Coral - posted on 02/13/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )
Any of you marry a wonderful man who wasn't a pastor when you got married? That's my story. My husband is a technologically gifted man who was blessed with the Technical Director position at our church. Shortly after we got married he was "promoted" to pastorhood. So now his title is Technical Pastor. I went a long with this because the financial perks (health ins, a raise, housing allowance) seemed nice since we were newly pregnant (7 mos after marriage).
In the back of my mind I knew I never wanted to be a pastor's wife, even if he wasn't a preaching pastor, per se. I know it would cause some issues and it has.
I've recently gone through some tough stuff with our church because I can't separate my husband's place of employment from my place of worship. It is so hard, impossible at times, to worship genuinely when all I can think about is what wrong was done to my husband or how I disagree with something the church is doing all while I'm supposed to be worshiping our Lord.
I feel like I'm making significant progress in this area but it is still a hard thing for me to go through.
Have any of you been through something like this? Any wisdom gleaned? If not, please don't respond. Thank you.