Miscarriage and trying again? Any success stories?

Mandy Rae - posted on 02/20/2013

Hi! I recently had a miscarriage on the fourteenth of December! I felt like my life was over but I knew I had to keep going bc of my wonderful eight year old son and my husband whom I love with all my heart! I just found out I'm pregnant Again. I haven't seen a dr yet but I also would like to hear stories from women who have been through this. Thank y'all! I'm new to this . I usually just read stories.

Zen - posted on 11/28/2012

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From a Mom who also lost a baby

Toni - posted on 08/30/2012

Hi there ladies. I had my 7yr old daughter in 2005 and then lost a baby in 2007, went on to have my son in 2008. Me and my husband got married in 2010 and decided that we would love another baby, we came off the pill in may 2011 and started trying. Every month was so disheartning as we wanted it to happen so badly, then jan 2012 it happened we were pregnant we were so over the moon. But a week before my scan was due I got the tiniest spot of blood, and nothing ever after that, but went to hospital to make sure everything was ok. Unfortunatly when they scanned me by baby had no heart beat and that I had had a missed miscarrige, we were deverstated, this baby was longed for and I still have the scan photo and his teddy beside my bedside. We said we wouldn't try again the heart ach Is too much, but I longed for another baby and in may 2012 I fell pregnant again and as quickly as I found out I had it taken away from me again. Now I'm so strong that I am determing to get that baby I long for.

Jennifer - posted on 05/26/2011

I had a miscarriage in Feb. 2009. I had to have a D&C. Don't know why it happened..I went to the bathroom and was bleeding..The bleeding stopped..Went to the doctor and there was no baby..About a month later I got pregnant again..I was terrified..I was not gonna go through the same thing twice..Thankfully I ended up giving birth to a beautiful baby girl in December 2009..She's almost 18 mths now and a handfull..I thank god everyday for giving me such a beautiful child..

Brittany - posted on 03/17/2011

I lost my first at 8 weeks and found out 2 weeks later. I got pregnant with my daughter about 5 months after. It felt like once I was mentally ready I got pregnant (we had been trying for about 2 months). I almost lost my daughter at 4 1/2 weeks but was put on bedrest and progestin. I recently lost my third. Thus far my track record isn't that great. But I got the green light from my doctor that even if I don't have insurance I can come in and get an hcg/progesterone test if I get a positive one at home. Hopefully this next one will be a good one.

♥Lena - posted on 03/14/2011

I'm sorry to hear about your loss, I have a 5 year old and that pregnancy went great no problems. The my husband & I got pregnant again in 2009 and I didn't even know the baby died. I had a silent miscarriage at 10 weeks along, and I did a lot of blaming myself kept asking why me? It is hard, but it get's better in time. It is normal to be angry. I found out the reason the baby passed was bc of low progesterone in my body they didn't know why it was low. But we are currently almost 6 months pregnant now and in the beginning of the pregnancy it was scary I kept thinking the same thing was going to happen. But they put me on the highest dosage of progesterone and we made it. It get's better in time I promise. Just take it one day at a time, sometimes I thank God that pregnancy didn't happen because I was told I could of had a very deformed child that wouldn't of had a good life just because it wasn't developing like it was suppose to so God took it in his own hands. Please keep your head up. I will Pray that things get a little easier for you. : )

Laura - posted on 02/12/2011

I miscarried September 2007 at 10 wks... 2 days before I was scheduled to hear the heartbeat and 2 weeks before my wedding. I found out January 2008 I was pregnant again, but held off going to the doctor until mid-february because I was so scared. The only reason I went after was I was getting sick upwards of 20 times a day. At 5 months I started having Braxton-Hicks contractions, which I had every day until I delivered at 41 weeks, yup one week overdue. My little girl is now almost 2 and a half. She is my miracle, I've been told that I shouldn't have been able to carry her to term. She will also be my only child, I've had 4 miscarriages since :(
You seem to have done well :) There is always hope.

Becky - posted on 08/13/2010

Allison that is such wonderful news, congratulations. You're right you never will forget your little angel.
Well let us know what the scan says blue or pink! :-) x

Allison - posted on 08/12/2010

Thank you Becky, things are going much better than I ever imagined. I'm almost 17 weeks now and waiting for my 20 week appointment so I can finally see what i'm having! It feels like a miracle and i'll never forget my little angel that I lost.

