Does anyone else feel this way?

Melissa - posted on 10/10/2009 ( 34 moms have responded )

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I already have 2 boys. I want a girl so bad. Why? I don't know. I want to do all the fun girly things like styling her hair and painting nails and playing with barbies. I've saved my barbies, my baby clothes, and my wedding dress in hopes of passing it on to my daughter. I never thought I wouldn't have someone to pass it on to. Do I want to take a chance of having another boy in hopes of having a little girl? I know all children are a blessing and I don't want to sound selfish. I have 2 healthy boys and I should be happy, right?

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Carla - posted on 09/21/2011

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God puts that longing for children in us. You never have to worry about following it as long as your are being faithful and following his Word. If you have a another boy, then maybe the fourth time, you'll get a girl, or maybe the fifth? I knew a family once who had ten sons, and FINALLY a girl!! Wow, she was spoiled! And I am saying this as a mother of ten children, who is in the process of adopting two more...

Pamela - posted on 10/11/2009

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It is normal I have 4 boys and was really hoping for a girl. It was hard to hear that we were having another boy the last time but that feeling does slowly go away. I love my boys with all my heart. The worst part for me is that it constantly gets thrown in our face we don't have a girl and that really hurts. I figure it wasn't meant to be for me to have my little girl.

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Shannon - posted on 10/11/2011

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I have felt the same way in the past and i hate to say i still have the feelings about haveing a girl, I have 5 boys and and yes maybe i'm a little nuts but i would still try again in aheart beat even for only the possibility of having a girl. or if you don't mind not giving birth to them the maybe adopt a little girl, we are taking that in to consideration as well

Kimberly - posted on 10/03/2011

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It's completely normal because I felt the same way. But I am excited about having another boy because my son now has a best friend that he can grow up with...

Ali - posted on 09/20/2011

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Hi Everyone
I have felt so guilty wishing for a girl when I adore my 2 boys ages 4 and 19mnths but I still want a little girl so badly. I have given my niece my barbies and buy my nieces all the pretty things that I would love to buy for my own daughter however I would not change my boys for anything on earth and have come to terms with the fact that if we did ever decide on a 3rd then I would not be dissapointed with another boy...my one niece is 17 and has a boyfriend and my sister worries herself sick..my other niece is very cute but is clingy, whiney and very demanding (plus she is a tom boy and refuses to wear dresses)

Ashley - posted on 03/01/2010

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Its always nice to dream Im in the same boat, I really want the same for my self and am afraid that if I have any more they will be boys..its such a roll of the dice I guess it normal but its hard to fight that want..Im sure there are fathers out there with lil girls that feel the same way we do about our boys I guess just keep pondering til you feel either its time to be done or to see if just maybe this time...but dont let anyones elses opinions or feelings deside for you

Adrianna - posted on 02/21/2010

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I feel same way i have a 2 and half yr old boy and 9 year old step son and am due in august praying this one is a girl. i grew up in family of all girls so i miss the whole girly stuff

Amber - posted on 02/18/2010

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i dont think its crazy either i was blessed with 2 boys myself and i want a little girl sooooo bad i was the 1st girl in my family and got picked on all the time by my cousins so i def want a little girl. i was my moms only child and we are best friends we do everything together thats what i want if i ever have a little girl but for now me and my boys do so much.

Jennifer - posted on 02/15/2010

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Actually I am very happy with the 4 boys I have. I don't miss having a girl. It doesn't bother me when people ask if we are going to try for a girl. I proudly say "NO!" It doesn't bother me that I don't have to pay for prom dresses or the weddings. I don't miss the nail polish or the make-up or the fixing hair. I don't do most of that myself. I had saved my barbies too but I have given some of them to nieces and friends' daughters. It is true that girls clothes are cuter than boys clothes but I have friends and nieces starting to have babies so I have been able to buy girl clothes. I don't miss the drama or the screaming of little girls. I am content with my boys.

Becky - posted on 01/22/2010

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I have 2 boys and though in the back of my heart I would like a little girl, I am so happy with my boys. I am the queen of the house, I won't have to deal with the teen years, and I have a beautiful neice that I can enjoy all the girly things with. It is the best of all worlds. (I can't even figure out my mood swings yet alone someone else's)

Laura - posted on 01/14/2010

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I have two boys, a 3 and 7 year old. I always wanted boys, so I don't have the urge for a little girl. So many things appear to be easier with boys. I feel that if I had a 3rd child I would want another boy, I don't know how I would handle having a girl. I have lots of nieces and there seems to be more drama with girls than with boys. At some point I felt like I wanted a little girl, and was considering adoption, but I am now content with what I have. Girls are or boys children are big blessings.

