I have three boys and I am proud of that. I get told alot that people feel sorry for me. Has it happened to you and what is your response to their comment?

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Beth - posted on 02/03/2010

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I have 5 boys now men, my youngest is almost 20, and the youngest 2, serve their country, the youngest in the Navy and the 4th son is a Sgt. in the Army...I heard that several times -- when they were young and since they were all a year apart -- When people say "I feel sorry for you" or "I'm glad it's you and not me" which is also a popular one, first of all, you don't have to give a response...but you can always respond by saying that you "feel sorry for them, and that you feel blessed because you have been blessed with 3 healthy sons!" Some people should really take the Thumper root and if they have nothing nice to say -- say nothing at all.

Marilyn - posted on 05/24/2009

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I am also the mom of three boys. My boys are grown now, they are 24,26, and 29 years old. When they were little I would hear things like that from people. I would tell them I was glad I had all boys, that a girl would not survive if it lived in our house. The boys would have her wrestled to death, lol. I so enjoyed raising my three sons. They were all different but in some ways all alike. I would not trade my three boys for any one girl. I am glad they are grown now and I finally have girls now that they are married. It has been alot of fun with the girls too and I did not have to go through the years of pms, lol!!!!!! I was mom and my boys knew the rules and followed them pretty well for the most part. I was never the mom that said, "wait till your dad gets home." Now I have the privilage of having our first grandbaby which was a GIRL!!! Grandma gets to spoil her and send her home. I love it and so does papa...

Deb - posted on 01/20/2010

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i've had people say that to me. i'm terribly rude and ignore them. if they're agressive about it, i respond with: 'i'm quite happy with my children. they are my dream come true. i'm sorry *you* can't accept that.' i've gotten profuse apologies from that.

Fiona - posted on 06/20/2010

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I have 3 boys 6yrs, 4yrs and 3yrs. I get "OMG you have 3 boys! I don't know how you do it!" "Don't you wish you had a girl?" "I had 2 boys and that was bad enough , but 3 must be so hard!" I just smile and say 3 boys are just normal to me now and I love it and wouldn't change it for the world, wouldn't want a girl cause I couldn't deal with the teenage years (and neither could my husband!). The worst is my MIL who desperately wants a girl and is disappointed with the boys! I said if she didn't stop going on about having a girl I would buy her a girl doll that she could dress up!! LOL!!

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As a mom with 6 boys, I have received remarks like this often. I always remember people are entitled to their opinion. Ive always been asked, "Arent you gonna try for a girl?' I always reply, " I did, 6 times!" LOL Good laugh. Love having all these growing men around me. Had they been girls..I probably would have stopped at 2. LOL

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Jodie - posted on 03/09/2014

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I have three boys. Ages 10, 9 and 7. Not an easy job. Im glad that I'm seeing moms of boys more and more often these days.

Megan - posted on 02/18/2014

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I haven't posted in awhile. I now am a mother of 5! I have 4 boys and 1 girl! I now get told "You do know how that happen, right?," but now it's because I have 5 kids! I am so happy and honored to be their mother. I could never see my life without them. These are my wonderful kids Ethan 12, Connor 9, Quinn 6, Ava 4, and Harrison(His nickname Harry Jim) 1. It is a full house with my hubby and I but its so wonderful see their happy faces and their brilliant smiles and their Hugs are awesome! And you never forget their first word, "No" and "Daddy," What?? Just happy to be a mom!

Jess - posted on 02/16/2014

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I have 1 boy and I'm adding another one to the mix. I couldn't be happier. My husband had always wanted a girl but doesn't care anymore. Being able to bring life into this world is a blessing. There are so many people dealing with infertility and would be extremely grateful just to have a child period, regardless of the sex. I tell these ignorant morons (esp mom in law) that I have been blessed & I absolutely adore my babies. We had a miscarriage prior to this conception so this is my rainbow baby. If we try to conceive a third, it's going to be because we want it, not because we're 'going' for a certain gender. Sometimes, people take things for granted.

I wish you and your family the best! Enjoy your life & pray for those that make such idiotic remarks. Life is too short!

Lisa - posted on 01/01/2014

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Just found out I'm expecting my third boy. People kept sending "pink thoughts," and although it would have been nice, I love my boys and I think they assumed that's why we were having another one- to try for that girl. Well, to be honest, we weren't trying, it was a complete surprise! The more I get used to the idea of having a third child, the more excited I am regardless boy or girl! I appreciate you posting this because I've already had two people tell me that they feel sorry for me. I am excited to meet this new little man, and I hope everyone else will be too! You know?

