4 boys and want to try for a girl, any advise?

Angie - posted on 01/24/2009 ( 24 moms have responded )

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I have 4 boys aged 17, 15, 9 and 21months. We are talking about a baby no5 and was wondering if anyone had any ideas on how to conceive a girl.
I know there's no 'real' way to select one or the other gender, but I wondered if anyone had any fun ideas we could try!!
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Patty - posted on 04/13/2009

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Have sex a day or two before you ovulate. It gives the male sperm time to die off before the egg is released. If you don't know when you ovulate, take your temperature every morning 1st thing. When your temp rises .8 degrees or so it means you have ovulated within the last 24 hours. Also, go to fertilityfriend.com for more helpful advice. I have two boys and two girls. These tools helped me.

Tammi - posted on 07/04/2010

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DONT IF YOU DIDNT GET HER BY NOW YOU WONT TRUST ME I even bought a book on how to make a girl and did everything right and my fourth son was born if you dont get your girl first you wont i had my girl first then all boys they say let the guy go first during sex then u well didnt work try it

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Megan - posted on 02/22/2012

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I have 4 boys (10, 9, 7 & 6) and somehow managed to have a girl with my 5th pregnancy! She's 3 now. I didn't try anything special to get a girl, it just turned out that way. Good luck!

Malkreet - posted on 01/28/2012

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We have 3 boys and another on the way. We tried all the methods with this one, diet, PH, timing, and supplements. Nothing helped. I plan on doing IVF with PGD if we have the courage to have another. Not sure I will be able to handle another child, but we shall see.

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I have 3 boys 5,4,3 and a girl 1- bad idea to try for the girl just cause you want one. I didn't have a 4th child because I was thinking oh I have to have a girl. I was blessed with a beautiful baby girl but I didn't have unrealistic expectations, If u r having another to get the girl u will be disappointed when u don't get that girl. It's not a goof idea to get pg for that reason. Ask yourself if baby 5 is s boy too r you going to try for a 6th. You have to stop at some point and be happy with what u have.

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i have three boys and one girl i was gunna stop when i had the boys but was going mad for a girl everyone warned me not to try for a girl coz they r worse than boys but i went ahead and had my daughter and now i am suffering coz she is forever in trouble stayin out late and always worrying who she is with and where she is i love her to bits but girls r really hard work well mine is xx good luck if u get a good un

Vanessa - posted on 12/10/2009

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Hi, Three words.... Chinese Pregnancy Calendar .. I kid you not... I'm a mom of four two girls and two boys... my boys were planned off the calendar..

Summer - posted on 10/07/2009

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I have 3 boys, and would like to follow this thread for suggestions to try for a girl also. I have a book called "How to Choose the Sex of Your Baby". It is based on the Shettles method of natural sex selection. I've read it several times. My husband and I are planning to try again within the next year or so. Alot of the suggestions I've read here are in that book also. The central theme of the book is timing of intercourse in relation to ovulation. It teaches you how to pinpoint your ovulation, and it is somewhat complicted in my opinion especially if you do not have an extremely regular cycle. You also have to track your cycle for at least 3 months after you stop using birth control before you start trying to conceive, which means condoms. You should try no closer than between 4 and 2.5 days to ovualtion for a girl, and for a boy the day before and the day of ovulation. It also recommends the man take a hot shower prior to sex, using the missionary position, and shallow penetration to achieve a girl. The success rate is still listed at only 75% if you follow all the guidelines in the book to the letter. I absolutely plan to use the suggestions in the book, but prayer can't hurt either. I would be happy with a child of either sex because I know I will love him or her either way. I absolutely adore all 3 of my boys and wouldn't trade any of them for a girl if I could go back and do it over again. But I don't see any harm in trying to increase your chances of a little girl.

Rose Ann - posted on 09/19/2009

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hahaha i have 4 boys as well, 17 9 7 6.. call it a day and be happy u have boys.. lol you'll have granddaughters

User - posted on 09/08/2009

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We have 3 girls one boy...have to say we concieved our son doggy style our 3 girls missionary....just a thought

Stina - posted on 07/15/2009

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Quoting Margaret:

YOu don't want a girl.Everyone says they are cute but in my life this is not the case. I have three boys and one girl. I call her my terror. She creats most of the chaos in my house. It doesn't make sense to try to figure out where she gets it.She gets plenty of good attention(i'm not always yelling at her)and she is niether the youngest or the oldest. I blame this one on Daddy.


I can understand why you want a girl.  four boys already and trying for one more.  I have two girls and love my 2 1/2 yr old girl dearly but must admit there really is a huge difference btwn boys and girls.  She's got attitude and is always toeing the line to see what we will let her get away with while my boy has always been reasonably obedient.  She fights fights fights with me somtimes and throws more fits.  Honestly, after having my son, all I wanted was boys.  While pregnant with him, I couldn't imagine having anything other than a girl as my firstborn.  I don't really belong in this group yet because we haven't had #4 yet.  We just know that a fourth is in our future. 



The most accurate wives tale I've come across is that you get the opposite sex that your heart desires.  #1 I thought was a girl because I wanted a girl.  Boy.  #2 I wanted another boy because I adored my son so much.  girl.  #3 I wanted a boy because i already had a girl and still wanted another boy.  girl.  by this superstition I'm destined to have another girl. 



Then there is my pastor's wife who said they prayed very specifically to God that he bless them with a daughter and even what month they thought would be good to have her born in.  And it happened. 



So I'm starting now.  I think about that future baby and I pray- Dear Lord in about 3 years please bless us with a baby boy. 



