Alicia - posted on 04/08/2011 ( 36 moms have responded )
I’m starting to wonder if I’m the only person who had a horrible natural birth experience, as far as the pain was concerned (if you’re confused, I’m talking about when my 8lb baby came out of what used to be my perfect [ok, slightly off-kilter] nether region). I have constantly heard stories from other moms who said the pain from birth became inconsequential or instantly disappeared once they saw their angelic child, or moms who said the pain wasn’t as terrible as they thought it would be (I blame drugs and/or dark magic). Do I just have absolutely no pain tolerance? Why was it so horrible for me? I was in so much pain after giving birth (and I didn’t even tear… and that was supposed to be a bonus) that I despised my doctor and didn’t want to touch or see my son (he looked like an alien anyway, so I wasn’t really missing out on much.) (That was a joke, nazi moms.) The pain didn’t fade for hours, and I vowed I would never have another child (naturally, at least). It’s been almost 2 years now, and I still haven’t forgotten the pain like everyone claimed would happen over time. I think back to my son’s birth and it still kills me, because I constantly hear friend’s birth stories that are so happy and seemingly perfect, and fall right along the lines of all the old comments I’d heard before (i.e. pain magically disappearing, etc. etc.), but I look back and all I see is the horrible pain and anger. I swear I’m not a complete wuss. I have a ton of tattoos (although, who’s kidding who, that does NOT compare to childbirth), I used to get into fights and not feel a thing (although if I were to get into a fight today, I’d get killed. That’s due more to laziness and the atrophy of my muscles than anything, really…but I digress. Also, I do not endorse fighting. It’s very immature. Fist fights past the age of 16 are ridiculous. …but I’m still digressing, aren’t I?).
ANYWAY! The point of my writing this is to find out if I’m not alone. I’m not asking for sympathy, I am just SICK to DEATH of hearing happy birth stories and wondering if I was the only one who, for whatever reason, could not deal with the pain. (Btw, good for you, moms who had an easier birth-but if you respond to this post by telling me “I’m so sorry for you, I personally had an easy birth, but a friend I know…” you will deserve whatever response you get letting you know how much I appreciate your sentiment.)