Amanda - posted on 03/01/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )
Ugg, where do I start? I have a 4 1/2 yo and 8 1/2 mo both boys. My husband has been in for 12 years and is a workaholic. He works from 6 am to 6 pm and comes home tired, understandably. He doesnt text me to see how we are doing at home or call. He doesnt help with the kids except yelling when he sees/hears something wrong. He makes 4 yo go to his room when he is home. He says he needs to rest when he is home, even the weekends. What about me? I have to wake up in the night with babies. I have to clean and cook every meal without help. I have to bring kids to doctor and school. I have to do everything with a kid on my leg and one on my hip. I have not had "me time" in 4 years, but every weekend he can escape to the garage, get a haircut or go to the store when he wants and all alone. I have to teach a boy to potty train and explain and calm the kids when daddy is working or busy or cannot be disturbed. I never get to put the "DO NOT DISTURB" sign on my door if you know what I mean. On top of that, we have no money and never get out of the house. We dont go out to eat, or have romantic time. He doesnt buy flowers EVER. He wont let me talk when he gets home because he has to relax. He refuses to let me control the TV. He wont let me buy what healthy food we can afford because he doesnt like it. He doesnt pay any attention to me AT ALL unless he wants something. He refuses to do anything that makes me happy and I have changed 95% of myself for him. He wants me to go to school and not work so I have no money until I finish school (about a year). I have not ever been happy in the marriage and want out. I cannot afford it and dont wanna coast off him. What should I do?