Suicide Attempt

Katherine - posted on 05/18/2011 ( 16 moms have responded )




Oh boy do I need to vent!!!! One of my friends relapsed 2 days ago. He calls me up last night and tells me he's going to off himself after drinking a fifth. He says he has a bottle of sleeping pills and he's going to take them all. Mind you the whole time I'm trying to talk him down. He is NOT listening at ALL and telling me to worry about myself. Then why the fuck CALL me???? He started taking pills over the phone (ambien) and I was about to call 911 when I heard someone in the background yell, "what the Fuck are you doing?" He hung up on me. Now I have no idea what happened or what he did. Everyone keeps telling me to worry about myself but I'm one of those people who has to "save the puppies." Or every dog in the pound. I'm worried sick, I'm sick to my STOMACH. Why are you going to call someone if you really want to do it???


Dawn - posted on 05/18/2011




It sounds like this guy was reaching out for someone to help him. I have dealt with suicide personally and people who are SERIOUSLY going to kill themselves they do NOT call and tell anyone nor will they do anything if it's possible that someone might come in and stop them. However, if they want attention and/or can't ask someone to help them they will do what your friend has done. And not to sound like there is a broken record....but you need to worry about yourself. :)


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Katherine - posted on 05/20/2011




Ah, he finally called me. Had to get his stomach pumped and the whole 9 yards. Got sent to a psych unit for a day after the hospital but he's ok now. He took 10 Ambien, 25 Celexa and a handful of Vicodin on top of a 5th and his BAL was .31!!!!!!

But he's alive and doing ok.

Danielle - posted on 05/19/2011




It pisses me off too. I had a co-worker of my husbands call him one night and telling my husband that he was going to blow his head off, he was drinking alot of gin. We had a 6 month old at that point and were living in my fathers basement. Like i or my hubby needed to worry about him and his problems as well as our own. I was so mad at him, we stopped talking to him all together after that. When my husband was 16 he found his mother in the morning with a bottle of pills down her throart, he got her to the hospital on time and they pumbed her stomach. but then sent her home the next day with "now dont do that agian, ok". I can have no respect for ppl who will put others in that position of making them feel guilty for their death. If it was me, i would just cut him out of my life. But that is me. I feel if someone needs help, then they should go and get it, im not a dr, i dont know the human mind, and dont pretend to, and i will not feel responsible for their ignorance. Again just my opion, i am sure you dont feel the same way. I hope he is ok though. That is an awful stop he has put you in.

Katherine - posted on 05/19/2011




God, I really hope that was the case!!! I hope to GOD he got help. I know it was a cry for help. It just pisses me off.

Jackie - posted on 05/19/2011




I agree with the other ladies - If he called you, he wasn't serious. He really didn't WANT to die. He called you for help

Katherine - posted on 05/19/2011




Well still no word BUT I called and it sounded like someone kicked me right to VM.

Mel - posted on 05/18/2011




I had a fair few friends do that mainly in high school I guess they are just reaching out for help and dont really want to do it, but its so not fair on you. If you try to help it can bite you in the bum, Ive rang the school youth worker one night with my 15 yr old friend and she sent cops out then cops said no history of suicide texts on her phone and told youth worker Id made it up, I had to give proof of messages from her mobile to mine and she had a go atme for calling someone saying she might not be able to get custody of her daughter back now. I think your friend was reaching out for help, but definately not fair on you or the right way to go but sometimes people are desperate and dont think about whats rational or the right thing

Karen - posted on 05/18/2011




He's reaching out for help. We have had 2 family members commit suicide and have learned from doctors that when they actually get in the state to go through with killing themselves they don't tell anyone. It is usually by gun, hanging, or something that for sure will do the trick. Things like taking too many pills is dangerouse but people have time to be saved. When they actually commit suicide they they are in a state of mind that they want it to happen fast and with no chance of being saved when found. We had an uncle who was making positive plans for his future, still seemed happy, but called frequently all the time just to talk. He even went to dinner with family that night and was in a very good mood. They laughed together and had a great time. 4hrs later we got the call that he shot himself. 6 months later his son hung himself. Please try and get him some phsycological help. The hospital will keep him for a while but will release him as soon as they think he's ok. He needs therapy. Friends too but therapy is very important.

