anxiety attacks from leaving daughter with a babysitter... normal?

Melanie - posted on 09/13/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I wanted a date night with my fiance. So, we went out with some friends to the casino. I left my 3 month old daughter with our friends' son. He is almost 19, and very responsible. The entire time we were gone, I was thinking about pedophiles and how sick young men can be. I know this young man would never do anything to hurt my daughter, but it just kept coming into my head. It was the longest I have ever been away from her... We were gone for 10 hours, and I pumped some milk into bottles for her to have while we were away. I know she was in good hands and well taken care of, but I had 3 anxiety attacks while I was out. Two of them, I had to go to the bathroom so I could catch my breath. I felt like I couldn't breathe. I've never felt this way before, and I don't know if it is normal parent behavior or something I should get checked out. I don't know if it is something that I will gradually grow out of...

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Hailey - posted on 09/27/2010

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i let my daughter grandma take her for a week to scotland she is 2 and everythin went through my mind but i nw she wuld have fun u shud be worred tht wat mums do

Jennifer - posted on 09/16/2010

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I think it's normal to worry about your child when you're out, especially the first time you leave them with someone! Hell the first time I left my daughter, so I could go our to dinner with a girlfriend (only planned on being gone about 2 hours total and was only 20 minutes away) I was, quietly, freaking out in the back of my mind the whole time. And this was with her being with my own MOTHER. Did I really think anything was going to happen to her? No. Did I rush home to make sure, no, but it was a damned close thing. I still worry about her when I leave her with someone and I've ever gotten up the courage to leave her with anyone who wasn't family with the exception of the short time she was in daycare.

Worrying is normal and healthy, just don't let it stop you from having a life as well. You and your fiance need time for you too. Gradually it will get easier as she gets bigger and less fragile.

Nicole - posted on 09/15/2010

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i think it is very normal to have attacks while away from your child.. i dont know if its your first time, but i remember my fiancee and i went out for dinner, and it felt different not having the baby around and that that whats makes you panic. I had my mom babysitting. You could of just missed her because you are not used to being without her for a long time.

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