Renae - posted on 03/30/2011 ( 33 moms have responded )
I just had the most unbelieveable 3 client consultations in a row that you guys just wont believe either.
First I get this 1st time mother of a 2 month old who wants me to "train her baby to stay awake for a reasonable amount of time". I'm thinking - what the hell, is this baby falling asleep every 5 minutes or what??? So I meet with her and she proceeds to tell she cant believe that a baby should need to sleep so often and how is she supposed to even go out to lunch or go shopping if he needs to nap every 1.5 hours and her life cant stop just because she had a baby. REALLY???? I nearly fell off my chair. I told her I'm sorry her baby is such an inconvenience - she wasn't happy!
Then the next one wants her 1 year old (who there is nothing wrong with and sleeps 11 hours a night) to sleep to 9am (no that's not a typo, I did mean to say NINE) because she doesn't think she should be "expected to get up at the crack of dawn". Ah, kids get up early, its part of parenting, DEAL WITH IT! OMG!
Next, and this one is the worst - 3rd child, 9 weeks old (yes weeks, not months) has slept through the night (10 hours) a few times so mother thinks obviously baby is just waking to comfort feed and doesn't really need it and the mother wants me to pat her on the back and tell her she is doing the right thing by leaving baby to cry ALL night for hours and hours, I'm talking like 6 to 8 hours of crying, because she "has to learn". (BTW - its physiologically impossible for a baby or any human to "learn" while crying). The first 2 kids slept 11 hours from 6 weeks so mother thinks this one should too. (Most of my clients are on 3rd or 4th baby so that's nothing unusual.)
I dont know what goes on in some people's heads, seriously. And usually I brush it off but it has been just one after the other lately. Your baby is only a baby for a year out of your life, put them first for 365 days, is it really that hard.
And BTW none of these people had extenuating circumstances like PND or anxiety disorders or other high needs children, they were all just being plain old selfish! Sometimes I wish I could introduce them to people who have real problems, like a client of mine who when I met her took 6 hours to put her 22 month old to bed every night and he had never slept for more than an hour in his whole life - now THAT's a sleeping problem :)
Ok, feel better now. :)