Proud of being a mom with only one child!!

Tanya - posted on 01/18/2010 ( 35 moms have responded )

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Hello ladies!
I'm so proud to be a mom of only one with no regrets! My dd is healthy and happy with well developed social skills. I love having the opportunity to spend individual time with my child and I like the benefits of having one child. There are several... :) Ladies, what do you love about having only one child? What makes your child so special? You can brag all you want in this conversation... :)
Enjoy your day!!

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Sian - posted on 08/22/2012

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This is so refreshing to see I got married almost 3 weeks ago and have had people asking me non stop when we are going to have another baby but I'm happy with just one I may change my mind but won't be for a while my son is 3 (4 in feb) starting nursery in september and he is coming to that age where you can have fun with him and have a chat with him, his fully toilet trained he is a very independent and happy little boy so why the hell would I want to have another one and go through all the dirty nappies, sleepless nights etc etc all over again no thanks plus we're not in a financial position for a 2nd when we are I may reconsider but for now I wish everyone would bog off lol x

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Kim - posted on 03/23/2014

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I want to add, My son is a homebody and we have so much fun. Sure I worry he isn't in more activities. But he is happy, healthy and loves being with us. I'm glad to hear their are other proud moms of 1!

Kim - posted on 03/23/2014

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I have a step daughter in college and I have a 13 year old son. It doesn't matter how many kids you have even if it is only one. Don't worry what other people think, because I know from experience, don't ask if you don't want to know the answer. I have been hurt by not having more. Well, I can't. God blessed me with one. But I also live in the moment and don't let my mind worry what tomorrow will bring. I am almost 50, so I think that has something to do with living in the moment. Pay attention to your child and their needs and you will know. Never worry. I always get told, God gives you what you can handle.

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Tilly - posted on 12/27/2013

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To all intents and purposes my son is an only child, his sibling is 12 years older than him and away at University. Not only is he an 'only' child, he is also a very 'lonely' child, which breaks my heart. No matter how much time I am able to invest in him, I will never make up for him having a sibling to play with. Not everyone has lots of other kids to play with on their 'block'.

I would never choose to have one child based on my personal experience - children need similar age company for them to truly have fun.

Sue - posted on 07/30/2013

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My little one is 3 1/2, knows her alphabet, is reading, counts to 20, is very sweet, considerate and caring and I know all of that is due to her having so much attention from mom and dad because of being an only child. She has been well advanced since pretty much the beginning, and is a very well behaved child. She might have a lot of things, but she is not spoiled. She knows that if we pick up a toy at the store, if she misbehaves it goes back. She also is very good about not getting a reward every time we go to the store and that makes her appreciate it that much more if she gets a book, toy, horse ride or a pack of juice boxes. :) Very proud parent of my only.

Amy - posted on 09/30/2012

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I can't imagine having more than one child. It wouldbe impossible. Im busy all day long with my omly child. Shes four yearls old and keeps me on my toes. plus I get to know special things about her that we take the time to talk about. She gets more individualized attention. I only wanted one child. and a girl. and I got both!

Amber - posted on 08/22/2012

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I totally agree, you see these moms with a house full of kids and they are stressed and exhausted, stuck at home with a fussy baby all the time. My one and only is 5 and we are definately done and proud of it, I like your way of thinking:)

Sinclairbrooks - posted on 08/02/2012

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I am actually just repeating a comment I put in another post asking if I felt guilty for having only one child. HECK NO!!!! I LOVE IT!!!

I have never felt guilty or felt the need to have another child (I had my son when I was 40 - and he was planned after several years of marriage). I have a 5 year old son and he is and will be an only child. He has never brought up the issue of wanting a sibling or asking if he was going to have a sibling. He is well adjusted, well mannered, polite, bright.. He is very social & loves to play with other kids (just about any age), Mom & Dad. He also enjoys playing by himself & has quite the imagination. I pick him up from daycare around 2:30 in the afternoon (3:20 from school once he starts Kindergarten this year) & his dad gets home around 4:45, so that time between is usually filled with us talking, having a snack, "hanging out", him helping doing a few "chores", crafts, projects, getting a bath or shower in, and playing some by himself. When Dad gets home, they play for about 45 minutes before dinner at 5:45, then after dinner we all help clear the table & then we have some quiet time (books, puzzle, board game) before bedtime routine starts around 7:10. The weekends are usually doing stuff around the house while he plays by himself and helps with some of it, then we do the library, errands, pool, park, have a friend over, etc.... He really doesn't have time to be lonely or bored. We have a pretty simple, but full life. Lots of love and he is happy!

Susan - posted on 07/31/2012

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Well, I just had my first and she's just lovely. I'm in my mid-thirties and I know I only have a few years left, but honestly, I'm ok with waiting to have a second child. I just want to be able to enjoy all the time with my first child, then eventually have another (maybe) when she gets a little older, is potty trained and all that. And if a second doesn't happen, it doesn't happen.

