when should i stop showering with my son?

Samantha - posted on 03/23/2010 ( 40 moms have responded )

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my son is 16 months old and i was told that i shouldn't shower with him any more but i don't see what the problem is! so when should i stop showering with my son?

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Sherri - posted on 10/16/2010

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So what Tawana who cares. My 4 1/2 yr old still showers with me. My 13 & 12 yr old still see my naked. Why is it not good that they understand the differences in bodies. It isn't a bad thing. I still go to the bathroom with the door open. Heck I don't shield my body or anything I do to get dressed and ready from my kids younger or older.

Judith - posted on 10/11/2012

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i love showering with my kids. it brings us closer and i make sure they get cleaned the right way by doing it for them and they scrub my back but usually i can just do it...my teenage sons love to shower with mommy

Vickie - posted on 04/01/2010

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I showered with my boys till they decided that they didn't want to. This happened at about 6. I leave my bedroom door open and have a "come in whenever". My boys (and 2 are teenagers) are not embarrassed by seeing me naked as I don't put any emphasis on that nudity. Shower with your son till either you or him feel uncomfortable.

Tandy - posted on 03/12/2012

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Tawana, My 18 month old pokes at my breasts curiously sometimes but if I don't make a big fuss out of it, he loses interest immediately. Curiosity is natural and your shame is put there by your own mind, not by anything necessarily being wrong.

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Marsha - posted on 12/21/2013

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Gee....I don't know.
I am 39 and my son is 16. We still take an occasional shower together.
We talk about his grades, football, Lacrosse, girls etc....
it's really no big deal. He gets the occasional erection when i clean his rather large and thick Willie, but after a few extra tugs, he ejaculates and that goes away.
No big deal really. He has asked to stick it in me, and I have told him absolutely NOT..... and that he will have to wait till his 18th birthday before he mates with me. He probably will not want to by then anyway.

It's especially hard on me as his extremely thick member is like a piece of art and would feel incredible inside of me I am sure.

A loving Mother,
Raleigh, N.C.

Patricia - posted on 01/23/2013

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Elizabeth or whoever you are- No one talks like that about their son unless they are sick or a troll. I am not going to message you

Patricia - posted on 12/27/2012

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I think that last time the last time I showered with my Daughter she was around 2. I only did this if I was in a rush and didn't have time for the long bath.

Ken - posted on 11/23/2012

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Again, it's the culture that a person grows up in that determines acceptable or not acceptable. I think your situation seems perfectly normal and healthy.

Sherri - posted on 11/22/2012

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Yup I see your up bringing was pretty modest. I grew up in a house where I still saw my parents naked even as a teen. I saw my mom & dad naked until I was late into my teens. So it seems pretty normal that my kids still see their parents naked too even though 2 of them are now teens. Even though I have ALL boys.

Labionda - posted on 11/20/2012

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@Sherri no I don't hv a problem when they are below three. It's just I'm from a family of 5 girls n two boys who are the last. So by the time they were around five we were tweens n teens and had to cover up. Then I went to an all girls boarding school from 9 years to 18 so that didn't help much. Then my first two kids are girls... Get where I'm coming from? :)

Sherri - posted on 11/20/2012

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@Labionda 2 of my kids are almost grown lol 15 & 14 (boys). My 6yr old still dresses every morning in the middle of the living room. Although we just aren't modest I don't close bathroom door or my bedroom door when dressing.



I figure when they start having an issue with it the will stop barging in. Hard to be too modest when you are breastfeeding a baby anyways.

Lisa - posted on 11/20/2012

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I personally don't shower with my daughter... only because I enjoy that time to myself! I also shower in the morning and she gets a bath in the evening. However, I do occasionally jump in the bath with her if I have a backache or something. She is almost 3.



I don't think there is anything wrong with showering with your son at the age of 16 months and whoever is telling you that u should stop is being silly!

Labionda - posted on 11/17/2012

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Oh Sherri, Sherri... I don't know maybe because I have girls I feel this way. Girls are pretty private, my six year old won't get out of the shower without a towel. She will be like excuse me mom do you mind turning. So I tink I'm going to have a hard time with our boy bub when he's all grown :)

Sherri - posted on 11/17/2012

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@Labionda LOL then don't come to my house my 4 children all boys still see me naked every day. Sometimes my 6 1/2 yr old will still shower with me. Oh and 2 of my kids are teenagers.

Labionda - posted on 11/16/2012

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Uuuuurgh that's just nasty y'all naked and bathing in front of your 3 years and over boys mamas. Behavioral analysts would think you screwed up your kids. Leaves a bad taste in my mouth urg! I'm expecting a boy with two girls already and I don't bath with either of my girls, bath time is a private time in our house.