Riley - posted on 12/23/2013

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I have two boys and I don't like the responses I get either, but I don't judge others who have girls. Also, I believe people shouldn't expect a certain gender or prefer one over the other. I hate the comments about having little girls saying they're glad they don't have to deal with PMS and nagging. I wonder to myself maybe people think the way they do about girls because of the stereotypes people bring upon them. Not all girls are alike, just like all boys are not alike. I teach my boys to respect women and I don't teach them that because they're boys that it's okay for them to get away with certain stuff. I don't think having a house of three boys is any different than any house with three girls. Kids are going to be kids. All in all, having boys can be a blessing and a heartache whether it's a boy or girl.

Leyla - posted on 12/18/2013

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I am a mother of three wonderful boys! They are 7,5 and almost 4. They are an amazing team and I am so blessed with them always having each other for company. After the first few years of diapers, breastfeeding and being pregnant ALL THE TIME :-) its amazing easy, I would say. And people also ask me all the time how hectic is it in our house. But I don't even think its that hectic! They are so good being playmates for each other. And people always imply that I should have another and it should be a girl, because poor me I need a girl! Why do people think or even say that out loud??? First, how can you order another sex??? And whatever happens, happens for a big masterplan reason! I get hugs and kisses from my boys ALL THE TIME! I feel soooo blessed with their love! I wouldn't change it for nothing!

Michelle - posted on 07/20/2013

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I would say "I don't appreciate your comment and kindly keep your views to yourself".

Kelly - posted on 07/17/2013

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I live in the South and get "bless your heart" all the time for having three boys. Not one visit to the store goes without a stranger commenting to me that I have 3 boys, like I am not aware. I don't think people do it to be rude but it is still odd to me. I love my boys and can't imagine not having them.

Farah - posted on 11/25/2012

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I'm pregnant with my third boy and people say "oh you need a girl?) I just say God gives you what you Need! The best thing about having three boys is that they will grow up to be best friends and would want to do things together. Throwing a girl into the mex might fullfill a mother's desire to have a girl but will just devide the family up...I have seen it happen. It's just not a good family dynamic! As long as you raise your boys well and close they will always want to be together on Holidays etc especially when they get married and have kids, which means you will always be included!

Sherri - posted on 06/12/2010

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I have 3 boys too and people always ask going to try for that girl and I always say NOPE if I could be guaranteed a boy I would have another tomorrow. Don't want any girls.

Adrienne - posted on 05/23/2010

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I also have 3 boys and proud of it! My two older boys are going to be 3 and 2 years old next month and my youngest is going to be 8 weeks this Tuesday.
I've had many people say that they feel sorry for me because I have three boys. I look at them and ask why? They usually walk away and whisper that was rude of her... Also many people ask am I going to try for a girl and I tell them NOPE I don't feel like dealing with PMS! ha ha

Kristeen - posted on 05/15/2010

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I have 3 boys & they are the funniest most caring beautiful people.... yet I often get the pity look & the woiw you've got your hands full comment.

Katherina - posted on 05/11/2010

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People always tell me that I should have another baby, a girl. I said I already have three boys...it's enough. I don't have the energy to take care another baby. Boy or girl is the same. I love my boys...

Jessica - posted on 05/10/2010

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Yes I have 5 boys and get omg bless your heart.yes my heart is blessed thank you!I get were you tring for a girl? No god wanted me to have pertection.I wish i was like them and told them to screw off because they don't care what they say.

Adrianna - posted on 04/07/2010

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Alot of people when they realize i have a 9yr old step son, 2and half yr old son and another boy on the way they are like how do u manage being a stay at home mom with those boys truth be told i wouldn't trade it for the world i love being here with my boys,

Jenni - posted on 03/31/2010

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I am pregnant with my 2nd boy, I already have people telling me the next will be a girl (I am currently 5 months and who said I'm having another??!!) I have a friend who has 4 boys and no girls and she always gets comments, her youngest is 8 months and they didn't find out he sex... so when he was born the comment she kept getting was "oh, another boy" I'm sure she was angry, but she evidently knows how to hold her tongue! :-)
As far as I'm concerned as long as my baby is healthy it doesn't matter if its a boy or a girl! Although girls are a lot more work ... (my step daughter is living proof! :-).)

Peggy - posted on 03/03/2010

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I have five sons also and they are all the best blessings a mom could have. (Our fourth is in the Air Force :-) )

I have heard many times "wow-- I can't imagine having FIVE" - I can't imagine NOT having them. I also have heard people say "Five girls (or three when I had only three) are just as bad-- only different" (Boys wrestle and fight-- girls pinch, pull hair, and back bite more, according to my friends with all girls.)

I think you could respond that it depends on the kids-- that yours are blessings and that you are so glad you have them :-).

