my child is not spoiled

Tanisha - posted on 03/31/2009 ( 18 moms have responded )

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I get so tired of hearing that my child is spoiled. I chose to only have 1 and it will remain that way. I have friends and family that love to tell me that my child is spoiled. Not my fault they decited to have more then one. get off my back

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Kerry - posted on 09/03/2009

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Urgh! I HATE that. I've actually found that with some folks, the response - my child might be spoiled, but yours are neglected! works wonders. It helps them make the (apparently challenging for some) mental leap that since their kids aren't neglected, even being numerous, mine might not actually be spoiled.

It makes me angry that people with no children are called selfish, people with one child are accused of having spoiled children... my SIL has 4 children that actually are poorly cared for - for some reason, no one complains about that.

My daughter is one of the most polite, charming kids I know - because she loves people. She's incredibly generous, and thoughtful. Maybe that's because we have time to spend with her to model those behaviours, and to appreciate them when she reciprocates...hmmm... if that's spoiled, then I'm glad she is.

Sheryl - posted on 07/26/2009

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i am told constantly by family that my 9 year old daughter is spoiled,she is my only child and i don't plan on having anymore.i feel at the end of the day she is my child and they way i bring her up is up to me,she is my world and as long as shes happy so am i.

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Tiffany - posted on 06/11/2010

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A lot of people tell me that our son is spoiled. It's the way they say it that bothers me. Like if I give him what he wants, I get people shaking their head and saying that he's spoiled. It bothers me because what am I supposed to do? Ignore Him? No way!! he doesn't throw fits or anything if we say no, but still. People have different opinions I guess.

Joni - posted on 04/17/2010

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My son is 9 month and he is spoiled. I also have a niece and two nephews that are also spoiled. I have helped spoil all of them and I will admit that I do spoil my son but I am a 32 yr old mom that was told for about 14 yrs that I couldn't have children so I am going to spoil him. I don't think there is anything wrong with spoiling your child if you can.

Shayna - posted on 03/07/2010

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Our son is spoiled, I'll definitely without a doubt will admit that. I will not allow him by no means to act like a brat because of it. He is a very good kid, well mannered & friendly to all people. We can afford to spoil him though & I personally enjoy it a little too much. I always give to less fortunate, so I feel no shame at all!!

Ronda - posted on 12/29/2009

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I think it just comes with the territory of having only one and since there only being one child there is no need to worry about evening out the attention and gift giving. I only have one who is only 6 months old and has enough toys to fill her own closet, room and even more in storage. Not to mention all the clothes she has, along with the 3 car seats she has. Obviously she will get a lot from myself, friends and family because there is no need to make sure another child is jealous! I love it and maybe later on I will have another but for now we are happy with our one daughter and all the nice things we are blessed to be able to supply her with.

Renae - posted on 12/04/2009

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My baby is only 9 months, we are not having another. He has every toy under the sun. My playgroup mums comment that playgroup should be held at my house because of the 3 different activity centres (one bounces, one talks and one is a sit-down one), the bouncer, the jolly jumper, the 2 swings (different), the ball pit, the sand pit, the kick piano, the toy barking dog, dancing monkey, the musical instruments, oh I could be here forever.



So what, yes I know he's got everything and I should have bought shares in fisher price or leap frog! But he's my baby and I'm allowed to buy it for him. I don't care if other people think he's spoilt, he's only a baby he doesn't know anyway! And I will probably continue to spoil him, so what if his house is the cool house with all the toys? Am I wrong?

Sharalyn - posted on 11/24/2009

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Just because you can give anything and everything to your child without thinking twice or having to buy something else for the other kid or spending time with the other just to appease them? Gimmie a break. We only have one kid! I think they wish they only had one kid to 'spoil' themselves instead of being so overly stressed out with more than one child. I absolutely love being a mom of one. If we decide to have another, that will be fine but definetly not anytime soon. I don't mind 'spoiling' my baby. She deserves it!

Cindy - posted on 08/29/2009

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I get told a lot the my 3yr is spoiled and he gets everything that he wants. I do spoil my son every once in a while when he does the things that he is asked (like pick his toys up...easy stuff). But the funny thing is my father lives with us and gets my son a toy every day and now my son thinks he has to have one and I will not buy one everyday and because my father has him this way other family members blame me for this. Like I told them my father is a grown man I have asked him not to give in and buy him a toy everyday, but what am I to do. my son may be a little spoiled, but at least he has respect he says thank you, yes please and others and I have older family m'bers kids that are rude and don't say thanks at all. So if my son being a little spoiled bothers you so much then lets trade a week and I will teach your child manners.

Sondia - posted on 08/24/2009

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i agree with you....i have 1 daughter and only 1 daughter because that is what i want. i always said if i was to have a child i wanted it to be 1 girl and to make sure of it i have the essure...no more baby's for me...everyone is like oh u need to have her a lil bro or sis and ewwww weeeee she is going to be spoiled and i say...SO!! i was the only child for 15 years and I am spoiled and I know it but they say it like its a bad thing...

Ilene - posted on 07/21/2009

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I had a relative tell me this once...he's my only kid, why is buying him things once in a while and taking him to classes spoiling him? (yes, it was even noted, that I take him to gymboree classes and that was "spoiling him".

Olivia - posted on 07/11/2009

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I love this group. My daughter is 9 and others think she is spoiled. She is my only one (but she has half bros and sis) that are way older than her and she rarely sees. My colleagues probably feel that she is spoiled, but I train her correctly. She is no bully or teaser amongst her classmates. We love our lone children. That is all that matters. I will continue smothering my one with my attention and if I can help it, the desires of her heart.

Kicsha - posted on 06/30/2009

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People tell me my daughter is spoiled all the time. I tell them so what. She is 5 and she is a fashion diva. I love to dress her up and take her to new and exciting places. I taught her to be respectful to adults and not to talk back. She knows that she will not get what she wants all the time, but if she is good mommy will try her best.

Jenny - posted on 05/25/2009

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I am only child myself and only have one child and that's how it's going to stay. When I meet new ppl the 1st thing they ask me is was i spolit as a child. The answer is no! I'm only having one child because I whant to give all my love and attention to my child and feel that if I had more than one child at some point in each day my whole attention will be shiffted to one child and not the other. When I meet ppl who have siblings I don't ask did you at some point think your parents ignored you for one of your siblings?! I only have one child because I know I'll be a better mum than having 2 what's wrong with that???? x

Latavia - posted on 05/02/2009

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my son is 8 and i get the same thing. it was so bad that i would get into arguments with some of my friends because i am always buying things for my son. he is my only so i can splurge when i get ready. keep doing what you do best for you and yours!

Cardhia - posted on 04/05/2009

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I hear that...everyone always tells me that my son is spoiled or he's going to be a momma's boy. He's not even 1 yet and of course he likes being with me...I take good care of him everyday...don't hate because he loves his momma. I might have another child down the road but right now he is my focus.

Cardhia - posted on 04/05/2009

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I hear that...everyone always tells me that my son is spoiled or he's going to be a momma's boy. He's not even 1 yet and of course he likes being with me...I take good care of him everyday...don't hate because he loves his momma. I might have another child down the road but right now he is my focus.

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