Disrespectful parents

Kristin - posted on 11/14/2008 ( 13 moms have responded )

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I was just wondering if any one else has parents to just expect to much of you? I have a parent that comes to get her children and doesnt say a word to me, than calls me later when I am trying to do things with my family to yell at me for god only no what. It drives me absoluty crazy!!!!!! Anybody else have any problems with parents?

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Hilary - posted on 12/03/2008

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I agree. I told myself when I started my daycare (after having worked for other small daycares) that I wasn't going to let myself be taken advantage of, as I had seen done. So, I figure, if it's important enough to bother me, then I need to speak my mind to the parents to keep myself happy and at ease, and if that results in them leaving (which it never has) then that must be what was meant to happen. It all seems to work out fine in the end.

Silvia - posted on 12/03/2008

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Why are you allowing her to do that to you? I know money is a big issue for child care providers, but if she does not respects you and is rude to you everyday you should not put up with her. Talk to her and explain to her that is important to communicate but no that way. They know that we do a lot for their kids, sometimes they are jealous...one parent told me that....the fact that their kids get very attached to us and talk about us at home too bother them....

Carie - posted on 12/02/2008

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As far as the pajama thing goes, I have told the parents that the child won't let me change their clothes. I have left the child in the pajamas all day--several times. I don't feel that it should be our problem all the time to dress their children, I mean we do everything else for them! The parents usually don't mind that their child is in pj's all day. I have told them if they need/want to have them dressed, they need to be sure that they do it themselves before coming to daycare.

Silvia - posted on 12/02/2008

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I stopped the PJ thing and no shoes thing too...Very politely told them that it was difficult to do it...They stopped doing it....And waht about the diapers form the night before???

One---Another---- thing that drives me nuts is that the children do not wear sweaters...and then get sick...and it is our fault...the daycare's fault.!

JACQUE - posted on 12/02/2008

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I know we all say it but the sickness one has to be the worst! I had a child who I could tell was under the weather but he still came the next day. I let his grandmother (who ferries him and his brother around between me and Kindy!) that he wasn't himself and she said he had been 'in a mood' at her place too and it was just a 'stage' he was going through. The next morning I got a call from his mother to say he wasn't coming in because they had been at the after hours doctors the night before and he had an ear infection and borderline pneumonia... two days later my son was sick with a nasty cold.

Oh, and then there's the child with constant congintivitis and the parents who didn't know she should see a doctor and kept giving her over the counter drops which are useless...my son caught that too!!! HELP!! If any parents out there read this - PLEASE think about the other children your child is exposing their germs to as well as their families

Kristin - posted on 12/01/2008

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Thanks I now no that I am not alone. It is nice to no that other people are having the same problems.

Sherri - posted on 12/01/2008

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I love when the parents bring their kids in PJs...like I have time with 7 kids under 5 years running around...2 of wich are mine so I have to get them dressed...now I have an only child that comes in PJs. Come on dress your own kids at home please.

Hilary - posted on 11/26/2008

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I have one mom who does the pajama thing, too! I just have to laugh sometimes! I just wait until I have time, sometimes it is 10 in the morning before I dress her, but if she brings her that way, I figure she must not mind her daughter being in pj's a little extra! :) This is also the same parent who wants me to put her daughter ( who is almost 3) in a room all by herself to nap because she "just doesn't seem to be getting enough sleep" with the other kids! "She's crabby at home at night." Well, I see how she acts when her mom is there to pick her up, and a little discipline at home might help! I had to tell her, I'm sorry, but I just don't have enough rooms in my house to give everyone their own room! I am pretty much waiting for one more rediculous request from her to tell her that she should look into finding a nanny because she seems to think her daughter is the only one I am taking care of.

Joelle - posted on 11/19/2008

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The only thing that drives me crazy is when the parents bring their children into my house, KNOWING that they are sick. Some of them go as far as giving them Advil in the morning and then by the time it wears off, it's after 1, and the parent has gotten a 1/2 day in.....but now the child has been at MY House for a 1/2 day transferring their germs to everyone else....ARG!

Jenny - posted on 11/19/2008

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we have some parents who seem to think that we should be the ones to teach their children manners, personal hygiene, grooming, how to speak, how to walk, break them of pacifiers, baby bottles, blankies, etc...oh and could you please potty train my child by yourself? yeah we have them too

Erin - posted on 11/15/2008

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Yes...the parents I have to deal with are pains, too. I have one mom who brings her daughter in pajamas every day....I have to dress her and feed her breakfast. I have 3 kids of my own....2 are school age. As if I don't have enough to deal with in the morning but I'm doing what she should be doing for her daughter too. What makes it worse is she does it because she doesn't want to get up 2 minutes earlier to do it herself and she strips her down to change her diaper before she brings her but doesn't get her dressed. I'm like....are you kidding me????? I just moved into a new house with new carpet and she brings her with sippy cups that leak (even though I've told her a million times I have cups)....not just one sippy cup, but 3....yes..3. It is the most ridiculous thing.

Melissa - posted on 11/14/2008

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I have parents who expect the world from me but when i need something (like time off for a funeral) I get guilt tripped and made to feel so insignificant. ITS SO FRUSTRATING!!

I just grin and bear it. Kepp my mouth shut no matter how much i want to tell them where to shove it.

This profession we are in is a hard one. No adult interaction all day and then parents who you think would care a little, dont. We get taken for granted. Parents just dont understand the time we take in shaping who their child turns out to be. Its hard. Theres no other words.

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