Lisa - posted on 01/23/2010

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I tell people that I will take my three boys over a house full of girls any day. And, many will tell me that there is a special place in heaven for mothers of boys. I think there is a special place in heaven for all moms that love and care for their kids, boys or girls :o)

Pamela - posted on 01/07/2010

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I also have three boy's and I just laugh at ppl when they say they feel sorry for me I just tell them my life is a little chaotic but I wouldnt change it for the world I am the queen in the house! lol

Karen - posted on 01/06/2010

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me too, I tell them there is a special place in heaven for Moms of three boys and they are not invided.

Adrienne - posted on 01/05/2010

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I'm due to have my 3rd boy in April. I have a lot of people come up to me and say that they feel sorry for me. I just turn around and say that I'm thankful I won't have to deal with the PMS.

Pamela - posted on 12/29/2009

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I have 4 boys and 1 step son and I hear I am so sorry you poor girl I just say I guess I wasn't meant to have a girl and I am fine with all boys as long as they are healthy! People are always asking if I am going to try for that girl and I tell them no way 5 boys are plenty.

Taneshia - posted on 12/12/2009

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I have 3 boys also and when Im approached with that nonsense I simply reply I dont see why they are the joy of my life! i always try ignore negativity with positivity! boys are blessings and I wouldnt trade them for anything!!! i was actually happy/ relieved each time i found out it was another boy.

Danielle - posted on 12/05/2009

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I have 3 boys and I get that too. I just say, "I do have a loud home!" My mom and dad hate to come over or talk on the phone, but this is our life and I love it! :)

Catherine - posted on 11/11/2009

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I was just in Starbucks today with my 3 boys, and a man sitting in a business meeting stopped and asked me, "Three Boys?" I respond, "Yup," to which he tells me there needs to be an award for moms of boys, to which I respond, "We have a special place in heaven." I wanted boys, love my boys and wouldn't have it any other way. And when someone asks me if I will try for a girl, I look at them and say, "I don't want a 16-yr-old girl!" I've got boys who snuggle me everyday, give me kisses and tell me how much they love me on a daily basis. I'd take that everyday of the week over barbies and tweeny tantrums. Boys are great!

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I just say Thank God I had all boys, I didn't need a girl like me in this world!! Usually people laugh and leave me alone!

Denise - posted on 11/06/2009

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I have 3 boys, ages 18, 12 and 8. I used to get the question when I was trying for a girl and my response to that was NEVER...3 is enough for me. Especially doing it alone...I've been a single mom since the youngest was just a little over a yr old. But they are the greatest. I particularly love it especially now that they are older and people say how did you manage it alone for so long. I respond by saying they are fun and lovely. I'm extremely glad that I didn't have a girl because she would have been wrestled to death LOL.

Carrie - posted on 10/29/2009

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I have 3 boys 16, 13, and 9. I love having boys! They are all involved with sports and we travel all over with them. We never thought about "trying again" for a girl. Of course we didn't expect for god to have other plans and I'm due with a little girl in 2 weeks. I'm scared to death! I know boys! I will say the boys are thrilled to be getting a sister.

Arlise - posted on 10/13/2009

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I have four boys and I all was get this, boy you must have your hands full. Well yes I do I have four kids. When we lived in Japan having boys was good luck for the parents. I'm the youngest out of 5 kids I have three sisters and a bother so when all of us kids had all boys my dad was really happy he had fishing and hunting buddies.

I look at it this way I'll have four daughter-in-laws and maybe granddaughters down the road.

Emily - posted on 10/13/2009

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I have 3 boys and sometimes people will make comments. Now that they are a bit older - 12, 10 and 9 I get more comments on how busy or noisy my house must be than the other comments. I just say "yes it is! and I love it!" I really don't think that people make the comments that they do with a mean spirit. I think they just sometimes say things with out really thinking. People often feel the need to say something - anything - but aren't really sure what to say so will often say what they think they are supposed to say.

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man i was going to quote someone in my reply.. but.. they're all great!!.. i have two boys, 2 and almost a year... little boys LLOOVVE they're mommies.. i was psyched when i found out my second was a boy!.. my mom is like dont you want to try for a girl.. and i say ahh not really but if im blessed w a girl bring it!.. love having my boys and they love having each other.. girls too emotional and i dont need two girls w periods in the house lol

Debbie - posted on 09/21/2009

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I have 3 boys, aged 10, 7 and 6 (no the last one wasn't planned!) and wouldn't change it for the world. I remember I was still in hospital with my third and some brainless visitor asked me if we would try again for a girl! I was horrified!

Tammy - posted on 09/18/2009

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I have 2 great boys..........I always say you worry less with boys as teenagers hahaha

Bobbie - posted on 09/14/2009

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someone actually said that to you!! my goodness. People can be so rude...

