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About a child-parent...Need to vent

Silvia - posted on 01/24/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I do have a Family Childcare. I had a 3 1/2 yr old child that loved to make stories to her mother regarding how the other kids were mean to her all the time , kids fight but she tought everyone was against her...She will come to my house and literally start jerking her body so bad than the other kids were scared of her...Well, for the last 2 weeks, she started to pee on the floor (fully potty trained for more than 6 months but accidents at nap time)....I understand an accident at nap time but when a child does it in front of you standing up and laughing, sitting at the table eating lunch, sitting on the floor during circle time...there is something wrong. I talked to her mother and told her that she will not listen to me to go to the bathroom and just peeing all over the house is not acceptable. The mother told me first that it was because she was afraid of the children ( one day there was only 2 infants and her), then that she laughs and do not listen when she is nervous, then that she must have an infection, and then because she is very shy...I told her that I understand an accident but day after day, that she needed to talk to her and explain to her that she must use the restroom; she told me that she did not need to tell her that because she knows and she does not do it at thome...the child did not come back last week....

I should not say this...but I feel better now...It was very stressful knowing that I had to be ready to clean and sanitize after her pee episodes...and was not easy with the babies and the other children.

Have you been through a similar situation? I am a parent, and I know we do not like to hear things about our children...but why I am goign to turn my back on something like that, get mad and leave.

Soory long...but I needed to vent...

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Krystal - posted on 01/27/2009

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Yep. The first thing I thought of when I read about that little girl peeing herself after being potty trained for 6 months is either an infection, or abuse. And if she's terrified all the time too then I'm leaning toward abuse. You should call it in to CPS. As a childcare provider you're a mandated reporter. Even if it's not abuse let CPS make that call. I know you would feel terrible if it was abuse and you didn't report it.



Are there any other symptoms that would also point you toward thinking she's being abused?

Melissa - posted on 01/27/2009

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Dont apologize, thats what this site is for! Thats why I created it, stories like that. Where you feel like no one in the world could possibly understand what you are going thru.

I DO!!! I dealt with a similar situation at the daycare center I previously worked at not here at home. But honestly hun, it sounds like that child was being abused. Like she was lashing out and crying for help. If its not abuse then its something medically wrong and either way I feel that its something you should do something about. If talking with the mother doesnt seem to get you anywhere then I would place a call to your child services office. Explain to them who you are and that the child is no longer in your care but that you feel you just cant ignore the situation. Its clear to me that this has affected you in some way. Do the right thing. Try the mother again nicely. Just tell her you are concerned about her daughter. If she blows you off then i really would voice your concerns to child services. Even if its not abuse maybe then can be sure its not medical. Its for the childs own safety. Good Luck!

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