So I understand your feelings. HOWEVER I do agree that you should get people's permission to post pictures of them online, and if someone is upset, take the pictures down... I think we as parents have enough pictures of our children to exclude pictures from being shown online if they upset someone. Print them out and put them in a photo album, and delete them from FB, is my suggestion.

Charlie - posted on 06/01/2010

Can you not crop her out of the photos ??

Carolee - posted on 06/01/2010

Now that I'm thinking about it... I actually HAD posted something about "I'm having technical problems trying to post pictures of the last two weekends... hopefully pics coming soon" or something like that. It was about two days before I got the pictures up. Nobody responded.

Carolee - posted on 06/01/2010

I did not hide what I was planning on doing with the pictures from her. I am well known for updating my photos at LEAST once a week. In most of them, she is in the background. Two of them, she even posed for. She went three days before saying anything about wanting me to take them down (hence my confusion on her sudden attitude about this).

Georgia - posted on 06/01/2010

You do have a right to post pictures of your son, but not of anyone else. If she does not give permission to have her photo displayed in a public format, then it should not be displayed.

While I understand you have your privacy settings set in such a way that the general public does not see anything, facebook is still a public arena. Regardless of her reasons (whether justified or not), she does have the right not to have her photo shown without consent. This is why the media must obtain written permission to broadcast a person's likeness and if they don't get that consent, they blur the person's face.

If she is not in the main focal area, such as being a person walking through the frame in the background, I don't see it as being unreasonable to keep that photo up and just untagging her simply because she isn't the main focus and most people probably wouldn't notice her anyway. However, if she's looking at the camera and in the main shot, then I'd say take it down.

People don't automatically assume their photo will be posted onto facebook or any other public community. It wasn't so long ago that we all had cameras to take photos that would be put into a private album that would gather dust on a bookshelf. Most people are willing to allow their photo to be taken for that purpose... private use... but it's another matter all together to be splashed onto the internet for public consumption.

Wanda - posted on 06/01/2010

When we went on vacation last year, it was to take my son home to meet my parents for the first time. Needless to say, most of our vacation pics have my son wih his grandparents. My parents asked me not to post any pics of them on Facebook. I respected their wishes and didn't, my vacation album is a little sparse because of this. But I wouldn't want people posting pics of me without my okay, so I'll respect others when they ask me not to post their pics.

*Lisa* - posted on 06/01/2010

Nah not unreasonable at all! :) IMO

Carolee - posted on 06/01/2010

I just wanted to make sure that I'm not going insane or anything. I've been almost 300 lbs. when somebody took a picture of me. My solution was to lose almost 100 lbs., not start a fight...

Thank you for responding. I just wanted to make sure I was not being unreasonable.

*Lisa* - posted on 06/01/2010

I can understand being grossed out by seeing how fat I've gotten in photos. I often 'remove tag's' on photos but would never ask someone to take it down (unless it was particularly heinous and I was the object of the photo). I think that if she is just in the background, it's not unreasonable to leave them up, and just remove the tags. Sometimes it's good to see those terrible 'fat' photos so you can get motivated to do something about it.