I have never had any insults like that...luckily for the people that think they have that right to say stuff like that!! lol

I remember grocery shopping with my three boys one day and I kept bumping into a lady all throughout the store. She finally spoke to me in line and told me that she's always believed there's a special place in heaven for a mom with three boys! I was touched and I told her "there better be!!" half joking...

I love my boys more than anything!!

Rebecca - posted on 09/12/2009

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I have two boys and to be honest I would like a girl. So when people ask I tell them. Well, I love my boys and if that's all God gives me then I'm fine being to only women in the family. But if we decide to have another child it will be fine whatever it is!

Jessica - posted on 09/11/2009

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I am a mother of 3 grown boys and know what you are going through. Just tell those people that feel sorry for that u that you are very glad that you have boys. If you were meant to have a girl you would of had one. Enjoy your life with your boys. Don't let the anyone bring you down about it.

Bec - posted on 05/27/2009

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i have 3 boys too and i get it all the time - i think they are jealous!!!!! I know what i was like as a teenager and thank God i have boys!!!!!

Eve - posted on 05/26/2009

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I have three boys and I get this comment too, or the other is when are you going to have a little girl. I normally say no thank you, i've got niece's that's good enough for me.

Brittany - posted on 05/25/2009

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I have 3 boys and I get the "Are you going to try for a girl?" question all the time. I tell them a girl isn't possible. My hubby is the youngest of 4 boys. There are 6 grandkids on his side and only 1 is a girl. My boys are amazing and they are so extremely funny. They have me laughing always. Between the torn knees in jeans, the jumping off high things, trips to the ER for jumping off high things, playing in the mud, bugs, nerf guns and army men, and I love you mommy I wouldn't trade it for the world.

Catherine - posted on 05/25/2009

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Having 3 boys is the best gift I could ever have asked for. I go through life with a smile on my face, and get plenty of snuggles and kisses from the main men in my life. I get the comments all of the time, and my response is always the same...I wanted my boys, will never regret having my boys, and if I had it to do all over again (and had a choice), I would want it just the way it is. These boys have taught me patience, caring and how to go into every experience with an energy only a little boy can possess. Anyone who wonders if I'm going to try for a girl hasn't been blessed to experience a day of fort building, jumping on the couch, checking to see the consistency of mud while shooting their brother in the head with a nerf gun all of the while destroying just about every toy in their path and all if this before 8am. It brings a smile to my face just thinking about what tomorrow is going to hold.

Robin - posted on 05/24/2009

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I have two boys and am very happy about it. People ask me as well if I want to have a girl .... I sometimes think I do, but I am glad to have boys... they seem much easier, roudy yes but not as emotional. In being around my neices (love them to death) but as they get older (girls) have found to enjoy my boys more.

Kristy - posted on 05/24/2009

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Well I only have 2 and still get comments and pity remarks. We are strong women with challenges and women before us have done the same. Just ignore the ignorance and be happy with what you've been blessed with

Catherine - posted on 05/24/2009

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Exactly Joy :) - been trying to say that, but ya.....
I would LOVE to see that reaction as well - going to try it the next time my mil INSISTS we HAVE to have another child so that we can have a girl...

Joy - posted on 05/24/2009

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Experience has taught me that having healthy child is such a miracle! Sorry for you? I have 2 boys and wonder what on earth I would do without them! Funny the things people say! I wish someone would say that to me so I can say WHY? and watch them struggle to justify such a statement ;)!!

Catherine - posted on 05/24/2009

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Well that´s the thing - they don´t have boys :) It can be jealousy, and most women believe that EVERYONE wants a girl. I know many woman that would rather eat mud than deal with a girl!! I also wanted a girl - but got a boy - and am very happy about it - I know nothing about girls either haha. A friend of mine has a girl and is having a boy now - she is petrified hehe. I have also always maintained that if my teenage girl [if I had one], was like me - I certainly would not want to deal with that! I take my hat off to my mom, and thank God that I have boys :)

Megan - posted on 05/23/2009

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It's funny, cause usually it's people asking that either don't have boys or no children at all. would like to have a girl, but it's all in God's hands. When I was pregnant with my third son, I went to have my ultrasound and when they told me I was having a boy, I was so relieved. I no nothing about girls. And my husband didn't have to go out and buy a shot gun. LOL!!!

Catherine - posted on 05/23/2009

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People are very rude in my opinion! I haven´t had it badly yet - however, when pregnant with my 2nd son, people asked when we would try for a girl. Um, I am CURRENTLY pregnant, we are having two kids, and I love my boys!! My friend has one boy, and people keep asking when she is having another child - she doesn´t want more kids - EVER. She says one is more than enough chaos for her haha :). I have no come back for you - still trying to work on mine, and I have two boys, not three....let me know if you find something? :P Otherwise, it might get to the point where I just ask why they feel it is ok to be so rude?!

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