Mommalove - posted on 07/05/2012

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i am proud to have only one my son is almost 7 months now and i love him dearly, but i do not think i want another one.

La Juan - posted on 06/02/2012

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I LOVE having one child. When i was pregnant, i prayed & asked God for a girl & that' s, what he gave me. My daughter just turned 18, May 31st, 2012 & she just graduated from high school, May 29th & will be starting college in the fall!!! WOOOO HOOOO!!! IT' S A GREAT FEELING, NOT HAVING ANY MORE BABIES! I feel free & blessed, my daughter father has been in her life from the first day, she was concieved.. GOD IS GOOD ALL THE TIME & I' M HAPPY AS, YOU KNOW WHAT!!! LOL!!! No worries at all & i' m going to enjoy my life & travel & be FREE!!! My daughter is very spoild & she deserve to be. I don' t have to worry about sibling arguments & niether does, my daughter!!! I' m also happy i had my daughter, when i was 22 yrs old!!! I' m 40 yrs old, young & healthy. I can really be free & enjoy every minute of NOT HAVING ANY MORE KIDDOS!!!

Amber - posted on 04/01/2012

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I ABSOLUTELY LOVE HAVING AN ONLY CHILD AND IT WILL STAY THAT WAY, AS I'VE HAD A HYSTERECTOMY. NO TEARS HERE, JUST EXCITEMENT FOR OUR ADVENTURES AS A FAMILY OF 3. MY DS WILL BE 5 IN APRIL, WE WILL BE TAKING HIM TO DISNEY WORLD FOR THE SECOND TIME ON HIS BIRTHDAY. WITH ONLY ONE CHILD, YOU DON'T HAVE TO HEAR THE ARGUING AND FIGHTING OVER TOYS, FOOD, CLOTHES, PARENTS' LOVE AND ATTENTION, ETC. IN MY OPINION, IF YOU HAVE ONE CHILD, YOU TRULY HAVE THE BEST OF BOTH WORLDS, YOU KNOW THE MOST SPECIAL LOVE OF ALL AND THAT'S THAT OF A CHILD, BUT YOU ALSO CAN STILL HAVE "ME" TIME OR COUPLE TIME WITH THE HUBBY. MY MOM PRACTICALLY BEGS US TO LET HER BABYSIT, AND IN A COUPLE OF YEARS, HUBBY AND I WILL BE GOING BACK TO VEGAS AND LET MY MOM KEEP OUR LITTLE MAN FOR A WEEK IN THE SUMMER, SINCE SHE TEACHES SCHOOL, SHE IS COUNTING DOWN FOR THAT TIME. I'M A NURSE AND MY HUSBAND IS A GROCERY MGR, SO WE DON'T FEEL SO GUILTY ABOUT WORKING FULL-TIME BECAUSE OUR LIL MAN KNOWS THAT HE HAS OUR UNDIVIDED ATTENTION WHEN WE ARE NOT WORKING. HE'S HAPPY, WELL-ROUNDED, HAS HIS OWN ROOM, BATHROOM AND PLAYROOM, AND BY NATURE, HE'S ACTUALLY A PEOPLE PLEASER, YES, WHEN WE GO TO THE PARK, HE'LL STEP OUT OF THE WAY AND LET A 2 YR OLD LIL GIRL GO AHEAD OF HIM, SUCH A GENTLEMAN. I HAVE FRIENDS WITH 3 AND 4 KIDS AND THEY ARE ALWAYS STUCK AT HOME, CLEANING, DOING LAUNDRY, PAYING BILLS, SCRAPPING, ETC. NO THANKS, WE LOVE OUR LIFE AS A FAMILY OF 3 PLUS OUR DOGGIE DAUGHTER. IT'S SO SAD WHEN YOU SEE KIDS PILED IN ONE ROOM BECAUSE THEIR PARENTS CAN'T ADEQUATELY PROVIDE FOR THEM. I COULD NOT DO THAT TO A CHILD. THANKS SO MUCH FOR LETTING US SHARE OUR LOVE FOR OUR ONLY CHILD!!!

Ash - posted on 03/22/2012

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My son is my FAVORITE!!! haha no taboo about that in my home, lol. No sibling fights!! Those are so annoying and draining, I have 2 nieces and a nephew and whenever we babysit they bicker and fight ALL THE TIME!! Thank God I don't deal with that :D



I also LOVE my 'me time' haha, I enjoy so much doing things by myself for myself and with more kids I would have less or none at all and that would make me frustrated and stressd out

Supriya - posted on 03/12/2012

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Yup other reasons also r so true...thankfully no sibling rivalries..in case the sibs dont get along well...no such tensions..neither later sibling burdens(as we have some such examples in our near relations)

And having a girl...I just love dressing her up, for sure all mums do!!