Becky - posted on 07/19/2010

Alison, sorry i missed all your updates. Sounds like everything is going really really well. I am so happy for you and hope you can settle into enjoying this time that is just yours and your babies time (well ok other people can share the odd tummy rub and photos but it's you and your baby together). Keep us posted, so pleased everything seems to be going so well x

Allison - posted on 07/14/2010

Thank you!! Just an update, I had my 12 week appointment and everything is perfectly fine. The cramping and bleeding has stopped and the heartbeat is great. I still worry of course but now I feel like I can begin to enjoy everything. Thanks for everyone's support and responses!!! I wouldn't have gotten through this without my freakout posts on here :)

Cassandra - posted on 07/14/2010

hello my name is cassy n i wud like to start off by saying i have two beautiful boys(4 n 3) i recently had a miscarriage n feb 2010 n iam now 4 months pregnant with my third child...i was also scare that it might have happen again but it didnt n now imma due in dec 2010. but i was diagnosed with gestational diabetes. but it will fine ill be ok ...i wish all the best to you n if its in gods wil it will happen for you!!

Crystal - posted on 07/12/2010

Positive, Positive, Positive!!! Keep that in your mind!!! I miscarried in March 2010 and here it is July and I'm 6 weeks pregnant, with everything going perfect!! Keep your head up! It is scary, I worry about everything, from second hand smoke, to riding the Harley with my husband, how I sleep, what I eat, and everything else!!! But I stay positive!!! So you do the same and good luck!

Sarah - posted on 05/30/2010

so pleased for you. i was told with my youngest that you have something like 70% survival rate once they've seen the heart beating on a scan, so really good news!
take care xxxx

Allison - posted on 05/25/2010

There was a little heartbeat and jsut started on the meds. I have huge hope now!! :) It brought tears to my eyes when I saw that tiny flutter of a heartbeat on the screen!!!!

Allison - posted on 05/25/2010

Update again:

I went in yesterday for bloodwork and got the results today. My beta count was 1800 but my progesterone is borderline low. Like .1 away from being too low. They want me to come in for an ultrasound today and then prescribe some meds I have to take twice a day to up that progesterone count.



I'm not sure if 1800 is good or not but i'm not worried about it now that I know I'm far enough along that they're willing to do an ultrasound. I just pray for a strong little heartbeat!!!

Allison - posted on 05/23/2010

Thank you Sarah, I'll be calling my doctor tomorrow to see if they can see me. Today has been better, only a small amount of spotting and it was brown in color. No cramping or back aches either so that's good I guess. I'm holding onto a small amount of hope but i'm still very upset because even though everyone says brown spotting is better than red, I'm also experiencing low back pain and thigh pain and cramping. That can't be normal?!



I'll keep you guys updated, thanks for the prayers and positive words and thoughts everyone. ♥

Sarah - posted on 05/23/2010

hi allison
sending big hugs and lots of baby glue to you.
i really hope things get better for you. i'd go straight to see the dr and ask their advice if i were you. i did have bleeding with my last 2 pregnancies, and both children are here and well, so it's hard to give advice.
I found that the drs where really helpful to me when i was pregnant with my 2nd daughter (preg. no 5) i was away from home and started bleeding, and so went into the local a+e, where i explained my history of loss, and who then took me on to the early pregnancy unit and scanned me. i am sorry that i can't remember how early this was though, and it was mid-week, so i'm not quite sure what would happen at a weekend. i know that during pregnancy 6, in 2006, that i went to the epu at the hospital and then they gave me an open access phone number that i could use for any problems up until 14 weeks.
don't get too disheartened, my husband and i both sat crying the night before my scan in 2006, as we felt it was all going wrong again, and we were so shocked when they found his heartbeat, we kept asking if they were sure!
please keep us posted, and you'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
sarahxxx

Allison - posted on 05/22/2010

An update and not a great one unfortunately :(

I found a light brownish slightly pinkish discharge and a lot of it when I wiped this evening. I haven't had anymore but I am experiencing really bad lower back pain that's travelling into my thighs. Slight cramping that feels like my period is coming. I've also lost all tenderness to my breasts. I don't know whether I should prepare myself for a miscarriage or stay optimistic. I feel like all signs point to a loss and i'm crushed :(

Allison - posted on 05/20/2010

I haven't called the doc yet because they wont schedule me until i'm 8 weeks pregnant. I'm thinking if I call and express concern over the pain maybe I could get an earlier appointment though. The pain has let up though, now it usually just occurs after I pick up my daughter or have been on my feet for a while and then at night when i'm trying to sleep. The cramping has let up a lot too. I'm starting to feel a bit better about things. I'll definitely keep everyone posted as soon as I know anything! Thanks again, you have all been so wonderful!!

