Amber - posted on 03/23/2011 ( 15 moms have responded )
I found out yesterday (on accident) that my boyfriend of more than 5 years bought a motorcycle! A MOTORCYLCE! Last week!!
Here's some background:
We live together, but he is on active duty for the military right now.
He's only stationed about 3-4 hours from home, so we've been trying to see each other every weekend. This has helped our son deal with the transition and keeps our family together.
He was here ALL weekend. And obviously when I said, "What's new?" A NEW motorcycle didn't cross his mind at all! It took a week for me to find out about it.
I had called to see if I could pay for a test that I needed to take for my master's degree. It costs several hundred dollars and I wanted to run it by him before I spent that much. He said, "Oh, that's fine. I actually spent $400 less on the bike than I had saved." I said, "What bike?"
This was after he bought a new 46' flat screen without telling me.
And he thinks I'm irrational for wondering what else he's hiding now? He says I'm overreacting by being upset and have no reason to be. He says I knew that he wanted one. Well, wanting and owning are two different things! Every time I drive down to visit him he's bought something else! It's absurd.
He says that the bills are all paid and I shouldn't be worried about it. But I'm pissed. I would have told him to buy the bike if he asked, but he didn't! It's not like we can't afford it or that I'm worried about the money. It's just the fact that he couldn't even be bothered to tell me that I now own a fucking motorcycle!
His excuse? I was going to surprise you with it....REALLY?!? You were going to surprise ME with a present you bought for yourself?
He's never pulled anything like this before, and I'm completely blown away. Everything we do is discussed and decided on as a team...until now.
So, I've decided that our back deck needs to be converted into a screened in Four Seasons room with a dining table that seats six. Let's see how he likes it!
Sorry its so long...I could add a million other things, but I'll stop.