Supriya - posted on 03/12/2012

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I suppose, all parents opting for only one would have almost the same reasons..mine come here-

love the time availability with her

no sharing - be it time or attention or leisures

no financial sharing either..we can spend willingly for her ..she goes to one of the best schools..attends activities..we have fortnight weekend outs..we can spare for her to help the needy...we can give her better oppurtunities for education and in case she wishes to begin some business henceforth..we can save for our oldage and so would not be a burden on her later..HOPEFULLY all these n more :-)

AND cos of all above, we can cut down on our work time and push that to Sam(dd) time ;-)!!

Erica - posted on 12/27/2011

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I am a mother of one beautiful little girl. She I s my world. I'm just fine having one child. It does not make you less of a parent because you only have one. In many cases it makes you more. Because you know your limits. I love that I'm able to do more for her. I would not be able if I had another. It's fun to play with her. To have that one on one. Love you SHAINA!!!!

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Hello! For the fellow mommy wondering if the son is gonna miss out on siblings, please don't! I grew up as an only child and looooove it! Yes, I accept it, I would like help to take care (when the time comes) of my beloved parents....but as of right now, I got attention, love, time, and a wonderful career that they were able to provide because, it was just me! I didn't have to fight for it, or for clothes or had any resentment. I just knew love.
I also have just one little princess that will be three in a couple of weeks. She is the love of our lives and we can afford things that we wouldn't if it was two or three kids around the house. I love to put her to beddie, tuck her in, sing a song, and kiss her nite nite.....as well as sometimes sleeping with her without worrying about spliting time, love and attention. It break her heart!

Only children rule! (And the very unselfish parents that love them unconditionally!)

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I love it, I can dedicate all the time in the world to my baby but still be my individual self, without worrying that Im not spending enough time with every child. I can plan things that I want to do just based around him and I. I am so blessed that I have a healthy baby boy. I love it and I love being able to give him what he needs and not worrying about if it was fair or not

Kendra - posted on 11/13/2010

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It is so nice to see so many other mom's that are okay with only having one baby! Our family is always asking "When's the next one due" and look at us funny when we explain our reasons for not wanting another. My son is also a well-adjusted happy little guy. He is also VERY busy and wears me out every day. How could I leave such little energy for a new baby? Nevermind , eneregy but patience! I have just enough for Josh, who is almost 2.

Jennifer - posted on 11/07/2010

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I love having just my daughter, Peyton. She is the light in my world and I love the extra time that only she gets. I'm a working, single mom, so I don't have a ton of time to begin with after work and trying to split that time with more than one child...I just think no one would get the attention they need.

I am constantly being told that she's old enough to have a sibling and I just look at people like they are stupid. I mean, really....another one! I am a SINGLE mother, no one is handing me money to raise my child and I surely can't afford another. My family is a wonderous help with her as far as babysitting and the amount of time they spend with her....but diapers and formula don't just grow on the tree in the backyard.

I also get the whole, "Well you might meet Mr. Right and change your mind," line. I HATE that so my response to it is, "If he's MY Mr. Right, he won't want any." lol

Morgan - posted on 07/01/2010

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I'm so happy that I'm not the only one who feels that one child is enough. My son is 2 and is my everything. I also helped raise my 2 nephews so I have no desire to have more than one. I enjoy being able to take him places and being able to see him experience things. I'm like many of you who get tired of hearing that they need a playmate or you should have a girl that way you have one of each. I had thought about having another but once I looked the big picture of things, I didn't need to have another child.

My son has fulfilled my life in so many ways. My one worry has been is he going to miss out by not having any siblings. I had 2 older brothers and I couldn't picture not having them in my life. It's something that I think about while I watch him play alone but he seems so content that I stop thinking about it and join in with him.

He is such a smart, fun, independent little man. I love you Damian!!





Wanted to add to this. My son is now 4 and has grown in so many ways. I still feel the same way now as I did 2 years ago. I still don't feel the need to have another child. My son is happy, humerous, smart, loving, and very well adjusted. I couldn't imagine having more than one and having to split my time between 2 kids. I know that may sound selfish but I have always wondered how my son would feel if I did have another. I have asked if he wanted a brother or sister and he always tells me no. Guess he wants to be an only child and I am happy to oblige.

Jolene - posted on 06/08/2010

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I love only having one! I find it so irritating when people use the "children need playmates" excuse to say you should have more. Really?? I should have another baby so the one I have now has someone to play with?? That doesn't seem like a very good reason to have another to me! Plus my daughter is very close with her 2 cousins and sees them A LOT! And they are all 1 year apart from eachother.
Other then that, my husband and I really do enjoy our freedom. We don't want to lose any of our freedoms we gain back by our child getting older, just to start all over with a second one. Some people say this is selfish, but I wasn't aware woman needed to be committed to being baby makers their entire life.
I love giving my all to my daughter, and would feel horrible to have to take that away from her.
In all, we love our little family!