Becky - posted on 05/19/2010

Well just take care of your self keep as positive as you can. Have you discussed the pains with docotor/midwife? I would they maybe able to explain them or find a cause or even just put your mind at rest.

Keep us posted though it is worrying even if you haven't been through a miscarriage but i know how you (and all the other ladies) felt and we're here if you need a chat.

xx

Allison - posted on 05/19/2010

Thanks Becky! I'm only 4 weeks and 5 days along so very early. I'm trying so hard to stay positive but it's harder than I thought. I have been cramping pretty badly on and off each day along with on and off lower back pain and thigh pain. No spotting though and the cramping feels like AF cramping not contraction cramping which is what I had with the miscarriage. It's a bit all consuming wondering if this little one is going to stay stuck or not but there are times I allow myself to be just really happy and those are the best times! Thanks so much!!!

Becky - posted on 05/19/2010

Allison congrratulations i hope all is going well with your pregnancy, how far along are you? Good luck and keep positive - sending lots of positive thoughts and love your way.
Becky x

Nikkole - posted on 05/15/2010

hi. i had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy it was 10 weeks when i lost my baby. that was all most 3 years ago. i thought i could never have kids, but i was wrong i have a baby girl that is 7 months old now. So i would get your self worked up their is hope for you! good luck

Allison - posted on 05/11/2010

Thank you Amy! I'm so sorry for your losses but so greatful there are wonderful success stories like yours to keep women like me positive. That must have been an amazing feeling when the Ultrasound tech showed you your baby. I hope and pray I get to experience the same joy!! Thanks so much!!

Amy - posted on 05/11/2010

I have more than a glimmer of hope for you!
Here's my story in a nutshell; I had my first child and was so happy and wanted another child, I ended up having 3 miscarriages, the Ultrasound Techs got to where they wouldn't look me in the eye anymore, I was devastated I thought it would never happen, but then one day I went in (knowing I was pregnant again) and the Ultrasound tech looked at me with tears in her eyes and said "look there's your baby" and I delivered a healthy baby about 7 months later. Several years later I decided to try for a third child and had another miscarriage, at that point I decided I would never try again, but my husband mentioned wanting another child a few times and I really wanted to try again and I became pregnant (I refused to announce it until I was pretty far along) but I had a beautiful baby girl and no regrets. Miscarriage is one of the most painful experiences I have ever had and I endured 4 of them, but there is light at the end of the tunnel, I wish the absolute best for you and will kepp you in my thoughts!

Allison - posted on 05/10/2010

"you have to believe in every pregnancy" I like those words Sarah, thank you. I found out yesterday on mother's day i'm pregnant again. I'm terrified and i'm worried that every cramp and every low back ache i'm having is "it". I'm trying to remain positive though. I count every time I go to the bathroom and there's nothing wrong as a blessing and a victory. Thanks for all of your stories and words of encouragement, they have truly helped me face this!

Charlene - posted on 05/05/2010

I've had two miscarriages, and I have two children. I got pregnant with my daughter less than a year after my first miscarriage, she's 4 years old now. With my son, that one is a bit complicated and hard to believe due to the rarity of it. I miscarried in November 2008, I was only a few weeks pregnant, they typically don't do an ultrasound that early unless there's complications. They told me that there was something wrong, that the baby was small for how far along I was. (How they know that I don't know). I was put on bed rest and miscarried three days later, I had a DC done. In February 2009 I found out that I was almost four months pregnant with my son. I told my doctor that that was impossible due to the miscarriage. I was told that in some cases a mom can be pregnant with twins (fraternal) and one implants in the uterus later. He's almost 9 months old now and he's healthy. My husband and I were worried because I had miscarried so early and were afraid we'd lose him too. We almost lost him when he was born, but he's a fighter. I say try again, you will be scared, but there is hope.

