Fighting brothers

Jenni - posted on 11/15/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Does anyone have any suggestions to stop my boys from fighting? It seems to be a daily deal and nothing I do seems to help. Most of the time it is my 10 and 6 year old but the other 2 get involved also. Please help!

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Tamara - posted on 04/10/2010

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my boys are 7,2 and 4 months my 2 year old and my 7 year old fight all day long one always want what the other one has so i try to get them the same stuff just put names on it my 7 year old keeps taking stuff from my 2 year old and when he dont know im looking i see him do this all the time and when my 2 year old dose somthing to him for being mean he comes crying how can i get them to just play nice

Kristie - posted on 03/20/2010

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My boys are 16 and 10 and they just like to pick pick pick the other's last nerve!! I get tired of the sneaky little bumping into each other or stepping on toes as they walk by each other.... just to get the other one riled!! UGH!! I wonder if they will ever be close! The younger one feels like the older one hates him most of the time! Neither one of them is good to the other, though they do have moments few and far between when they actually laugh or wrestle with each other. So I have to try to remember those times, when I get worried about it!

Raven - posted on 03/13/2010

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whew!!! I have 4 boys. 10,4,2, and 2 mons. The 10 and 4 year old fight daily, argue and sometime one will hit the other. I think its mostly because there is such an age difference but I also think its just being boys...Then of course the 4 and 2 year old fight about sharing... working on this one has been a battle... but the thing that bothers me the most is that it seems like the attitude... from the 10 year old has trinkled down through all the boys to the 2 year old...this is something we are working on because I dont wont teenage boys throwing down in the yard in my future...

Marlene - posted on 02/24/2010

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all i wanna add is amen that my house isnt the only one in a war zone, my 13 and 9 year old NEVER stop arguing....and i feel like im yelling and threating there lives constantly. lol we all need a vacation away!!!!!!!!

Natashi - posted on 02/05/2010

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Hi Jenni i have two boys as well they are 5 and 6 and they fight daily as well. It sounds harsh but I had my boys talk to a police officer and he talked to them about bulling. Because he said the sible fighting could turn into bullying as they get older. He also said that they could be doing it to get attention or it could be a form of jeolousy. So maybe you could sit down and talk to them asn ask them why they do it and ask them what they feel

Wendie - posted on 12/31/2009

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My boys are 8 and 13. They fight a lot too. My older son is perfectionistic and my younger son is messy and more relaxed, so he likes to do stuff to aggravate his older brother. I agree with the mom who said to make one on one time with each of your boys, so they don't fight as much, especially for your attention. I take one with me to the grocery store or shopping with me sometimes, so they get mom time. It seems to help as does separating them.

Jaime - posted on 12/28/2009

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I will take someone up on this topic as well. My boys are 3 & 5 and the little one is the tough one and the other will do anything to set him off. If you touch his toys, or push, hit him he goes off and will hit his brother and scream at the top of his lungs. Some times, they do play good together or by themselves they are quiet, but they are pushing the boundries and they repeat everything you say. Now they saying not bad swears, but bad talking for little boys and we don't like it or know what to do. If anyone can help.....

Jan - posted on 11/19/2009

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My boys (8 & 4) fight like cats and dogs, but love each other to death. I think because boys are just naturally more aggressive they are also less capable at logical conflict resolution. No matter what the conflict is, their first reaction is to hit or scream. I only intervene if it looks like someone will get hurt or they are breaking rules.

I find they fight less when rules, roles and possessions are clearly defined. Also, they seem to be in better moods in general when they've each had a little one-on-one time with me or their dad.

Jenni - posted on 11/16/2009

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More times than not it's bickering. Of course the occasional fist gets thrown and they talk rude to each other. I understand that some of this is "normal" boys stuff, but it happens so often. I feel like my house is in utter chaos.

Jenifer - posted on 11/16/2009

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Do you mean fist fighting or just arguing? I have an almost 10 year old and 6 year old and they bicker back and forth all the time. They also play pretend games together in the car all the time. I think fighting is just normal for them to grow up and learn how to be men, as long as it's not throwing punches all the time. That doesn't sound normal.

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