Same S*** different day.

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I wish my happy from a few weeks ago was still around but it seems to have run away.

My ex had the kids this past weekend to make up for time the weekend before that he missed due to a wedding. He only had them for one night and last minute he asks me if he can have them for 2 nights so he can take them 6 hours away. I said no but only because of the last minute thing. We then started arguing to I clearly said "this is why I don't want to talk to you anymore, Whatever it is email me". I never received an email. (The kids missed out on a birthday they were invited to so I could make this time up to him)
Anyway He took them to the zoo and stayed overnight in the town where the zoo is. That's all good I'm glad they had a good time.
When I was putting the kids to bed that night my middle child started crying "Mummy, I want to sleep with someone" over and over. I kind of settled him and went to put my oldest to bed where she told me that she shared a bed with the g/f little boy.
Middle boy got out of bed and was very very clingy so I let him stay up for a little while just cuddling me on the lounge. He starts talking and is making clear that he is left out. When he is at his fathers there are 5 kids. The older 2 are the same age and the younger 2 are within 3 months of each other while my middle child has no one. He then says to me "I hate J****** Mummy, I want daddy to live with us" Now I know he is 3 but it kills me to hear him saying this.
I then get told of some stuff on Fb, I HATE Fb, and ask my ex to get his G/f to remove said stuff because apparently they share a FB. Nothing gets done. He also hasn't gotten back to me about Christmas or New years so I made the decision on how it's going to work. Still haven't heard anything even with repeated "can you let me know you received this" emails.

I don't know what to do. I have done all I can but his unwillingness to work with me is starting to get under my skin big time. I'm getting angry and I hate it. I told him to stop provoking me because he knows how I react which I'm now afraid he has taken as a mission to piss me off so that I do get angry and do something stupid.

I hate not knowing what to do.

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Firebird - posted on 10/03/2011

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See this is why I feel so lucky that my ex is so easy to control.lol

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Donna - posted on 10/03/2011

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that really sux. atleast your kids fathers are still involved. not that my husband wouldnt be if we broke up, he loves his kids.

Katherine - posted on 10/03/2011

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Sounds like my ex. My kids are 2.5 and 6 right now. He just takes them whenever the eff he feels like it. Like I have nothing better to do.

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I did make plans for him and he is pissed about it. All he could do was go on about something i said 3 months ago instead of realising I was trying to discuss it.
No court orders yet but we are agreed to every second weekend, Holidays are supposed to be one week on the holidays but I have to be lenient with times due to his work. We are in the middle of starting the court action. I'm just frustrated that now it's been 6 months and I'm finally not trying to argue ( yes I was bad for it because I was hurt) but he has taken to being a pain in the arse. Oh well this is my life until the kids turn at least 12 when I will be letting them make more decisions.

Katherine - posted on 10/03/2011

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I agree, if he doesn't comply, make the plans for him. Do you have any kind of court order? Such as he gets them certain days and holidays?
If not get one, it would save a lot of headache. That way he can't go over said time, and if he misses said time, oh well. If he wants to play games he can, but everything is court ordered.
Thankfully my ex hasn't pulled that shit YET.

In fact we haven't even talked about the holiday's yet. I have no court order.....

Anyways keep your cool and get that order if you don't have one.

Donna - posted on 10/03/2011

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ahhh men, they are so simple minded. First off i wouldnt resort to e mails. Next i would be like this is the last time i am asking what are the plans for chritmas/ and if you get no answer than i think you need to make it clear that you hve made this as your plan, take it or leave it, he has not given you any type of response. In other words if hes gong to act like a child, treat him like one, make the decisions for him. Thats what i do to my husband he hates it but then i get his opnion lol

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