Sarah - posted on 04/29/2010

Hi
here's my story, i hope it helps you have some hope. i misscarried at 8wks with my first pregnancy, then tried again, and had my daughter in june 2000. i got pregnant again in march 2001, and miscarried twins at 16wks. i had another miscarriage in feb 2002 (valentines day) and then had my daughter in november 2002. my next pregnancy was in 2006, and my son was born in jan 2007. we have also just had another miscarriage at 8wks. So despite 4 losses we have 3 lovely children from 7 pregnancies. we may go on and try again, but it's hard to say this early after our last loss. i think it has hit my husband a lot harder than he'd like to admit. it is always scary getting a positive pregnancy test after a loss, but you have to believe in every pregnancy. right up until my son's birth i couldn't quite believe it was all continuing, we had got so used to loss before success.

Crystal - posted on 04/11/2010

I had my first son back in 2002, then i had a miscarriage at 9 weeks gestation in 2003, then i had 3 other healthy pregnacies in 2004, 2007, and 2009. i was very scared to try again after i lost my baby, but i am very glad i did. it does not take away the pain of the lose but it does make it a little easier.

Allison - posted on 04/05/2010

Thank you so much Becky, I'm so scared about going through another heartache but I feel that it is worth it in the end. I already have one healthy child so I am very very greatful for that. It's crazy how my veiw of getting pregnant has changed. With my daughter I never even worried that I would miscarry, I was excited with each appointment and just knew everything would be great. Now I can't imagine i'll be very excited when I become pregnant again because now I know a miscarriage is very much a reality and possibility. Thanks again for your replies, they mean a lot :)

Becky - posted on 03/31/2010

I just wanted to add it is worth the heartache in the end xxx

Becky - posted on 03/31/2010

Hi Alison,

You have as much right as any person who has suffered a loss to feel upset, cross, sad, frightened etc. Everyone's loss is different and part of me (and this is going to sound awful because i can't really put it into acceptable words) is glad that it was not a child alive and breathing that loss i can only imagine is worse. However, saying that there is nothing to explain how it feels either when you take a test that feeling of excitement of wondering what the pregnancy will be like, when will you first feel them, will it be a nice/bad experience being pregnant, will it be a boy or girl, will they look like me or their dad etc etc to have that taken away before you have really had a chance to process it is awful too. It is really tough but i honestly think that for most there is a a happy ending and that for most they will have children, good luck xxx

Allison - posted on 03/19/2010

I'm so sorry for your losses Emily. It's the worst pain i've ever known but I think i'm strong enough to endure more with hope that one day I can be blessed with another child. Hope is definitely a good thing to hold onto, thank you!



Thank you Becky for your encouragement, it's good to hear there is a chance for me! My miscarriage was a very very early one. I miscarried 5 days after my missed period. I tested on the day that my period was due and got a positive. I thank God I didn't miscarry later in the pregnancy, I can't imagine how that would have felt. I sometimes feel like I don't even have a right to be as crushed and saddened by the loss because it was so so early on but I can't help it, I keep thinking of if it was a boy or a girl and if they would have looked or acted like my daugher. I keep trying to stay positive though. It's tough.

Becky - posted on 03/05/2010

Yes.
I have had many miscarriages at different stages, however I now have two perfect little pickles. Jessica is 4 and Oliver 2. Although i never ever want to experience another miscarriage i know (to a certain degree) why they may have happened.

I suffer with Polycystic Ovaries and found after a bit of research that maybe if i lost some weight, ate a better diet and improved my fitness my chances of going full term would increase. With both Jessica and Oliver i lost a lot of weight before i got pregnant and with both of them 'fell pregnant' very quickly with no problems at all. Both pregnancies were easy as well.

Of course that worked for me, that was my situation, but i know many women who have gone on to have babies after a miscarriage.

Also another point to consider is - the number of recorded miscarriages is much higher now than in previous years due to the advances in pregnancy tests, some able to test a week before your missed period. Previously woman would have been a little late for their period and maybe not registered that they maybe pregnant and then miscarried but assumed it was a heavier period than normal.

Good luck, be positive (and believe me i know that is hard) the majority of people do go onto have babies.

Emily - posted on 03/02/2010

wish i could give you a positive story but i can't. i've had 2 miscarriages in less than a year. now we have been trying for about 4 months to get pregnant again and so far no luck. my sister-in-law had a miscarriage about 4 months ago and is pregnant again so that is a success story.

just want to say good luck and i hope things go good for you. i tell myself there is always hope so stay strong.