What kind of racial things have you had to endure and how did you handle it?

Sarah - posted on 05/15/2012

Celia...I laughed when I saw your post, because that lady must have been ignorant as heck to make such a bold assumption. I would have been pissed off if I were you. I don't know how I would've handled that. The worst I ever got was when my black/white daughter was a baby, a few people asked me if she was mine. I always rolled my eyes and said yes. I'm glad I haven't had to deal with that anymore, even though she still looks nothing like me.

Jennifer - posted on 05/01/2012

Marci I am from Chicago. I moved to a different suburb and it seems much better. There are. Ore biracial children. Ppl are so ignorant. Nika thank you for those words. Gabrielle I'm glad u haven't had to endure such negativity. Amanda I completely agree no room for toxic ppl in my life either. Celia that is crazy what was your response?

Celia - posted on 04/18/2012

Just last week the checkout lady at Costco asked me how long I have been working for the family.

Nika - posted on 09/23/2011

I'm black and my husband is mix (blk/wht) and he and his mom has had to deal with ignorant people for awhile, mainly family. My mother in law was disowned by her family for having a baby by a black man. My husband was teased growing up of course by black and whites called oreos, and all that bull that silly people say. Like I tell him and my mother in law, skin is skin and love is love. We all bleed the same and I will never understand why some people act the way they do. But we will never understand everyone. I look at this world like a garden, we're not all meant to look the same or that would be one boring garden lol. A garden has a lot of different flowers of all colors which is what makes a garden beautiful. I say continue to do you and if people can't accept who you love then oh well. Your life is meant to be lived the way YOU see fit point blank. Wish you the best girlie!

Gabrielle - posted on 03/10/2011

I come from the deep, deep South. I am white and American. My ex-husband is black and African. I knew that my family would never behave badly, but I thought there might be some uncomfortableness when I brought my husband home. There was none. My family was extremely warm and welcoming to him. My entire, extended family was warm and welcoming, and I have a huge, huge, huge extended family.

We were living abroad when we married and when my daughter was born, and shortly before I moved back home, I saw a series of videos on MSN about "Being Biracial in America." I became sick with worry about what my child would face. I panicked that I had made the wrong choice to move home.

We have not experienced even subtle racism except once when one of my nephews said something about my daughter being black. He was only 4 and I was so shocked that I thought it was funny at first. But then I became very sad because I realized that it was just the beginning and the tip of a very damaging iceberg. I honestly don't know where he got it from.

Anyway, that was nearly 3 years ago, and we haven't had anything else like that, in the family or among the public.

However, I do worry that she will be pigeon-holed by both sides of the color spectrum as she grows. While I have no doubt that she will be able to overcome those preconceived expectations of her, it saddens me to think she will have to. I also worry about what she will feel she has to do to prove that she is "black" or to prove that she is "white." I worry that if she falls for a white guy, his family will not be happy. Etc. But so far, in our case, KNOCK ON WOOD, CROSS MY FINGERS, FIND A FOUR-LEAF CLOVER, it has all been worry and fear on my part about what might be, not what is.

Amanda - posted on 02/24/2011

i am white, and my husband is half black and half mexican, and my extended family is closed minded. a cousin who was my bestfriend told me she couldnt believe i was the one to bring a black baby into my family. I also had others who tried to console me by telling me 'you cant even tell, they arent that dark' like thats what the problem was... some people just dont get it. So i stopped talking to all my family who wasnt supportive of me, and they werent invited to my wedding, and i moved on with my life with out them. i never have much of a response for family or friends except that all it means is my kids have a better tan than i do, and if they want to treat them like they have something wrong with them, they dont have to be in my childrens lives.

Marcy - posted on 08/11/2010

are you from Chicago Jennifer? I feel like there are some racist people both black and white in Chicago :( We live in the northshore area. One guy asked me if a black man wasn't good enough when I was in downtown Chicago. Mind you, I was just hanging out with a male platonic friend, who happened to be white.

Jennifer - posted on 08/03/2010

Katy very true on ignorance. And it is very sad that your family would do that to you. I have a family that is also racist.My uncle once told my cousin she will not date anyone darker than her.Just cause he was mexican. Needless to say she married a mexican guy and have 2 children. My father was racist and he had to get over it he wanted to be around his grandchildren And he eventually loved my husband. he would tell him he loved him at the end of a conversation.Which is huge. I dont kno i try to stay away from ppl like that cause there is enough hatred in the world to be getting it from your own family. Ebony we also get alot of stares.and the rude comments from whites and blacks. I do get alot of your children are so beautiful also.

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 07/24/2010

Im Black and my husband is Korean…we just had a baby boy who is 4months so I have yet to get actual comments, but I do get A LOT of stairs. Me and my hubby already got them on our own, because a Black woman and a Asian man is what you rarely see as far as being a couple goes, and then we add our son!!!

I get most of my looks from other Blacks and Asians…white people stare too, but not like the others.
My son is a shade darker then his father, with the slanted eye’s and all. He looks nothing like me what so ever….and you would agree im sure, so that is why I get the looks….

I honestly don’t mind people looking because I know very well I would look to..LOL
But when they get rude is when they cross the line, and when that time comes I just hope I can say/give a response in a classy way…I hope mama bear don’t come out and I try to rip someone’s throat out..LOL

Katy - posted on 07/21/2010

Well, lets see, when I first got married to my husband (I'm white, he's mixed) I was disowned by my one uncle (great loss..... feel that sarcasm??) and when I found out I was pregnant my sister told me that our kids would be an abomination. I've been told I'm a race traitor, I've been asked if I'm the baby sitter for my daughter and if my son is really my husbands (daughter is dark skinned, son is light skinned). My daughter is know deal with bull crap at school, which I had a sit down with the teacher about, she was being told by little girls at school that all dark skinned girls had dirty nasty hair and were all stinky and dirty..... I had hoped my daughter would never have to deal with this crap, but apparently there are still enough ignorant people out there, breeding ignorant kids, to keep the hate alive. I never know what to say, and just would rather be the bigger person and ignore them and walk away, and I'm trying to teach my daughter that as well, because whats the point in fighting about it when ignorance is involved.

Jennifer - posted on 06/28/2010

Shar i could imagine! Its a shame that ppl just cant get over it.The way I see it is whe i get to heaven its going to be a true melting pot.If u cant handle it here what are you going to do up there.

Shar - posted on 06/27/2010

Sad this new day and age we're still dealing with the same crap. I'm a black mother to 3 half black/italian kids ages 20,12, and 4. I've had people come up and ask whose kids was I babysitting or if they were my foster kids. My husabnd and I are originally from up north, but live here in the south. I'm sure you can imagine some of comments I've heard from quite a few inbreds around here.