Samantha - posted on 06/04/2010

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I love the idea of only having one which is my beautiful baby girl. But she has a serious heart problem so we have a lot of quality time together!!! So the answer is I LOVE IT!!!

Tanya - posted on 04/27/2010

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Ladies...you rock!! I love reading your stories!! It's very refreshing and it's great to know other moms are pleased with their one and only sweetie. :)

Chezronda - posted on 04/12/2010

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so far, I love only having one! there is so much more time to spend with them, when there is only one! I have a 2 year old son, and he is my world! ;-) and I agree with you Brittney about people having favorites amongst their children. I dont understand how anyone could say that when you give birth to them all, they should be loved equally! They will always be different from the other, but thats the best part!

Brittney - posted on 04/11/2010

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Yea I have 1..and I plan on keeping it that way..lol Im 24 so my mom would like to believe there will be more in the future..BUT honestly 1 of the main reasons I dnt want anymore is because..I dnt think I can love another child like I love my son..Im sure it might sound bad but there were times when I felt my siblings were favored over me..although my parents would tell me.."of course not"..but I have friends wit 2 or 3..and they tlk about their "favorite" child..and I think thats horrible..and besides havin a baby wus a lot of paperwork..and I hate paperwork..lol..seriously this is a very serious nd tidious job..and 1 is enough for me!!

Cindy - posted on 04/11/2010

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I'm glad I only have one child too! Thats what I'vve always wanted. Even when back when I was a teenager I said i want 1 kid and I want it to be a boy. And low and behold I got it !!

People keep looking down upon me though asking me why I only want 1 child and why I dont want anymore. They are always making me feel bad.

I tell them because #1 it's more affordable, Why have more than one kid if you know for an absolute fact you just cannot afford it.

#2 I just straight up dont want to do the whole pregnant thing again. My first pregnancy was absolutely horrible I had puked litterally everyday for the first 3 months of it (not exaggerating). I even at one point fainted because I puked so much. It was HELL.

#3 I can barely handle my one child sometimes. and I think it's good that I realize I wouldn't be able to handle more than one kid rather than have 2 ore 3 and be in over my head.

#4 I really truely do love being able to put all my attention into one child and having my one and only little boy Logan. :)

KAT - posted on 03/25/2010

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I LOVE MY DAUGHTER, SHE'S ONLY 1 NOW BUT BELIEVE IT OR NOT SHE'S REALLY FUN TO BE WITH, SHE LOVES TO SMILE AND LAUGH I CANT GET ENOUGH OF HER SHE'S JUST A HAPPY BABY WITH A BIG PERSONALITY I LOVE IT.

Christine - posted on 02/15/2010

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I love spending a lot of one on one time with my son. I love spoiling him and giving him treats when he is being really good. I love that the only other person he has to compete with for my attention is my husband(guess who wins lol) I love how easy it is to get one kid ready as opposed to how it might be with 2 or more. I would hate to have to take that away from him. I like having the extra money to buy him nice clothes. I like knowing that when he gets older and into sports(like hockey which isn't cheap) then my husband and I won't have to decide "ok if Logan gets to play hockey, then are we going to have enough money for the other kid to play too?" or worse, if the other one gets to play anything. Thats why I love having one!! You have a good day too!! :)

Ilene - posted on 02/04/2010

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We have no sibling arguments, jealousy, and all the stuff that comes with siblings. My son is six and is happy and adjusted. He is asking for a dog since he knows we don't plan to have another child, but at almost 43, I just can't see having another child. I hated being pregnant. My son is a little spoiled being the only one, but isn't arrogant about it. I recently got rid of a bunch of old clothing...so I'm really hoping we don't start over....lol.

Chilethia - posted on 01/29/2010

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I LOVE NOT ONLY HAVING ONE CHILD BUT THE FACT THAT SHE IS A GIRL WAS MY BLESSING CAUSE I NEW IF I GOT MY GIRL FIRST. THAT I NEW FOR A FACT THAT I WASNT HAVING ANYMORE CHILDREN, MY DAUGHTER IS NOW 11YEARS OLD SO IT LOOKS LIKE ME NOT HAVING NO MORE IS STILL A FACT,,LOL BUT I LOVE THAT SHE HAVE MY PERSONALITY,ESPECIALLY MY ATTUIDE ITS SASSY AND HER MOUTH CAN BE SARCASTIC SO NOT ONLY DO SHE GOT THE LOOK BUT MY DAUGHTER(buggy) GOT BRAINS, AND ATTUIDE. I LOVE YOU SALIYAH

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