Heather - posted on 11/15/2012

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son is 4 and still showers with me! we dont have a bathtub, if we did he wld not shower with me. Me and my partner r both shift workers so he just gets thrown in the shower with whichever one of us is here to shower him. 16 months old is not a prob for him to be showering with u. its not like he can shower himself at that age!!!

Ken - posted on 11/15/2012

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Who in their right mind would anything wrong with a mother showering with a 16 month old baby? The person who does is the one with the problem, not you.

Melissa - posted on 11/10/2012

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I tend to agree with the moms that are saying 3-4 yrs old. I think you will know. If you are starting to feel uncomfortable, then by all means, stop, but if you think its fine for now, then give it some time. 16 months old is still a baby...I bathed with my babies until they were about 3. When they started noticing different parts of our bodies, I figured it was time for them to bathe by themselves or with their daddy. Trust your instincts.

Laura - posted on 10/13/2012

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Why would there be any problem with this? Its a shower? Big deal. If you are comfortable with it, go for it

Tandy - posted on 03/12/2012

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I agree, Jen. Having grown up in the US and particularly in a household where nudity was not only frowned upon but seen as very shameful and punished, I feel extremely uncomfortable with my body or the bodies of others much of the time.



My husband, on the other hand, grew up in a family where into their teens he and his sisters and brother would occasionally see each other nude - as well as their parents. Nudity wasn't unusual and so it wasn't strange or taboo, it was just how things were.

Sherri - posted on 03/09/2012

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I am with you Jen as I still shower with my almost 6 yr old and my 15 & 13 yr old still see me and their father naked.

Jen - posted on 03/09/2012

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Nudity is fairly normal in most places. Only as you hit america does it become strange.

Mommyof2 - posted on 03/09/2012

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I personally feel very strongly that a family should not be nudists. But everyone has their own opinions and I respect that. It's also very cold in the Seattle area. Clothes are great!

Mommyof2 - posted on 03/09/2012

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I was saying after the age of 5 it's wierd to still be int he bath/shower with them. My son is 5 and responsable to wash himself. I still check on him in the bath. and help him wash his hair sometimes if he wont do it the right way. He's always been very independent and wanted to do everything on his own. But I think kids need to learn that their private parts are to be private. Those parts are for them to see and touch only. Unless the doctor or I need to see it for a medical purpose.

Jen - posted on 03/09/2012

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I don't see what is weird about it considering you generally still give your kids baths at that age.

Mommyof2 - posted on 03/09/2012

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I would say around the age of 2-4. I don't think anyone, should shower with their parents definatly after the age of 5. That's honestly to me, very very very weird.

Trista - posted on 11/14/2011

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personally i stopped when my kids were about 2 but i still pee with the door open i leave the door cracked when i shower they are welcome to come in the bathroom :)

Kelly - posted on 10/26/2010

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Whenever it feels comfortable for them or you. Showered with my boys until they were each about 8 or so and sometimes we still do. They see me naked fairly often and vice-versa. As other moms have pointed out, it's good to have a healthy, open relationship! Good luck mom!

Tawana - posted on 10/16/2010

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stop it now gurl i use to bathe with my son & he was trying to play with my breast out of curiosity he even was lotiong his lil body like me, but what took it all was he took da baby powder & pour sum in his diaper watching me thats no good at all cuz everything we do they catch on fast so i put a stop 2 it now he bathes with his brother!!!!!!!!

Sarah - posted on 09/17/2010

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I agree......I stopped showering with my boys when they started asking about different body parts. I have a closed door policy as well. There is no shame though...lol. The boys still run around in their undies and I just happen to wear boxers too.

Sherri - posted on 06/17/2010

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I still shower with my 4 yr old. What is the problem? I still go to the bathroom with the door open, I change in front of him oh well it is a naked body who gives a fig. Although my older kids we give privacy too. We only have 1 bathroom for a family of 5 so there is always more than 1 person in there at a time. 1 showering, 1 brushing teeth etc.

Phyllis - posted on 04/02/2010

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I still let my 4yr shower with me, because he just plays in the water and has fun but I stopped with my 6yr old when he was only 4, because thats when he took interest more in the body parts. He showers with his Dad now sometimes, but not with me. We don't make a big deal about nudity in our house either, but a closed door to the bathroom or bedroom is respected.

Terry - posted on 03/24/2010

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Children start developing a permanent memory around the age of 3-4 years. At that point I stopped letting our boys in the bathroom or bedroom with me while undressed.

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