Shannen - posted on 10/03/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )
I wish my happy from a few weeks ago was still around but it seems to have run away.
My ex had the kids this past weekend to make up for time the weekend before that he missed due to a wedding. He only had them for one night and last minute he asks me if he can have them for 2 nights so he can take them 6 hours away. I said no but only because of the last minute thing. We then started arguing to I clearly said "this is why I don't want to talk to you anymore, Whatever it is email me". I never received an email. (The kids missed out on a birthday they were invited to so I could make this time up to him)
Anyway He took them to the zoo and stayed overnight in the town where the zoo is. That's all good I'm glad they had a good time.
When I was putting the kids to bed that night my middle child started crying "Mummy, I want to sleep with someone" over and over. I kind of settled him and went to put my oldest to bed where she told me that she shared a bed with the g/f little boy.
Middle boy got out of bed and was very very clingy so I let him stay up for a little while just cuddling me on the lounge. He starts talking and is making clear that he is left out. When he is at his fathers there are 5 kids. The older 2 are the same age and the younger 2 are within 3 months of each other while my middle child has no one. He then says to me "I hate J****** Mummy, I want daddy to live with us" Now I know he is 3 but it kills me to hear him saying this.
I then get told of some stuff on Fb, I HATE Fb, and ask my ex to get his G/f to remove said stuff because apparently they share a FB. Nothing gets done. He also hasn't gotten back to me about Christmas or New years so I made the decision on how it's going to work. Still haven't heard anything even with repeated "can you let me know you received this" emails.
I don't know what to do. I have done all I can but his unwillingness to work with me is starting to get under my skin big time. I'm getting angry and I hate it. I told him to stop provoking me because he knows how I react which I'm now afraid he has taken as a mission to piss me off so that I do get angry and do something stupid.
I hate not knowing what to do.