Marisol - posted on 01/12/2010

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I feel your pain. I too have 2 boys healthy and all but for some reason I want a girl. For the same reasons you have (the wedding dress, the make-up and nails, spa days with her) but more importantly I too have heard and seen that boys leave the nest forever. Girls are more likely to come back. At first I did feel sorrow but then I remember or spend time with any girls in my youth or now spending time with any little girls and they act so spoiled and they all have a attitude on them (evil girls). Then I think to myself I don't think I could live with pink and ruffles around me ALL THE TIME! I do want my little best friend, my shopping buddy, my spa partner but I don't think I could risk it. My sons are wonderful, loving, and love to make me happy. I always thought I was going to have more but now I'm thinking who need a girl, boys are better. I'll just teach them family is everything so when I'm old, I wont be alone. I wont get to do girl-ly thing with them but I'm not much for girl-ly :)

Jill - posted on 01/11/2010

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I have 2 boys...with my first pregnancy I thought for sure it was a girl, nope. My son though was such a sweet angel I didn't want a girl anymore, plus my friends little girls were such BRATS!!! lol. My boys love my husband and I and think they will always remain close even when they are older. To get rid of my girlie itch I spoil myself and have the girliest bedroom on the planet...and my husband doesn't care!!!!!!

Heather - posted on 01/10/2010

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I have two Healthy boys as well and I love them dearly but every now and again especially when i'm around my lil nieces I feel like aww I wanna girl too U are not being selfish.Your just picturing what it would be like to now raise a girl and experience all the girly things :)

Joy - posted on 01/10/2010

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Remind yourself of the worries of parents with teenage girls!! (I had 2 sister's!) :) Having said that, you may have a daughter who is a total tomboy!! :)

Tracy - posted on 01/07/2010

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I have 4 boys!!!! Talk about giving up on the girl! I always wanted a girl but as they say everything happens for a reason. I did have a miscarriage that I truely believe was my girl. They said it was to early to tell but I think they knew! As I watch some of my friends little girls I see that it is not all dress up and fun. They are very whinning and always picking on each other. My boys fight among themselves but not other kids. I figured knowing my luck I would of had a tom boy that wouldn't of wore a dress if I paid her. Enjoy what you have. Life is to short!

Kerensa - posted on 01/05/2010

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i have a boy and ive been told that i have pco's now so i might not be able to have anymore children, but i desperately want a little girl, even though my son is healthy and loving and loved he isn't enough i want a little girl aswell

Judi - posted on 01/04/2010

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I HAVE TWO BOYS AND I'D LOVE A GIRL TOO!! BUT I CANT HAVE ANY MORE CHILDREN!! BUT A GIRL WOULD BE LOVELY I HAVE A WONDERFUL RELATIONSHIP WITH MY MUM AND I'D LOVE THAT SAME SORT OF RELATIONSHIP WITH A DAUGHTER, AS THEY SAY: A DAUGHTERS A DAUGHTER ALL OF YOUR LIFE A SON IS A SON TILL HE TAKES A WIFE!!! IN SAYING THAT THOUGH I DO LOVE MY BOYS!!!

Megan - posted on 01/03/2010

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I am also a mother of 4 boys, we had twins first then another boy. I desperately wanted a girl so I didn't find out the sex when I got pregant again because I was afraid they would tell me it was another boy. I figured if he just came out a boy I would be ok rather than being disappointed during the pregancy. When he was born I loved him instantly but I will admit to having some feelings of disappointment! Even now I do envy my friends with little girls who wear dresses and have lots of nice pink stuff! Anyway I figure I just wasn't meant to have a girl and I do love my four boys with all of my heart.

Rebecca - posted on 01/02/2010

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Understood! I feel the same way. I live in a house of men (2 of 3 are toilet trained) and the toilet seat is NEVER down. I would love to have a little girl but too afraid to get pregnant to have another boy. I was disappointed the second time when I found out it was another boy so I can't go through it again. I am considering adoption in the future because it seems as if its a sure thing that I can get a girl.

Paulette - posted on 12/30/2009

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well, i've got 4 boys (men now!) and i don't think anyone wanted a girl more than me!! rest assure young moms, if you raise them right they can be every bit as wonderful as a daughter. my guys call several times a week (they all live out of our state!) and we see eachother 2-3 times a year. it's really quite perfect! to fix our girl need, we started hosting exchange students when #3 son went off to college. i now have daughters all over europe! and two of them stayed for a school year. i got to do the prom thing and my hubby got to worry about his little girl with guys! and they keep in touch as much as our boys do! i'm so blessed to have 3 granddaughters now and there is no doubt that having boys is the BEST!!! besides, i'm the queen and it's great!

