*teen moms*

Julianne - posted on 12/26/2010

you can call me a hippie mom....ive accepted that fact...LOL Yea i agree, some young moms are little doofs, have no clue, then just say, hey im young,don't judge me and assume i dont know anything! Thats the point, we're not judging you, we know your stupid. I know a lot of young girls with children that aren't like that though. Some people do stereotype these good moms.The other ones that your referring to are just using that as an excuse to be idiots.



edit* i party sometimes, thats what baby sitters are for... only had one 6 times since she was born. Just because your a mom, doesnt mean your life is over.

Stifler's - posted on 12/26/2010

bahahaha dreads are cool! and you're a nature mum :) some of them just sound so dumb saying it that i feel like the "i don't smoke or drink or party. i'm a mum now blah blah blah" doesn't make anyone a good mum. then you see in other threads their comments and it's like so what if you don't smoke or drink or party, doesn't mean you know what you're talking about!!

Julianne - posted on 12/26/2010

I'm 23, i have piercings and dreads. I look like im 16. I am lumped into the "teen mom" category. Anyone that knows me, knows im a wonderful mom. Strangers on the other hand, stereotype me. They look down on me like im not a good person because of my appearance and think i just screwed around and got knocked up. I do think certain people judge you for being a young mom. I've had conversations with complete strangers asking me who takes care of my daughter, how do i handle being single(her dad lives with us??), people just assume im poor. I dont make a lot right now, im off work for the year, but everyone knows to be a sahm you need to make sacrifices, that doesnt mean im poor.I literally had a complete stranger walk up to me and try to hand me money for the baby. She has everything!! I appreciated the offer but hell..If i couldn't take care of my child, i wouldn't have had her. I do a great job supporting her. She is well looked after. I do think some teen moms give others a bad name. Some of them just use it as an excuse, others see it as a reason to be a better person. I also live in a small town...so that might be why I'm stereotyped. :P

Stifler's - posted on 12/26/2010

Exactly Barb, it's okay to not be a perfect parent who never smokes or has a few or swears ever IMO.

Barb - posted on 12/26/2010

Sorry, i'm laughing at the last part.

I have an old picture of my husband's parents, probably circa 1960 or so with my BIL in a playpen in the background, my husband (3) playing with trucks to the side and my FIL and MIL playing cards with friends at a table covered with ashtrays and alcohol.

Granted, they weren't teenagers. Probably around 22 or so as they were 18 when they got married. But the point is, life goes on and there will be time for responsible partying with friends.

Becoming a mom doesn't mean you become a nun, it means you prioritize. You take care of yourself first to be sure you can take care of your child.