Ez - posted on 05/18/2011




Ugh I'm sorry Katherine. I have such a hard time with things like this, because my Dad's best mate committed suicide when I was 18. This guy had done just what your friend did several times to my Dad over the years before he actually did it. He would call saying he was going to do something. My Dad would try and talk him down. It wouldn't work so Dad would go running, and he hadn't actually done anything at all.

I agree with whoever said that those who really want to go, don't call and talk about it first. Eventually, my Dad's friend gassed himself in his car. He didn't call my Dad that time, but that didn't stop my Dad feeling an incredible amount of guilt that he couldn't stop him. I watched him give the eulogy at that funeral, and it has stayed with me. At the time, it made me so angry. Even now, it makes me angry that your friend has dumped this shit on you when you have your own stuff going on :( You can't fix other people. You can only encourage them to do the right thing and get help.

I hope you get word of what happened soon.

Katherine - posted on 05/18/2011




Well still no word, I hope he's in a psych ward or something in all honesty. He was fine and this is just shocking behavior to me.

Jenni - posted on 05/18/2011




I'm sorry about you having to go through that. Suicide attempts are often a cry for help (especially when they involve others in that attempt). They want to be stopped.

It's so sad.

I've had two friends commit suicide. One had attempted many times in the years I knew her. I stopped talking to her (along with our other friends). Not anything to do with the suicide attempts. She was just an awful person and treated everyone like crap. She slept with my finance a few years after. She always had it out for me. I don't know why. She succeeded in killing herself a year after I broke up with my ex. She hung herself and below her feet were old photos of me and her.

The second was a guy in our group of friends who always showed interest in a relationship with me but then would turn on me and become viciously mean. One time we kissed and he pushed me away after a few minutes. Started rocking back and forth and pulling on his hair all crazily and started chanting he didn't want to hurt me.

A few days later he flicked a cigarette at me and when I threw it back at him he pushed me on the ground. Psycho. I stopped talking to him after that but we had mutual friends.

I didn't see or hear from him for years after HS. While at college a mutual friend told me he was always talking about me. When I returned to my hometown for a party. Our friend throwing the party said he was really upset he couldn't come. Then he called at the party and wanted to talk to me (of all people) even though we hadn't spoken in years. The conversation consisted of just a "what have you been up to.. yada yada yada..." but he was keeping me on the phone for a really long time so I told him I had to go and get back to the party.

A month later; I found out he hung himself.... on my birthday. Maybe it was coincidence but it was pretty strange.

I don't know what it is about me either. Why I'm the one that they focus on when in that moment.

Jaime - posted on 05/18/2011




I hope that your friend gets the help that he needs Katherine. If it ever happens again (which I truly hope it doesn't) just call 911 immediately and don't try to talk him down. I've had my share of being the saviour and forgetting about myself and that's not fair to you. You can't fix anyone, you can only fix yourself and be the person that people can lean on. You can't change how someone feels about can only change how you react to what they say and do. It's admirable to want to be able to save all the puppies in the pound, but the truth is, you're the one that loses out in the end of it all. Sorry this happened and I hope you can find some resolve and work your way back to focusing on what YOU need to be doing in your life for you and your family. ♥

Katherine - posted on 05/18/2011




I've called, I've texted, nothing.......I hope they took care of it too.

Stifler's - posted on 05/18/2011




I agree it sounds like a cry for help/attention. I hope whoever was there got him sorted xxx

Louise - posted on 05/18/2011




I think if this was me and I was listening to this I would of called an ambulance and the police. This guy obviously needs help. I would not want any thing on my concience. He needs special care if he is saying it the next step is to do it. Protect yourself and help your friend.

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