how old is too old to have a second child

Amanda - posted on 08/28/2012

i am forty five can I have a second child

Corissa - posted on 08/24/2010

do it my mother had my brothers years after me I'm 20 and they are 8 and 4 and she was 37 when she had my youngest brother and she did fine and I have no problems having younger brothers they're great

Stephanie - posted on 08/21/2010

Oh and btw....my mom and gram were pregnant the same time, my gram was 47 and my uncle is 1 month and 6 days younger than I am ;)

Stephanie - posted on 08/21/2010

Hello there! No, you're not crazy! I have struggled with this myself. I went back and forth for three years and my husband never really mentioned having another, only in fun or teasing ways. He always said he would not be opposed to another child (as he adopted my son after we got married when our son turned 4, been in his life since he was 16 months). But...I always played back and forth with the idea and just this year, two months ago actually, I went to the doc and asked her the same thing..."am I do old?", as I am 38 and she said no. Then I began to have anxiety about it and went to another doc in the same practice and she helped me realize I really did not want anymore but was trying to give my hubby the experience I thought he wanted of the birth and also just feeling normal things as my child bearing years are near the end. So...after much talking and thinking and reading up on some concerns I had and some self help stuff (because I really was very emotional about it, not having another I mean, I cried off and on for a few days)....we have decided and I have made up my mind not to. I am so lucky with my Jonny and my husband is satisfied with just him. But I say, after going thru all this, that if you look at all the aspects it really boils down to what you have going on in your life, where you want it go, and how you are physically and emotionally! It's your choice and up until age 42-45 there are still many docs that are encouraging women who are healthy, ambitious, and determined they want more at this stage of their lives to go ahead and do it!!!
What does your heart tell you and is that also in tune with your mind set? You will find the right answer as long as you look fully into it and I wish you the best with whatever you decide.

Amber - posted on 05/25/2010

Your baby is all grown up and if not already out then planning on it. So I don't think it's to old maybe 46+ though is a little weird cause then everyone thinks your the grandma instead of the mama

Tanya - posted on 05/18/2010

Go for it, 40 is the new 30:)

JENNIFER - posted on 03/25/2010

Reading all these replies make me feel young. I have 1 daughter who is going to be turning 4. I will be 36 this year and just recently had an ectopic pregnancy and had to have immediate surgery. we didn't plan on having another child so the ectopic was a surprise. i felt as though I was too old because that is what everyone kept telling me. we haven't decided to try to have another until I am fully healed. But thanks everyone for making me feel young!!

Janae' - posted on 02/25/2010

go for it.!! it may ware yu out sooner than a younger mother but heyy...they keep yu young.!!!

Charmaine - posted on 02/23/2010

do what u feel is right

Angela - posted on 02/22/2010

I will be 39 in September. My daughter will be 14 in October and I re-married last September. We would like to have a baby together - two in fact. We are trying to have a baby and can't wait for me to be pregnant!!! Go for it girlfriend!!

Alicia - posted on 02/18/2010

my mom is 38 and has a 2 1/2year old, im 19, and have a 6 month old. its weird because for out family it works. my mom and i see it as even if i dont have anymore kids, my brother and my daughter will never have the only child syndrome because they will always be close enough in age. it was weird at first..but i dont think youre too old!! if you want another baby, have one. but make sure youre not just ready because your son is grown.

Tammy - posted on 02/14/2010

I think that if you and your husband are in agreement and that if you are able to stay home and raise the baby yourself, that you should go for it. You are not too old!! I am a single mother of a 7 1/2 year old. I am 41 and his father is 54. Unfortunately, I have always had to be a working mother with my son always being cared for by someone else. This is why I say if you are able to stay home and raise your child you should do it.... You should also think about all that you were not able to becuase you had your son at such a young age. You should think about all things that you always wanted to do and never had the chance. If your son is going off to college, you now have that chance!!

Jennifer - posted on 02/12/2010

absolutely you are not crazy. i am 38 with a 4yr old & ttc # 2. have fertility issues,so not so easy to get preggos for me. i do worry ALOT about what people will say/think about my age,but i have to remember that my God knows what's best & when.

Aari - posted on 02/10/2010

I had my first at 44 and it's been the greatest blessing ever. My energy started to flag around 46, that's when I started to feel "old." I'm dying for a second child but at 47 (with a partner who's 52) I just don't think we'll be on the earth long enough for the second kid to have enough time with his/her parents. And there's the energy issue that would be a challenge with two. I'd love if my son had an 18 year older sibling to be around when we're gone.

Joanne - posted on 02/05/2010

I think its a lovely idea to want another i would die to have another child i have a 7 year old daughter and having probs ttc so on a waiting list for icsi, fingers crossed it works soon but i would still be trying if my daughter was 17, or 27 i think its a good idea to have more than one

Crystal - posted on 02/03/2010

MY SISTER'S BEST FRIEND IS 26 YEARS YOUNGER THAN HER SISTER THEY WERE NOT CLOSE AT ALL

Chilethia - posted on 01/29/2010

NO I DONT THINK YOU ARE CRAZY AT ALL. I KINDA FEEL LIKE WHEN MY DAUGHTERS 18 I WANT A SECOND CHILD AS WELL BUT THEY ARE JUST WORDS FOR NOW BUT I SAY IF YALL STILL GOT THE ENERGY AND EFFORT TO DO SO I SAY DO IT!!!!!!!!!

Kathy - posted on 12/02/2009

I am 51 with a 4 year old! I had him when I was 47! I was my doctor's oldest mom! And I have a son that is 28, so I don't think you are too old. If I was 10 years younger, I would probably have another one, so Philip could have a younger brother or sister. when I found out I was pregnant at 47! It was a blessing, but I had a very "hard" delivery. With some side affects... Incontinent, number 2, for about a year! I am fine now. But I had such a hard delivery, I had two black eyes, and incontinent number 2! wasn't very fun! LOL

Lynn - posted on 10/31/2009

My mother had two children. My brother, which turned five as of Oct 28th. and me who turned twenty five on Sept 7th. So i think it has nothing to do with age, just with how physically healthy you are. My mom was 41 when she had my brother.

Amanda - posted on 10/06/2009

i dont think your crazy, my mother had me when she was 36, i dont see anything wrong with that. If you want another baby you should go for it :)

Adrienne - posted on 09/25/2009

I was born when my parents were 43 and my sister when they were 45. I think everyone needs to decide for themselves what works for their family situation. I am 37 and we want to have more children.

Daphenne - posted on 07/09/2009

I don't think so. I actually had a similar chat with my doctor during my physical recently. I'm only 33, and was starting to panic as I thought that time was running out. She told me that she safely delivered #5 in her mid 40's, so there's still time. As others have said, talk to your partner about your feelings. They may surprise you. All the best with whatever you should decide.

Amanda - posted on 06/07/2009

it's a choice only you and your partner can make... don't worry about what others have to say!

Kimber - posted on 06/05/2009

I don't want another child, but should I change my mind I'm giving myself until the age of 40 to decide. Just my personal number. My hubby is younger than me so I'm sure he'd be fine with it. If you and your husband are up for it, I say GO FOR IT!!

Heather - posted on 04/28/2009

I say go for it! You're experienced and knowledgable about being a great Mom! Baby #2 will be lucky to have you!

Elizabeth - posted on 04/24/2009

What does your husband/significant other think? I don't think it's too old as long as you both are up for the challenge! But you have to consider all angles of the decision too! Your son is about to turn 18 and go off to college, I presume. You could travel and spend more time on things that you have possibly put to the side while raising him. Babies are great but they keep you busy, that's for sure!