Crystal - posted on 12/13/2009

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Sometimes I feel like I might want a girl but then I look at my nieces and remember how evil girls can be. I would lose my mind when she became a teen. Most of the teenage girls I know are extremely irritating. I suppose it all depends on which side of nature vs nurture you're on. If you believe you can teach a girl to not be evil then more power to you. As for me...I'll stick with my boys for now.

Danielle - posted on 12/05/2009

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You're not alone! I have 3 boys and I understand how you feel! Read about how to have a girl and check the calendar that tells you what month you'll conceive a girl. I haven't tried it yet, but Feb., June, and Nov. are my months next year!

Tara - posted on 12/02/2009

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I love having three boys!!! Our third is adopted and we specifically requested a boy. I sometimes wonder what it would be like to have a girl or think of having a fourth (but wouldn't mind in the least if that meant a fourth boy), but I do think we're done at thee. My boys are so loving and exciting and easy to raise! Can't complain. I think the feelings expressed above are perfectly normal... but I wouldn't keep "trying for a girl" if you'll be disappointed with a boy. You might consider adoption though, if you just have to have a girl! :)

TIFFANY - posted on 11/18/2009

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Finally someone who feels the same way as i do. I have two sons and the doctors kept telling me that my last son was gonna be a girl so i got my hopes up and come to find out they were wrong, don't get me wrong i love my son and i wouldn't change him for anything in this world, but i would like a little girl but the lord blessed me with two sons for a reason

Jenni - posted on 11/15/2009

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When I found out that I was pregnant for my 3rd child I wanted it to be a girl so badly. God, however, had other plans. I now have 4 boys and couldn't imagine my life any other way. My grandmother always told me that God will never lead you where his strength can't help you. I believe that with all that I am. My boys are now 12, 10, 6, and 5 and there are days when I think I'm never going to get to do the prom dress thing, or I'm not going to get to be involved with the wedding stuff, or what role will I have when they have children? My mother and I are so close and that's the relationship I wanted to have with my own daughter. I've just come to accept that I may not have those things I think I want but my relationship with my boys is unmeasureable.

Susan - posted on 11/08/2009

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I know the feeling!! I have three boys!! When I was pregnant with my third I really hoped it was a girl and when I found out he was a boy I was a little disappointed! Then I felt guilty for feeling disappointed!! lol Turned out he was a beautiful baby with a rare chromosome disorder! While he has challenges, he is truly a blessing!! I still struggle with having another. I know I should just get my tubes tied, but then I think of how wonderful it would be to have a little girl!!

Tanya - posted on 11/07/2009

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I have 4 boys (1 is my stepson)..I thought i wanted a girl but i have definitely changed my mind :-) Boys rock! They are the best and whilst i was a lovely child i dont know how my mum coped when i hit my teens..I would worry far too much about a daughter..Sexist? A little but look at the world today. Of course everyone is different and this is just my choice :-) Good luck in whatever choice you make

Jenny - posted on 11/04/2009

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I feel the same way, I don't know what to do having another or leave it with 2 boys... (5 and2 year)

Jeanne - posted on 11/03/2009

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I have two boys. Here's an advantage when they get to school age: when your whole family is out and one says he needs to go to the bathroom, it's daddy duty! *grin*

My husband and his brother stayed close with their mother while she was alive. That was just how that family operated; all generations stayed close. If you want to stay connected to your boys after they fly the coop, model that yourself by staying connected with your parents.

Ashley - posted on 11/03/2009

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i have 3 boys a singleton and twins i was heart broken when i found out i was having twins and they both were boys i want a girl sooo bad and i dont think i will try b/c i would be depressed if i didnt. I'm just being honest. Iam young thought 26 and so things could change but right now i would love a girl but i dont think it would be right for me to have another and taking a chance being depressed over it being another boy. as it stands i have it in the back of my mind i so day could lol but doubtful my hubbys dad had four boys just makes me think they dont have girls.

Melissa - posted on 10/11/2009

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Wow, I can't imagine having 5 boys!! Thanks for the supportive comments. When I have thoughts about what it would have been like if I had a girl, I think of my grammy. She had 4 boys! She passed away several years ago. I'm curious if she ever had the same thoughts I have. I think of the times I used to style her hair when I was younger and how she let me do whatever I wanted. Looking back, I think she really enjoyed that time with me. I know I did. It makes me hopeful that maybe some day I'll have a granddaughter to do all those fun girly things with:)

Carrie - posted on 10/10/2009

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it is not crazy to feel this way...i only have one boy (he's 3) and i want a girl SO bad too...my mom went and told me (she has two girls and two boys), that she hardly ever even hears from her boys now that we're all grown...but her daughters are two of her best friends...and so i am fien'nig REALLY bad for a girl...what if my son marries a witch and i never see him again? what happens when my husband is gone and i'm alone? YES it is normal to want a girl...me too!

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