how do i tell my son that Daddy aint coming home??

Lauren - posted on 08/12/2009

my goodness rachel, what a horrific thing to happen! but.. i know how you feel, to cut a long story short, my daughter's father didnt want me to keep the baby in the first place, he was reserved during the entire pregnancy and although he seemed exstatic at the birth, 5 weeks later he told me he didnt love me anymore and wanted me to move out. we had nowhere to go and i ended up sleeping on my mums sofa for 9 months. bless her for taking us in. once we'd moved in to my mum's, he never phoned or wrote or requested to see isabel, and me, being in denial and very stupid, always rang him to make dates for him to see her.he didnt even ring on her first birthday! i found out, a few days after he kicked us out, he had been seeing a younger girl, of 19, and she was pregnant, im sure its his but he denies the whole thing, as does his mum. and she is denying it because, i have moved on, and met somebody worthy of our love, a true gentleman and the love of my life, mike. we're getting married in 4 weeks, and we will be looking into mike adopting izzy as soon as we can.and she knows this, and obviously knows il use it against him. we now live in germany, as he is in the army, and i've never been happier.

what that man did to you was discusting, and all i can say is, what doesnt kill you, only makes you stronger, men like that dont deserve children. keep your chin up hun, i know its easy to say, but it will get easier.

x

Rachel - posted on 07/17/2009

Thank_you for comment,Since i last posted this his father is in Germany on a training EX,he phoned the week before to tell me that he did'nt want to see Noah anymore&that him&his girlfriend were going to start a family next year so he would'nt need noah in his life,He has not phoned since&he wont give me a contact number for hi saying to phone his girlfriend if i need him,his mother wont give me his contact number saying that she promised him also it has just come to light that he slept with a Girl in Canda when he was there 2007.So its the same story it just keeps getting better.............

Crystal - posted on 06/25/2009

First of what a jerk! | can't even imagine what ur going thru nor can i tell u waht to do. i guess jsut keep saying i dont know, adn tell that jerk if he dont smarten up to never come back! ur son does not deserve a daddy who steps in when he feelslike it an out when he doesnt. and the gf issue is no excuse to not see his son. he should spend time with his son without her to respect u.