Hope you get your girl.  It is nice having someone to paint nails with and braid hair... and as much as I struggle with her, I do understand her because she is a girl

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This is a fun suggestion. haha I didn't know what was happening at the time, but I have since read/heard that using lubricant (not spermicidal, just regular KY type) can cause the tendency to have girls. I also think it caused me to be more difficult to get pregnant in general. I have 3 girls then a boy. As another poster stated, the X chromosome sperm (the ones that make girls) swim slower but are more resilient and live longer. The Y ones swim really fast and vigorously but tend to die sooner. I have read that using a lubricant slows the sperm's progress so by the time they get there, only the X ones are still alive. It worked for me!

Peg - posted on 06/02/2009

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YOu don't want a girl.Everyone says they are cute but in my life this is not the case. I have three boys and one girl. I call her my terror. She creats most of the chaos in my house. It doesn't make sense to try to figure out where she gets it.She gets plenty of good attention(i'm not always yelling at her)and she is niether the youngest or the oldest. I blame this one on Daddy.

Cheryl - posted on 02/07/2009

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Quoting Michelle:



I have two girls that are the oldest and two boys that are the youngest, the only difference between the two was the amount of sex involved.  With my girls there was alot of it and with my boys not so much, more space of not doing it in between.  I've heard that female sperm swim faster than male sperm but I'm no dr. this was just my experience.






After 2 boys now 8 & 6 bought a book on how to conceive the sex that you so desire.  Apart from not taking my temperature found it very useful.  You must be in tune with your ovulation cycle.  As the boy sperm swims faster you need to have sex day before, dead on or after ovulation for a boy...with a girl you have between 5-3 days to have sex before ovulation & need to have more sex to get the sperm level down.  It took 10 months of us having sex on the 5 days before ovulation & creeping up to 3 days before.  Unfortunately I miscarried that pregnancy, but within 2 months of doing the same thing because I new my ovulation days we conceived again & had beautiful twin daughter now 3 yrs.  Other friends of mine have also followed the book & conceived the sex they want.  I will dig out the book & give you the title so you can make up your own mind.  I wouldn't mind trying for baby no5 & would definately follow the book again...AT LEAST YOU WILL HAVE LOTS OF FUN TRYING.....GOOD LUCK..

Michelle - posted on 02/06/2009

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I have two girls that are the oldest and two boys that are the youngest, the only difference between the two was the amount of sex involved.  With my girls there was alot of it and with my boys not so much, more space of not doing it in between.  I've heard that female sperm swim faster than male sperm but I'm no dr. this was just my experience.

Margaret - posted on 02/02/2009

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I have 3 girls and finally got a boy. I dont have any real fun things to try i did look at the chinese calendar as well. I think it helped that my hubby was in the navy, everytime he got back or was getting ready to leave we planned a prenancy and got girls the second pregnancy we got twin girls. with my son he was on shore duty. I really dont know how they helped but I thought it was funny, so send him away for a few days and then try...lol Best of luck!!!

Rebecka - posted on 01/27/2009

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I have 4 girls (13,12,11,3)and 1 boy (1)  Have you looked at the chinese pregnacy chart? It tell you the months you should try and concieve in to better your chances of having a girl (or boy for that matter) Seems silly but everyone of mine worked out.  Good luck!!

Maxine - posted on 01/27/2009

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Hi a couple of tips I used to concieve my daughter... without being to grafic-shallow postions for a girl, deep for a boy. Hope it helps.worked me I have 3 sons and 1 daughter.

Danielle - posted on 01/26/2009

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Good luck to you but careful what you wish for (wink wink)... I had 2 sons (and I wouldn't trade them for the world) but I sooooo badly wanted a daughter. In my 3rd pregnancy, I kinda got the thought of "it doesn't matter- God will give me what he thinks I can handle" and upon going to the hospital at 18 weeks along for an iv because of being soooo sick, there were 2 babies on the ultrasound! I had to wait a week to find out the sex and I barely slept because of the anticipation... and sure enough, I had twin daughters! God had blessed me twice with what I had prayed for, not just in the sense of having twin daughters but having 2 sons and now we are COMPLETE!!!!! I am not sure if I can offer advice on what to do to try for girl, I am not sure how we did it... LOL! We did look at the chinese calendar with the 2nd and 3rd pregnancies and they called it both times, the calendar just doesn't tell you how many.

Violet - posted on 01/25/2009

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oh i wish you the best of luck with this.... i had two boys and we tried for our girl for 18mts., when i concieved i used to have dreams it was a boy,  and in the dreams  i called him Keaden ( had never even heared of the name before!) , and i very vividly remember the emotions of the dream as in it i gave him away!!!!  so i know how much this can play on ur mind, i put us having a girl down to the fact we just went with it and hoped and prayed for our wish ...... the funny thing was, when i did have her i gave birth in the car and my husband delivered her... in all  the panic we forgot to even check the sex of the baby .... untill i rang my mum in hysterics and she asked the sex...... i think in heinsight it showed the fact she arrived safely in the circumstances proved the sex was insignifficent, we went on to have another girl after that so i guess we got lucky twice!!! best of luck with it and sure ye,ll enjoy trying anyways!!!!!  :)

Raelene - posted on 01/25/2009

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Yeah i used the lunar calender to concieve a girl after having 2 boys and it worked i got my girl :) on the internet type lunar calender its fun its a chinese calender it tells u what month u are most likely to have a girl by going by your age and month u concieve have fun!!

Barbara - posted on 01/24/2009

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Hi! I too have 4 boys, ages 16,11,9 and 21 mos. ....I guess you should just "pray" for a girl! Good for you for trying for # 5! I think you're my new hero!!! Good Luck!

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